are we human .. really ??

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Specializes in ob/gyn med /surg.

i don't know what to think anymore.. i did something wrong at work.. and yes i was wrong ,, i don't want to get into it because it upsets me to talk about it.. and i was written up .. the first time in 5 years ... and i wasn't the only one in this deal that got in trouble... but during the recieving of the write up i was racked though the coals.. practally called stupid and made me feel worse than i felt allready.... how do you move on and forgive yourself?? i'm not a new nurse and lately under alot of stress with a sick mom and dad...so i balled like big baby during the write up ... ooh i am foolish and stupid.. but human..... how do you put this behind you and move on? thank you all in advance and i am so glad you are here to listen to me ... why are nurses treated as if we have no feelings? is there kindness out there anywhere?

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aw, sweetie take a big breathe and start a new day.

In management's perfect world we are all robots that check our feelings and emotions at the door.

Was your union rep present at this "inquisition"?

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Specializes in ob/gyn med /surg.

no union... just the flogging and then i was put on the stretch rack.... if i did it again i would have bamboo shoots put under my nails... and then find another job... thank you for the kind words,,,, i will take a deep breath and face it all over again tommorow... yes they want robots...

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Oh, meowzer... Having a sick mom and dad and being caregiver and all this does get too much and it pops out at bad times. I ripped my instructor for being unorganized (not in so many words) in front of everybody because I had just "had it" school, taking care of my parents (cancer) and all at the same time... how could she be such a nervous slob, when I had to be perfect or all the chips would fall at once for me. I demanded she have her **** together. I knew I hit a home run there. I can be mean if pushed too far. Thank God it wasn't a NM!

... anyway, that is life. I think back, and I sure meant to give it to her (probably would have again). But, if I want to keep a job starting over in this new career and all, I have to find another way, or work out the stress before it pops out.

anyways...

:hug:

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Specializes in LTC.

Time heals all wounds.Physical ones and emotional ones. Give yourself time to heal and move on.

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Honestly,I did not realize until my last year of school that nurses got "written up" I have never worked any professional job before where i got "written up" Why can't we just be told things, why cant there just be performance reviews, discussions? Only in nursing..

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Specializes in Med-Surg, HH, Tele, Geriatrics, Psych.

Only in nursing do you get raked over the coals for "human mistakes", this I have learned. And, yes, I have cried over write ups too. :crying2:

We have feelings, therefore, we cry. Please try not to beat yourself up over it. Learn from it and move on. I hope things get better for you soon! :)

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Honestly,I did not realize until my last year of school that nurses got "written up" I have never worked any professional job before where i got "written up" Why can't we just be told things, why cant there just be performance reviews, discussions? Only in nursing..

I disagree.

I have been written up in many fields before and I currently write up employees for mistakes which cause harm to our clients or to the company.

Nurses have a tougher task because a "casual" or "human" mistake can cause major impacts down the line.

It is not fair; but it is reality.

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Specializes in Med/Surg.

I don't know what else to say that you've not covered. sending lots of love, courage and hugs your way. :)

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Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics.

You vent here, brush yourself off, stand up proud, learn from your mistakes and go back in and hold your head up high. You realize you are human and you made a mistake and won't let it defeat you or people that don't know how to dish out disciplinary action professionally.

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Specializes in Family Practice and Primary Care.

If you made the genuine mistake, accept it, learn, and move on.

I do admit, based on my experience (where I most certainly did NOT deserve it) being made to feel little by our lying and quite worthless HR rep was not warranted. The emotional abuse I think is done purely for a control aspect, if they are wrong, you are less likely to complain if you have no ego. Think back to abusers, crush the spirit, and then abuse.

Accept the punishment, but don't accept the belittling.

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After 5 years without a write up.....wow....pat yourself on the back, learn from this experience and keep on trucking.

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