Eh, I'm going to get flamed for this, but here goes. My supervisor is going back to school for her BSN. She's been in school for about a year now, but hasn't done too many essays or papers. Why not? Because she has the nursing staff doing her school work for her. I have no idea how she manages to pass since different people have different writing styles, but whatever.
I'll admit, I wrote one paper. I'm against cheating and I cringed while doing it, but the "I'm 60, how can my school expect me to learn APA at my age" talk won me over. I have a soft spot for people like that (my mother was the exact same way but never got to finish school) but now my supervisor is asking me to do a whole research project . I need to tell her no, but I'm not really sure how.
I already told myself I will never help her cheat again, but now I need help telling HER that without succumbing to her "I can't do this, I need you" speeches.
I did some snooping. I found a picture to a ring ceremony, so she apparently has made it through the program. But I looked up her name on the BON & she has disciplinary action against her license.
Thank you. :)
See? Karma is one mean, nasty little beeyotch when you tempt her.
Here's the thing. I may seem like I'm just verbalizing my values and not backing them up through my actions to you. You don't know me. I agree that our actions say more about who we are than our words. But I'm not going to let ONE negative action define me, especially when I've had so many other positive, defining moments throughout my life. But again, you don't know me. You only know what I did now. I did cheat. I own up to that. And moving forward, I'll never do it again. I don't have to report someone in order to feel secure about my values. I just have to do what's best for me, and that's never putting myself in that position again.
Good. Because I like you, at least the "you" that you are here.
Glad you put on your armor though. I'd leave it on for a bit until we all weigh in.
I don't have to report someone in order to feel secure about my values. I just have to do what's best for me, and that's never putting myself in that position again.
But what about your obligation to the community around you? This person is going to get a degree to which they have no right, and be given responsibility they haven't earned. They will have the ability to impact a lot of people in a way they shouldn't be able to. If you allow that to happen, that's partially on you.
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newboy, I am not going to use this as any kind of an opportunity to slay you. You are right, people are complicated and we are all made up of mistakes and triumphs, muddled together to form the human condition. Nobody is all good or all bad and you have made a mistake in this, to be muddled in with the things you have done and will do right in your time. I don't fault you for writing the paper (I can assume you were trying to be helpful), interestingly, as much as I do for your unwillingness to take even an anonymous stand against this sham. All it takes for evil to prevail is good people to do nothing, or so the saying goes. You are protecting yourself above your patients. That disappoints me and seems inconsistent with the other "you" that you have shown here. It taints the picture I had. I hope you will change your mind. That's all I will say about it.
Does she need the BSN to keep her job or get another one?
To keep her job. We have a new DON who is hiring/promoting BSN and above for management positions. As for my supervisor, she's the only supervisor with her ADN and she's been there for a long time. And, she has time to get it. She just wants it over with.
To keep her job. We have a new DON who is hiring/promoting BSN and above for management positions. As for my supervisor, she's the only supervisor with her ADN and she's been there for a long time. And, she has time to get it. She just wants it over with.
Is your employer paying for this education in anyway--this makes it their business.
Also, I know a lot of ADNs think doing papers for the BSN is just busy work, but doing the research, etc. is part of the learning process and helps you learn critical thinking and other important skills. This speaks a lot to her character.
I do sympathize with you--she has put you in a difficult spot, as she has power over your career.
Is your employer paying for this education in anyway--this makes it their business.
Also, I know a lot of ADNs think doing papers for the BSN is just busy work, but doing the research, etc. is part of the learning process and helps you learn critical thinking and other important skills. This speaks a lot to her character.
I do sympathize with you--she has put you in a difficult spot, as she has power over your career.
Good luck!
I think newboy has the power. To say no. To go to HR. Etc.
I think newboy should tell the woman that people are starting to talk about how she is getting the staff to do her coursework and that she needs to seriously consider withdrawing from that program and taking a staff nurse position.
I almost did it myself to help out a very hardworking friend at work who was facing a deadline for one of those weekly assignments. Instead of doing that, I took the admission and told her to use her break and bang it out.
. I need to tell her no, but I'm not really sure how.
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See? Karma is one mean, nasty little beeyotch when you tempt her.