It's less than 5 weeks away from graduation and my mom (my best friend, my only supporter, my world, basically) has been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. My heart isn't just broken, it's shattered. I feel like I'm at my breaking point. She wants more than anything to see me graduate, but I can't concentrate on anything but her. I want to be there with her at the hospital, not doing clinicals or mock interviews or writing papers....
I'm an adult, in an adult world, about to enter a wonderful career (hopefully) and all I can think about, the ONLY focus in my life right now is how much I want my mommy.
I feel ridiculous and like a baby, but she's my best friend in the world. She's the whole reason I started nursing school. Yes, I love it, but I never would have even attempted to get in if it weren't for her convincing me I am good enough.
I guess there was no point to this post except to vent...or whine, however you see it.
I am so sorry to hear that. I have a very similar relationship with my mother and I can only imagine how you are feeling right now. It's hard to control where your mind is at. I hope you are able to find some balance. Remind yourself how important it is to your mom as well...maybe that will help. And she WILL see you graduate! Sending prayers to your mom...again, I am sorry.
I am sorry to hear about your mom. I pray the best for her right now. I lost my mom almost 4 years ago to breast cancer that metastasized to her liver & lungs, I know how you are feeling as I felt the same way when she was first diagnosed. My mom was certainly my best friend, my biggest supporter and she was most certainly my hero. I agree with everyone else, keep your head up...you are almost done. I would also be studying at her bedside just to be nearby. I know that she wants you to finish up and put your all into it. Hugs to you and again, I am praying for the best for you both.
I am soo sorry to hear about you mom. I hope she will pull through this just fine and you will be even closer afterwards. Make sure that you talk to your instructors and let them know what is going on. Just in case something happens in school, you don't do so well on a test, you miss a class, etc. they might be willing to offer you special circumstances.
I am so sorry. Now is the time to focus on those last weeks and complete your degree. I know some things, like mock interviews don't seem important, but you have do it. You can help your mom so much more if you complete nursing school. Just focus on the fact that finishing school will both help your mom and make her proud.
Do what you can....and confide in your professors, etc...if there is one that you know you can confide in...hugs towards you and hoping you can get through it! our prayers are with you...
I'll be praying for your mom and for you! I know school is important, but it sounds that your mom is much more important for you...Do your best these next 5 weeks in school, but also take time and spend with your mom. I'll be praying that the time you have for studying will be enough to get you through the next 5 weeks, and that the time you have with your mom will be satisfying.
I would be absolutely miserable. Feel the misery...but don't feel 'ridiculous and like a baby'. I love my mama too and would feel that my place ought to be right there by her side.
Her physical needs are all being taken care of, right? If so, then check that off your list of worries.
Emotionally, as your mama, she's worried about how her illness is affecting you and if you're going to be all right. So the very best thing you can do is summon the courage to focus on putting one foot in front of the other and doing what needs to be done each day for the next five weeks of school.
Stay connected emotionally by calling her sometime during the day and again in the evening every day. It'll be good for both of you.
Make reservations for dinner at a restaurant she'll like for the evening of your graduation day...so you both have something to really look forward to each day for the next few weeks.
You'll 'do this', because you'll be powerfully motivated to make your mama proud and happy.
I can't imagine how you feel. I don't really have any advise, but I did want to give you hugs! It will be hard, but I believe that you can make it. :icon_hug:
I'm so sorry to hear that...but I know what you are going through somewhat. I withdrew from nursing school about 2 yrs ago. I wanted to go back the next year, but my mom was dx with oral cancer so I didn't. I wanted to be with her. Well she ended up getting better so I thought ok the next year. Well in april of last year she was dx with lung cancer and ended up passing away in nov. That was the one thing I wished she could have seen was me getting my nursing degree. I promised her I would go back and finish which I am now doing. I know she is with me. I think that is the one thing you have to do. As hard as it is to finish, it's only 5 weeks, and nothing would make your mom prouder. And like others have said you will then be a nurse and if need be take care of her. Spend as much time as you can with her and enjoy every moment, but also stick with school. I think you'll regret it if you don't finish with your mom by your side. Good luck and once again I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. My best wishes go out to your family.
I want to thank you all for your support and encouragement. I've actually found that clinicals are a good thing right now (well, I know they always are, but especially now) to keep my mind preoccupied. It's still hard to study and stay focused while at home, since I want to spend all of my time with my mom, but I just keep telling myself that it's ONLY 4 weeks now. And omg it's hard not to miss tomorrow afternoon's class to go with my mom to her doctor's appointment!! How frustrating is that!? She admits she never understands what he's saying, so it would probably help her feel better, too, if I was there...but I can't miss a day at this point. We only have one emergency day and she might need me more one day in the weeks to come.
My mom is actually being a HUGE help to me. You guys wouldn't believe how positive she is being. There's no doubt in her mind that this is a fight she is not going to lose. I've researched her doctor, his practice, and his partners and have seen nothing but encouraging things. All of these things, including all of you!, are going to help me through these last weeks.
You must be devastated, I am very close to my mom as well and I don't know what I would do if I recieved the same news. Please keep in mind that no matter what the docotors don't know everything! When my uncle was 19 he was Dx with stage 4 melanoma, the doctor gave him 6 months to live and told him he should go home so he could be with family when he died. He turned down a football scholarship and moved back home, he just turned 41. So I would say that Dr. was way mistaken, or my uncle had the determination to beat the disease. Be there for your mom as much as you can, offer her all emotional support she needs, and keep doing well in school because it gives her something to look forward to.
I really believe that everything happens for a reason, I know that is really easy for me to say because I am not in your situation. Let's say everything turns out for the best, your mom goes into remission and you graduate. You will have this experience to pull from during your nursing career and you may make the difference in the life of someone else, no matter what happens make sure that you finish school. No matter the outcome you will be able to use this experience to help a patient or the patient's family in the future. My thoughts are with you! Stay strong, you can do anything you put your mind to! Remember that your mom needs you to finish school! :heartbeat
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I am so sorry to hear that. I have a very similar relationship with my mother and I can only imagine how you are feeling right now. It's hard to control where your mind is at. I hope you are able to find some balance. Remind yourself how important it is to your mom as well...maybe that will help. And she WILL see you graduate! Sending prayers to your mom...again, I am sorry.