I've been wanting to be a nurse be a nurse for so long now. But, what am I? Nothing but a wife and mother. I wake up; get ready for work; get my son ready for school; go to work at a boring insurance company; pick up my son from school; stop at the grocery store; cook dinner; help my son with his homework; wash a few loads of clothes; clean & organize; go to school; and try to make time to study. My gpa sucks because I can't study as much as I need because I have so much other crap to deal with. I make time for everyone else except ME! When am I going to get a break and take time out to pursue my dreams? I have $15K in student loans currently, and have no degree. We make to much for me to get financial aid and because our bills are souring out of control, I have to work fulltime. I was accepted to BSN program and was supposed to start this Jan but because I had trouble with Stats, I had to postpone NS until 2010. I am so depressed right now, it's unbelievable. My situation might seem like nothing (some may say it's "the norm") but I'm tired. Tired of putting everyone's feelings, needs, and wants ahead of mine. All I wanna do is go to school for a couple of years, get my degree, then come back (mentally) and be the wife and mother that I'm supposed to be. Life sucks.
I want to flip the script a little bit and encourage all of my young, single, girls and guys, to do IT while you can. Please do not wait until you are dealing with familyhood and decide to go back to school (nursing school at that!) I've read so many post on here where folks have worked 2 jobs, had 4 boys, went to school fulltime, and graduated with a 4.0. Well good for you! I envy you. I wish I could.
A few people suggested a community college ADN program, because its faster and much cheaper. This is very true, but I think a lot of people overlooked something else: If you got accepted into a BSN program, there's a good chance you have already completed most of the general ed classes required for an associates degree. The significance of this is that you would have fewer classes to take in any given semester. For example, I had an associates degree before I decided to go for nursing, so I have already completed all of the "side classes" [sociology, public speaking, etc] that go with an ADN program. As a result, the only classes I have to take for an ADN are the core nursing classes themselves, meaning I will never have to be a full time student, and I can still have my ADN in the same amount of time as people going full-time starting from scratch. If you have completed a lot of general ed, then I would seriously consider an ADN program. It will be faster, and help save your sanity [less stress].
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don't ever underestimate the role you have as a wife and mother. these are two positions that are far more important than any nursing job.
i feel the pain you are going through. i have been working at my rn degree for 14 years now..and still no go. i been through obstacles that most wouldn't make it past...homeless with kids, woman's shelter for abused women , breaking in homes and stealing food...you name it ive done it ...all i ever wanted to be was a nurse. i will graduate in the spring and become a rn and you can do it as well... when i decided to go to school i jumped right in and did it, reduced my way of living and forgo the fancy stuff... i reduced myself from two incomes down to one, a weekend working 32 get paid for 40 as a lvn that leaves my week open for studying. we bought a cheap mobile home and got rid of the car payments....we have 6 kids and this allows us not only to be available for our kids but gives us freedom during the week for school...
don't ever say it cant be done ..cause i'm here to tell you it can.oh and i brought my gpa up from a 1.7 to a 3.25....took a while but i did it..graduated last saturday with my bachelors in government and sociology ..will graduate with my asn in the spring..i will be a rn, set your mind to it and you will to....good luck
I've been wanting to be a nurse be a nurse for so long now. But, what am I? Nothing but a wife and mother. I wake up; get ready for work; get my son ready for school; go to work at a boring insurance company; pick up my son from school; stop at the grocery store; cook dinner; help my son with his homework; wash a few loads of clothes; clean & organize; go to school; and try to make time to study. My gpa sucks because I can't study as much as I need because I have so much other crap to deal with. I make time for everyone else except ME! When am I going to get a break and take time out to pursue my dreams? I have $15K in student loans currently, and have no degree. We make to much for me to get financial aid and because our bills are souring out of control, I have to work fulltime. I was accepted to BSN program and was supposed to start this Jan but because I had trouble with Stats, I had to postpone NS until 2010. I am so depressed right now, it's unbelievable. My situation might seem like nothing (some may say it's "the norm") but I'm tired. Tired of putting everyone's feelings, needs, and wants ahead of mine. All I wanna do is go to school for a couple of years, get my degree, then come back (mentally) and be the wife and mother that I'm supposed to be. Life sucks.
