Having children while getting education

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I posted this in another forum, but meant to post it here. Sorry. :)

I just wanted to get some perspective from those that have already been through nursing school and are already working in the field. I'm going to start nursing school next year, but I'm considering getting pregnant this year and having a baby before I enter into the program. My reasons for this are more medical, as I'm not a spring chicken, and would like to add a child into our family before fertility issues come into play. So my question is, is it possible to go through nursing school with a infant/toddler? Would I just be inviting failure? I want to be realistic as to whether I would be able to successful complete my schooling. Also, if I were to wait and get pregnant the last year of nursing school or even after I graduate, how hard is it to leave the field for a year and then go back to work? I need to make a decision as to what is more important? Having a child or getting my degree... it's a tough choice. Any personal experiences would be great! TIA

OMG that just explained so much. Hysterical. :chuckle

Well, either you were mocking her plan to be a SAHM (the only way to be with your kids almost 100% of the time) or you are mocking HER because she is in her 20's and is planning to be a SAHM in the future.

I get that you don't like or agree with her opinion, but she is entitled to it. Maybe it will change once she's had children and/or is older, but maybe not.

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Well, either you were mocking her plan to be a SAHM (the only way to be with your kids almost 100% of the time) or you are mocking HER because she is in her 20's and is planning to be a SAHM in the future.

I get that you don't like or agree with her opinion, but she is entitled to it. Maybe it will change once she's had children and/or is older, but maybe not.

Um, no. That didn't happen--you either didn't read or didn't comprehend.

I was not mocking her desire to be a SAHM. I was mocking the following statement: "you will instead have him or her shipped off to daycare or have someone else raising your child. in that case, you shouldn't have children." She's in her early 20s, doesn't have kids, and either hasn't started or just started her nursing career. She has NO IDEA what it means to parent and work/attend school and she has no business being judgmental and nasty towards women who do.

It would be helpful if, in the future, you read the interactions in context so you know what's going on. Thanks.

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I have a couple pregnant girls in my class that are doing really god,however I wouldnt do it.I would wait.

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Um, no. That didn't happen--you either didn't read or didn't comprehend.

I was not mocking her desire to be a SAHM. I was mocking the following statement:

It would be helpful if, in the future, you read the interactions in context so you know what's going on. Thanks.

Is it really necessary to mock anything? :down:

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Someone asked me about my children. I'm in my early 20s and don't have any children. However, to answer your question, I will be there with them ALMOST all of the time up until the time they reach 1st grade. I will be there everyday after school, with a smile, waiting to drive my child home.

I am sorry but you seems too perfect in my opinion.

Are you sure???????

I also dont have the children and I am heading into my late twenties.

I will be working (yes that is why I'm here on those boards-future nurse) and I can tell you right now I wont be there all the time for my children but I will love them.

You know actually just get off your high horse.

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Actually, having children or not doesn't have make a difference in philosophy regarding using day care or having kids while in school.

One thing I've mentioned to my own grown children regarding dating is to talk about this issue prior to talking about marriage . . . . do you believe in staying home with your kids to raise them or do you believe day care is the way to go? Along with many other things of course (money issues, religious issues, pet peeves, etc).

One thing I've noticed is young men nowadays want their wife to work so the burden is not only on them . . .. however, if the wife wants to stay home, that can cause a lot of friction. Or vice versa - if he believes in staying home and she doesn't.

This is a big issue.

steph

You'd be surprised at how many people get married without discussing children, period.

It wasn't so many years ago that having a wife who worked outside the home was seen as a disgrace. You know what? It's nobody else's business!

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Is it really necessary to mock anything? :down:

When someone is self-righteous and insulting I have no qualms in mocking such ridiculous behavior. A 21 year old kid lambasting other women for having the nerve to balance parenting and work or school deserves mocking.

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If it were me, I would do the school first, then have the baby but that is just my decision, it has to feel right for you. I found nursing school hard enough. I had a girl in my class who had a baby and it was not easy for her, but she finished with the rest of us.

I am going to just say that in some cases like my stepsister for example who is a horrible mother, her kids would have been so much better in child care than around her druggie friends. Her situation is not the norm though. Anyhow, I think every family finds their own way of raising their kids that works for them be it daycare or a stay home parent.

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Clsed for review.

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