Anyone ever have one of those coworkers that irk you to the point that you'd like to see them fail?
I normally don't feel that way, but lately I've been harboring a lot of resentment for one of my coworkers. This person is very cruel, and yet our former workplace absolutely loves her. This lady often told me that if I can't do my job, don't do it. She often talked about how great she was. She would frequently mention that she's worked so hard to develop processes and the rest of us are just "messing things up." She believes and acts as if she's God's gift to the world and often has nothing but snide, sarcastic remarks for others.
I would love for her to receive a taste of her own medicine. I would love for her to make a big mistake. Not one that harms a patient, but one that makes her realize she is no angel and she's not perfect. In addition to being cruel, she is demanding and expects everyone to accommodate her schedule. It's okay for her to show up late or leave work early, but if someone else does the same thing, you'd better watch out because she'll let you know what she thinks.
Frankly, I resent that she's able to get away with so much b-crap and remain employed. She doesn't deserve her job. I'd love for her to mess up so that she ends up jobless.
We were both case managers. I was slightly higher up than she was, with me being an RN and her being an LPN. However, by the way she acted, you would have thought she was my supervisor.
Why do you give her this much time and energy? To paraphrase Gen Mattis: Be polite, be professional, but have a plan to ignore her improprieties.
I've given up. I just do my job and go home. I no longer care what others are doing. I don't have the mental capacity or energy to care about it anymore.
Why do you give her this much time and energy? To paraphrase Gen Mattis: Be polite, be professional, but have a plan to ignore her improprieties.
Probably because she has something I want--a place she belongs. She naturally received compliments and recognition from upper management, where I felt like I had to "fish" for any of mine.
Specializes in Psych, Addictions, SOL (Student of Life).
SilverBells said:
If I'm being honest, focusing on Queen Bee takes the focus off my own problems.
I'm not religious but was raised in The Church and there's a prayer that goes "Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change (Queen Bee) The coursge to change the things I can (your circumstances) and the wisdom to know the difference.
I'm not religious but was raised in The Church and there's a prayer that goes "Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change (Queen Bee) The coursge to change the things I can (your circumstances) and the wisdom to know the difference.
Funny you say that. I work in a facility for men of a religious order.
Specializes in Mental Health, Gerontology, Palliative.
hppygr8ful said:
I'm not religious but was raised in The Church and there's a prayer that goes "Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change (Queen Bee) The coursge to change the things I can (your circumstances) and the wisdom to know the difference.
And the wisdom to know where to hide the bodies of the people who really hack me off.
Specializes in Mental Health, Gerontology, Palliative.
Been there,done that said:
She was injecting herself with morphine. I think they called it theft.
We have as special charge for that its called "theft as a servant" (covers theft in the work place). While some employers might give someone a second chance for a theft charge, they won't if its theft as. servant
Specializes in Psych, Addictions, SOL (Student of Life).
SilverBells said:
Probably because she has something I want--a place she belongs. She naturally received compliments and recognition from upper management, where I felt like I had to "fish" for any of mine.
Oftentimes we "See through a glass darkly" why do you think she got those compliments? Perhaps she was really good at her job. You mentioned that she rarely had to put in the OT you did and you have admitted that you struggled with many aspects of your job. If you do your job well you don't need to fish the compliments come in their own time.
I also got the sense that time. Management and delegation were problematic which would lead to OT. Did you receive position annual reviews?
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Why do you give her this much time and energy? To paraphrase Gen Mattis: Be polite, be professional, but have a plan to ignore her improprieties.