I want to flip the script a little bit and encourage all of my young, single, girls and guys, to do IT while you can. Please do not wait until you are dealing with familyhood and decide to go back to school (nursing school at that!) I've read so many post on here where folks have worked 2 jobs, had 4 boys, went to school fulltime, and graduated with a 4.0. Well good for you! I envy you. I wish I could.
Maybe it is time to talk to your husband...I know how you feel though I dont think I could be only wife and a mother to feel fulfilled with life....With that said if I had to choose I would definitely choose my husband and kids~~they come first to any career!!
Be patient, good things come to those who wait. You have to discuss your feelings with your family and work out a plan with them. One of my friends and nursing school have 2 children, she was laid off from work and only her husband is working. It was not easy for her, but she passed this semester and has one left to graduate. There are people with children in every nursing program who are making it. If they can, you can to. Life is not easy, you have to have patience and perseverence. All things are possible to those who believe. Good luck to you.
Maybe it is time to talk to your husband...I know how you feel though I dont think I could be only wife and a mother to feel fulfilled with life....With that said if I had to choose I would definitely choose my husband and kids~~they come first to any career!!
Do you have a husband and kids?
To the OP: My kids were teens when I went to NS, and I worked full time as well. I cannot imagine working and going to NS with young children. Some of my classmates did it, but they had a tremendous amount of support from their spouses and their families. It sounds to me like you need more support if you are going to do this. Have you had a sit down talk with your husband about this? What did he say?
To the OP: My kids were teens when I went to NS, and I worked full time as well. I cannot imagine working and going to NS with young children. Some of my classmates did it, but they had a tremendous amount of support from their spouses and their families. It sounds to me like you need more support if you are going to do this. Have you had a sit down talk with your husband about this? What did he say?
No but I can share many stories of my many friends in nursing schools...some had supportive husbands who took over taking care of the kids and other duties,some had less understanding hubbies who demanded attention from their busy wifes but still ended up saving their marriages.
So I'm going to ask you what is your point of asking me if I have kids or am I married.
One doesnt need to experience motherhood and marriage to know their ambition.If I wanted to have a husband and kids I arleady would,thanks!~~~
To the OP,just remember everyone struggles in nursing school,singles,divorced,married...
I've been wanting to be a nurse be a nurse for so long now. But, what am I? Nothing but a wife and mother. I wake up; get ready for work; get my son ready for school; go to work at a boring insurance company; pick up my son from school; stop at the grocery store; cook dinner; help my son with his homework; wash a few loads of clothes; clean & organize; go to school; and try to make time to study. My gpa sucks because I can't study as much as I need because I have so much other crap to deal with. I make time for everyone else except ME! When am I going to get a break and take time out to pursue my dreams? I have $15K in student loans currently, and have no degree. We make to much for me to get financial aid and because our bills are souring out of control, I have to work fulltime. I was accepted to BSN program and was supposed to start this Jan but because I had trouble with Stats, I had to postpone NS until 2010. I am so depressed right now, it's unbelievable. My situation might seem like nothing (some may say it's "the norm") but I'm tired. Tired of putting everyone's feelings, needs, and wants ahead of mine. All I wanna do is go to school for a couple of years, get my degree, then come back (mentally) and be the wife and mother that I'm supposed to be. Life sucks.
I want to flip the script a little bit and encourage all of my young, single, girls and guys, to do IT while you can. Please do not wait until you are dealing with familyhood and decide to go back to school (nursing school at that!) I've read so many post on here where folks have worked 2 jobs, had 4 boys, went to school fulltime, and graduated with a 4.0. Well good for you! I envy you. I wish I could.
right there with ya sister. I hear ya...I am in the same situation. If you ever want to talk or just want to ***** about the everyday stressors of famiylife and sacrificing your desires for everyone else, while noone seems to notice how much of it gets taken for granted. I know I am there myself. I uunderstand. I feel soo selfish for even wanting to finish NS becuase I am the glue in my family. I have made more personal sacrifices for my family. I have 2 kids and a husband who does not notice how much of myself i sacrafice. He thinks he's the only one.
How about we make a pact to be each others support system? we can brain storm and bounce ideas off each other on how to start and finish NS and find the balance between NS and family life ?
