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i'm done with my CNA course (paying out of pocket) i just have to take the GA exam. i applied for a job at an ALF and they pay around $8-8.50 per hour. i'm also want to take prereqs for nursing school. i'm thinking about moving out of my boyfriend's house (he doesn't work and i'm working at Jcpenneys) to this 1 bedroom apartment ($365 a month plus some utilities) but i don't know if i can make a living off $8 an hour.

I really want to move out on my own without any distractions from him. he knows this is hard work that i'm about to put in and he wants to play like it is no big deal. now my question is can i make it financially as a CNA. i want to work the 7-3 morning shift and take classes in the afternoon or evening. is it possible? i really need some advice. i want to live by myself and have no kids.

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Specializes in LTC.

Maybe you can rent a room. I'm not sure if that will be enough to live of off.

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One way or another you got to get away from him. Two thumbs up to you for recognizing that. Could you board at someone's place?

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I was going to suggest a roommate. Maybe someone from your class or work?

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Can you get a roomate? Maybe a 2 bedroom apt with a roomate. Or rent a room. That may even be better cause he wont be able to live with you there. He sure will be paying attention when you are making some decent money. Of course you wont want anything to do with him then. Maybe that's why he is playing all of it down.

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you would be on a tight budget....no frills....would suggest looking for perhaps a studio appt? or a roommate....especially d/t the fact you wouldnt want to be picking up overtime, if you are going to school

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Fill out your FAFSA and apply for financial aid. You will get the financial assistance you need. Check out your community college - they may have scholarships that you qualify for. You can do it. Good luck.

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Wow, I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend doesn't really support you or take this seriously. :no: But at the same time, I'm glad you realize you need to get away from him, and that you are not going to let him (or anyone) get in the way of your dreams. You're so lucky that you're not married to this guy or have any kids.

I was also going to suggest getting a roomate, but you might be able to pull it off by yourself with CNA salary, but if you work full-time. Depending on where you're located, most nursing schools are full-time, and during the day, which means you would have to work evenings, but there might be an evening/weekend program in your area. I would look into that. Good luck in whatever you decide! :)

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Sorry to hear about your insensitive boyfriend. Lucky for you that you have no kids! I suggest you find a roommate or move in with a supportive family member. I myself was in a similar situation. My boyfriend did not take me or my goals seriously when I decided a little over a year ago that I wanted to pursue a longtime dream of becoming a nurse. I decided to prove him wrong and use his negative attitude as my motivation. I am currently enrolled in my last 3 final prerequisites and God willingly will start a nursing program in June. Believe in yourself and in your dreams. Pray about every decision you want to make in life, and ask God to open the doors for you. Good Luck, God Bless!

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Specializes in Pediatrics Only.

I'm thinking its possible, but only on a VERY strict budget...and assuming you have no other bills (car/cell/cc's/etc)

at 8$ an hour, thats 320$ a week working 40 hours/wk.

320$ x 4 weeks is 1280$ a month. Lets say less taxes you bring home 1000 a month.

minus 450-500 a month for rent/utilties is 500-550$ leftover a month.

Lets say 30-50$ a week on food, thats 120-200$ per month in food.

That leaves $400ish left over.

Can you do it?

Sure, but you'll need to be strict about it.

Anything to get yourself out of a bad situation - you can make it work.

Good for you for realizing the need to get outta the situation.

As for nursing school, apply for grants/loans/scholarships - anything to cover you during the entire course of your schooling. Then, worry about paying it off later on.

Another thought is to work some overtime as a CNA, which perhaps that facility needs. Most overtime is time and a half pay. Added bonus! Also, weekends and evenings usually pay more.

Good luck!

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I think you should definitely get a roommate. You can easily keep up with the 40 hour work week now but once you start school it's going to be extremely hard. Don't put yourself in a position where you have no choice but to work full-time while attending nursing school. With a roommate you may be able to stash some money while your doing your pre-reqs and work less hours once you get into a program.

I work 32 hours as an LPN and I go to school full-time. I have NO days off and it's starting to wear me down. The only reason I can continue on like this is because I graduate in April (less than 90 days praise God!) but if I had to do this for another year I think I would die. I'm just that tired at this point. :yawn:

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Yes you can do it and yes you should do it. Get out asap. Is there family nearby that you can stay with until you find a place? Or a friend whose couch is comfy? :coollook:

Seriously - do you want a person like him to be the father of your children? He isn't working, he gets to use your body for fun and for free, he isn't supportive of your dreams . . ... get out now.

And don't have sex with him ever again. Don't let him use you. You are better than that.

Many families today are renting out rooms - look at local college websites and the housing section.

This advice is coming from a mom who thinks you are worth more than your "boyfriend" is giving you and he is NO friend of yours.

steph

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