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by jdstga jdstga (New) New

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I have a male coworker who is intimidating me, who is violating my personal space and when I ask him to move he tells me nobody's doing anything to me.

This is not the first instance of I've had with this man, I've tried to take it to my boss and I'm told that that's just the way he is and not to take offense.

I feel threatened and unsafe in my work environment.

I have attempted to move to other roles within my department to limit my contact with this man

In the past four shifts that I have worked with him twice he has effectively pinned me in a corner while I was on the phone with a patient standing so close to the back of my chair that his clothing was touching my body I had no chance to escape

When I asked him to move back he refuses tells me he's not doing anything and I need to relax.

He reads over my head, accessing patient information that doesn't pertain to him and violating patient's rights.

I asked my manager for help and she told me that I'm destroying morale in the department.

I have made every effort to limit my contact with this man, I work different shifts if I can, I volunteer for other departments, but nearly every time we work together he acts aggressively or he demeans me, he picks fights, he stands over my shoulder, he won't leave me alone.

 

I'm afraid I'm going to lose my job.  I'm an LPN currently in school for my RN I have 1 year left and can't afford to lose my job. 

What can I do without being labeled as trouble? I fear retaliation.

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Rose_Queen is a BSN, MSN, RN and specializes in OR, education.

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If your manager won't address the situation, you need to take it to the next level. This is harassment, plain and simple. You've addressed it immediately with the individual, you've addressed it with the direct manager, you now need to go up a level. This is not the kind of situation legal would want- you are being set up for a very good chance at a lawsuit for a hostile work environment.

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Hoosier_RN has 20 years experience as a MSN and specializes in LTC, home health, hospice, ICU, ER, dialysis.

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Yes, pursue up the chain of command

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MHDNURSE has 21 years experience as a BSN, MSN, RN, NP and specializes in Pediatrics, Community, and School Health.

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If this situation were occurring with your daughter or sister, what would you tell them to do?  I am sure your answer is you would fight it al the way up the chain of command.  You deserve no less than this.  

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On 2/8/2020 at 9:54 AM, jdstga said:

In the past four shifts that I have worked with him twice he has effectively pinned me in a corner while I was on the phone with a patient standing so close to the back of my chair that his clothing was touching my body I had no chance to escape

When I asked him to move back he refuses tells me he's not doing anything and I need to relax.

He reads over my head, accessing patient information that doesn't pertain to him and violating patient's rights.

I asked my manager for help and she told me that I'm destroying morale in the department.

WHAT.

You need to go to HR and tell them you are being harassed and that you have already addressed this with both the person in question and your manager with no changes and no plan and you are expecting the problem to be actually addressed pronto.

Is there more to this? What the world. I believe you, I just can't imagine why a manager is dumb enough to actually handle this that way.

 

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Hoosier_RN has 20 years experience as a MSN and specializes in LTC, home health, hospice, ICU, ER, dialysis.

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On 2/8/2020 at 1:55 PM, Hoosier_RN said:

Yes, pursue up the chain of command

And if chain of command doesn't work, consult an attorney regarding sexual harrassment. That will get their attention 

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amoLucia specializes in LTC.

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1 hour ago, Hoosier_RN said:

And if chain of command doesn't work, consult an attorney regarding sexual harrassment. That will get their attention 

Sadly, this may be the way you might end up pursuing.

Just keep detailed notes of who, what, when, where, etc. Esp when you do try to go up the chain.

 

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TheSquire has 9 years experience as a DNP, EMT-B, APN, NP and specializes in Urgent Care NP, Emergency Nursing, Camp Nursing.

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Skip the Chain of Command - go to HR, and consider an attorney

 

Edit: To clarify - the Chain of Command has already failed you; there's no need to go higher up the chain.  Your last-ditch in-company effort is to report to HR...and once they see that the manager screwed up, HR should come down hard on the offending employee.  If they don't, then it's lawyer time (and time to find new employment in the meanwhile).

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TriciaJ has 39 years experience as a RN and specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.

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Keep a notebook at home (do not bring it to work) and document every instance.  Speak to this person assertively, with eye contact:  "You're in my space and you need to back up."  When you get home, document this and what the response was.

Document the times you've spoken to your manager about this, and what the response was.  I second the advice of others to report this to HR, EEOC, and consult with a lawyer.

Meanwhile, start looking for a new job.  This one is unlikely to end well, no matter what.  The best you can hope for is that someone somewhere takes this seriously.  Good luck.

 

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