If you are hoping that being a nurse is going to "define" you in some critical way then you are likely to be disappointed. I get very worried when people describe themselves currently "as only (whatever)". If you don't feel like you are enough now, I doubt you will feel better about yourself because your job description changes. Just sayin!
A happy mum makes happy children. And the husband might get lucky, too.
I found that I needed to teach my husband some things 'the hard way', he played along eventually, and now he's enjoying it. My kid is fine. And i'm nearly there.
Good luck and use the time wisely. The time for chores done properly will be something to relish during holidays.
If you don't feel like you are enough now, I doubt you will feel better about yourself because your job description changes. Just sayin!
I do feel that if you are unhappy with your career then that makes you an unhappy person (whether you express that or not). Therefore, I do believe that if I were a registered nurse, I would feel better about myself and would be able to give my family what they deserve; a happy wife and mother.
If you are hoping that being a nurse is going to "define" you in some critical way then you are likely to be disappointed. I get very worried when people describe themselves currently "as only (whatever)". If you don't feel like you are enough now, I doubt you will feel better about yourself because your job description changes. Just sayin!
that is not what she is saying. I believe that what she is saying is that she has a void that she needs to fulfill and that void is nursing. Not that she thinks it will make her life easier or define herself in some way, but the feeling of not being whole, missing something in life that would fulfill her as a person, wife, mother, woman ect. and that would be acheiving her dreams, her own success, something that she would be able to do for herself as well as her family, her accomplishments, noone elses. Hers alone. Family support would make raeaching that dream and desire so much easier. you would have more time to devote to school if you have a supportive family who knows and understands the sacrifices that it takes for nursing school. I can understand wanting to put forth 100% effort. Of course with family you will have to make time for them, but if they are understanding and self reliant then they can see the determination and the desire to do it. And there is the frustration that it may be soo far out of reach that you may never achieve it. You want something soo bad and you can't obtain it because of all the demands put on you as a wife, mother, employee, ect...when all you want to do is be a NS to fulfill your own desires and have that be your biggest demand. Not that family is not demanding, but when you have a husband and kids, and they all want your attention at the same time, you are less focused on yourself and school. And it is frustrating.
I'm right there with ya girl, I know. It's hard and it's frustrating and you wonder when will it ever be my turn to shine ??
Plenty of nights I have cried to my hubby about wanting to finish NS and plenty of times I looked at him with resentment because of it. Althought it was my choice to be with him. I look back on it now and I think. If I would have stayed I would have been a nurse by now, but I wanted to be with him and I figured I would start over with NS (since I left 1 month before I would have started). Time got away from me and then came marriage, bills & kids and I lost my dream somewhere along the way..But I had never lost my desire or my ambition for it. It's a struggle when your family depends on you to be there finacially, emotionally, mentally. They depend on you to be there 100% of the time for them. I love my family and would not trade them for the world, I love my husband I just wish he would understand my dreams and my desire to become a nurse. I want my kids to see that no matter what, you can be whatever you want to be. And if I can't go back to school for nursing, what kind of example am I showing my kdis?
I'm sorry for hijaking your thread. i understand you 100%.
I do feel that if you are unhappy with your career then that makes you an unhappy person (whether you express that or not). Therefore, I do believe that if I were a registered nurse, I would feel better about myself and would be able to give my family what they deserve; a happy wife and mother.
Thanks for the clarification. You have to admit though, that when you consider the statement "But, what am I? Nothing but a wife and mother.", its understandable that TakeTwoAspirin would arrive at the conclusion which s/he did....
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A few people suggested a community college ADN program, because its faster and much cheaper. This is very true, but I think a lot of people overlooked something else: If you got accepted into a BSN program, there's a good chance you have already completed most of the general ed classes required for an associates degree. The significance of this is that you would have fewer classes to take in any given semester. For example, I had an associates degree before I decided to go for nursing, so I have already completed all of the "side classes" [sociology, public speaking, etc] that go with an ADN program. As a result, the only classes I have to take for an ADN are the core nursing classes themselves, meaning I will never have to be a full time student, and I can still have my ADN in the same amount of time as people going full-time starting from scratch. If you have completed a lot of general ed, then I would seriously consider an ADN program. It will be faster, and help save your sanity [less stress].