I can't believe this! This is crazy!

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My friend accompanied his wife to a doctor's appointment (his primary doc for a long time; his wife's first visit there). Several hours later he got a text message from one of the women that works there (he's not sure what her title is) saying, "I hope you don't mind, but I got your number from your chart..." She then went on to confess that she has always had a crush on him!!!!! He replied back that she was a nice girl and all, and he's flattered, but he's not available. So then she sent him 2 other messages basically hitting on him saying that she wants to be more than friends and she wished circumstances were different. He showed me the messages and asked what I think he should do. He doesn't want to get her in trouble but he feels like it's going to be awkward the next time he or his wife has an appointment (ya think?).

I'm floored. First of all she accessed his chart when he didn't even have an appointment that day! So she could make an advance toward him that is alllll kinds of INAPPROPRIATE given that he is a patient, and not only married, but married to another patient! I know some people have no boundaries and will throw themselves at attached people, but this takes the cake! And she does all of this via text messaging??? How dumb can you be????

Specializes in Med Surg/Tele/ER.

I am not really up on all this texting, but how do we know for sure it came from this employee??? Maybe this guy has a jealous wife....and she is checking out her husband....:coollook:

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Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics.
I am not really up on all this texting, but how do we know for sure it came from this employee??? Maybe this guy has a jealous wife....and she is checking out her husband....:coollook:

The text will show the number it came from.

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Specializes in PICU, ICU, Hospice, Mgmt, DON.
Wow, can you say looney tune?

That chick really needs to exercise some restraint :smokin:

Can you say restraining order!!!! (and be PUT in restraints)

This goes over and beyond any type of acceptable behavior--there is no imaginable excuse. This girl needs to be reported and she needs to be terminated from that position.

If she can do something like this-she should probably not be trusted with confidental medical information.

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Specializes in ER.

Is she cute??:D:D:D:D

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Is she cute??:D:D:D:D

Ahahahaha cute is so 90s they say is she hot? Hahahahahah you just made my day w this question

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I think he needs to assess the possibility of violence from her, of her mixing up labs or other papers intentionally to get attention or revenge, or worse.

This really is scary. I might even go find another doctor or talk to the doctor about it. This woman could be really big trouble. She is utterly stupid. How could she even be sure the wife wouldn't see the texts? Of course, he's got to be very thoughtful and consider the fact that she might be armed and stupid enough to use the arms.

Life is fraught with so much peril at every turn.

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I think if he doesn't want to tell on her than you should. I'm sure his wife feels the same way! She has no business working in healthcare and you need to explain that to him. It would have been one thing to flirt with him, but to take info out of a chart to do it is just amazing. I would guess this is not the first time she has rifled through a patients chart.

I completely disagree that OP should do anything. It's not OP's problem.

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Specializes in LTC.

This is crazy. She puts the "D" in desperate !

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Specializes in Emergency, Telemetry, Transplant.

The fact that he did or did not have a appt that day is totally inconsequential...this person cannot use the physican's pt list as her little black book.

HIPAA violation or not (which it is), this is pretty sad, and the person needs help.

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I personally think he should report her even if all it does is teach her a lesson...who knows how many other men she's done this to!

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Wow, what a shameless idiot. I feel bad for the guy, being put in that position! It's up to him, just tell him the facts related to HIPAA and let him decide for himself. If it were me, I'd find it difficult to hide that from my spouse. Maybe he should have his wife text her back.

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Specializes in LTC.

He doesn't want to report her, and since I don't go to that doctor and have no cue who this girl is I don't feel like I have any business going over his head and reporting it.

I'm good friends with his wife too. She was at work when the text messages started rolling in. I came home (we live in the same building), he told me about it, and i said he should report it but he doesn't want to make waves. Then I said when his wife gets home she should "discover" the texts and put a scare into the girl, but I don't think she did anything about it either. They're both very non-confrontational.

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