How will I do this...?

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It's less than 5 weeks away from graduation and my mom (my best friend, my only supporter, my world, basically) has been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. My heart isn't just broken, it's shattered. I feel like I'm at my breaking point. She wants more than anything to see me graduate, but I can't concentrate on anything but her. I want to be there with her at the hospital, not doing clinicals or mock interviews or writing papers....

I'm an adult, in an adult world, about to enter a wonderful career (hopefully) and all I can think about, the ONLY focus in my life right now is how much I want my mommy.

I feel ridiculous and like a baby, but she's my best friend in the world. She's the whole reason I started nursing school. Yes, I love it, but I never would have even attempted to get in if it weren't for her convincing me I am good enough.

I guess there was no point to this post except to vent...or whine, however you see it.

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Specializes in ER/Ortho.

I am so sorry about your mom. I know how hard it must be to concentrate, but I know you will get through your last 5 weeks. Do it for your mom. When your finished you can take an extended break if need be, and be there for her. Think about this....you are going to be graduating with a nursing degree just when your mom needs you.

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Oh, honey, I don't think anyone would consider you whining at all. You just found out shocking news that will forever change your life. Moms are the greatest people in the world. I can't even begin to imagine life without my mom. Being an adult doesn't make devastating sickness any less difficult...in fact, I think it might be worse. Hang in there. Keep studying hard. I think the one thing that would make your mother the proudest would be to see you on that stage in your cap and gown, holding your diploma.

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I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I can't offer any better advice, so I'll just offer hugs!:heartbeat

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How terrible! You are not whinning. I wish I had a mom like yours. From reading the little that you wrote about her, she doesn't sound like someone that is not going to lie down and take this diagnosis without a fight. She sounds like a strong woman. One who will beat this. I am cheering and praying for both of you.

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oh wow, that really breaks my heart and brings tears to my eyes.

Spend time with your mom, bring your school junk and do your work there. Go to class/clinicals and spend the rest with her. It's okay to need her too. I am way grown and don't have the greatest relationship with my mom, but I never want to lose her either.

Finish up so you can be the kind of nurse that you would want caring for your mom.

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Specializes in Acute Mental Health.

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. My mother is also my closest friend. We are lucky to have them! I'm sending prayers and warm fuzzies to you and your mom. I understand the difficulty in concentrating, but if your mom is anything like mine, she'll be more upset if you don't hang in there with school and do your best. We'll be here for you. Please keep us posted as your able. :redbeathe

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Specializes in Family Nurse Practitioner.

Sending strength and hugs.

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wow, there are no words that I could say to express my sympathy for you and your mother. I cant imagine how you must feel. You just need to remember that your mom doesn't want you to throw away all your hard work in the last 5 weeks. Even though I don't know you or your mom, I know shes proud of you and will want you to finish strong. May you and your mom have strength.. I wish you the best, I really do. You're in my prayers tonight.

:redpinkhe hugs.

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She wants more than anything to see me graduate, but I can't concentrate on anything but her. I want to be there with her at the hospital, not doing clinicals or mock interviews or writing papers....

You need to do this for her. Get your strength and resolve from that fact. Fulfill her wish of seeing you graduate.

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yes it is a tough situation, but it may not be as hard as it seems. has it metastasized? is it only in one ovary? how is she coping with the news? whats the oncologist giving as a prognosis?

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Specializes in Med/Surg.

You are lucky to have such a good relationship with your mother. Make her proud these last few weeks and then spend lots of time with her.

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