I can't be excited

[RNstudent13renee]

because I made an A this semester and all of my friends barely passed, a few of them failed and I can't be excited to anyone except myself and it sucks. In nursing school it feels like you are the odd one out and everyone hates you if you made a good grade. I haven't told anyone my grades this semester because of this. The only person I can tell is my boyfriend and he doesn't get it. I should have been stoked after I found out my grade but instead I was consoling others who failed or congratulating those who passed by points I could count on one hand. It sounds selfish, but I'm proud of myself and I worked my butt of for my A! Its just frustrating to have to keep it under wraps to those who understand it the most. Thanks for letting me tell someone!

[Everline]

Yes! You rocked it and SHOULD be proud! Congrats and keep it going...

[BeccaC623]

I can empathize with how you are feeling. I am constantly getting asked what my grades were and when I do well I feel guilty because my friend who works her ass off didn't do as well. The kicker for me is when I don't do as well and I'm accused of being a liar so I've started to just say "Oh, I did as well as I thought I would." and just leaving it at that. It sucks, your good grade has NOTHING to do with anyone else's success or failure.

[SopranoKris, MSN, RN, NP]

Congratulations!!! You worked hard and it's no easy feat to pull off an A in nursing school. Woo hoo!!! Way to go :D

[FurBabyMom, MSN, RN]

Congratulations! An A is awesome and exciting (and depending on your program - a rarity). I was in the upper 5ish% of my class in nursing school. At times it is SO hard to feel good about your situation without seemingly throwing it in someone else's face. I applied myself in school, but I wasn't the person in the class who had to do the best / be the best. I was honest with my friends but only when asked, and I didn't talk about my grades much otherwise. It really sucked when classmates did poorly in classes. It was especially hard with non-nursing classes, particularly microbiology, pathyphysiology and statistics for me (those are classes I did obscenely well in, and had the grade to beat...). But I also offered to help my friends and classmates when things came easily to me.

You should definitely do something to treat yourself for your hard work. And celebrate some, it's another semester over! My class used to go out to lunch immediately following our nursing final... Some of my classmates turned it into quite the party (we were traditional college aged students), and most of my close friends in school went for fun and left after lunch before things got crazy. Those of us who didn't care for the party part, we either had other finals to study for (guilty) or we did something totally non-nursing related, like go to the mall or movies and just do something fun.

[nurseprnRN, BSN, RN]

Repeat after me: "I don't like to talk about my grades, but I passed, and that's good enough for me. Wanna go get some lunch?"

Then go celebrate with people outside of school. :flwrhrts: Congratulations!

[JBudd, MSN]

You did it! uh huh! uh huh! you go you go you go! (insert dancing and joyous jumping here!)

Celebrate with us!!

I expect A's from my students, and always wonder what I could have done more for the ones who are squeaking by. Have to remind myself it is YOUR effort that got you there. CONGRATS!

[liketheairport]

Congratulations! That's awesome!

[gigi509]

I felt the same way when I was doing my prerequisites. People I felt close with, study with couldn't be happy for me when I made better grade than them...

Go celebrate you work hard for the grade.

[LL143KnB, BSN, RN]

Congrats! You should be very proud of your A. The only person you should be concerned about it yourself.

[Bubbly26, BSN, RN]

Congrats! You should celebrate.

[Stephalump]

Oh, you can be excited. Wearing your grades like a cross on your shoulders isn't necessary.

Yes, obviously when someone is crying over failing it would be tacky to throw yourself a party in front of them, but that's brief at best. You can celebrate internally. You can celebrate once you get out that door.

Personally, I'm too tired to celebrate anything. At first I was super super excited when I'd make a great grade because people kept acting like it couldn't be done. Now I'm beat down and sleepy and jaded lol. I make my friends listen to my "yays" or "boos" when I'm sad because I got a B and they get over it and I get over it and life goes on :)

[summerzippsalong]

I completely understand how you feel! I have gotten staight A's for 3 semesters now and I feel guilty at times for it. I know we should be proud of ourselves and worked our butts off for them, but it still sucks to watch our friends struggle.