Anyone ever have one of those coworkers that irk you to the point that you'd like to see them fail?
I normally don't feel that way, but lately I've been harboring a lot of resentment for one of my coworkers. This person is very cruel, and yet our former workplace absolutely loves her. This lady often told me that if I can't do my job, don't do it. She often talked about how great she was. She would frequently mention that she's worked so hard to develop processes and the rest of us are just "messing things up." She believes and acts as if she's God's gift to the world and often has nothing but snide, sarcastic remarks for others.
I would love for her to receive a taste of her own medicine. I would love for her to make a big mistake. Not one that harms a patient, but one that makes her realize she is no angel and she's not perfect. In addition to being cruel, she is demanding and expects everyone to accommodate her schedule. It's okay for her to show up late or leave work early, but if someone else does the same thing, you'd better watch out because she'll let you know what she thinks.
Frankly, I resent that she's able to get away with so much b-crap and remain employed. She doesn't deserve her job. I'd love for her to mess up so that she ends up jobless.
There's no one I have wanted to fail, in fact it wouldn't hurt me a bit for them to be so wildly successful in another workplace that they would never come back.
I have experience with someone who was might be similar to how you describe, was thrilled when she announced she was moving to another city. 3 months later she was back. Her new job just couldn't compare to our workplace. The grass wasn't greener.
I have made peace with having her around gain, but it would have been so much better for her to have loved her new job.
Specializes in Psych, Addictions, SOL (Student of Life).
I had one old co-worker who was quite mean and demanding. Very intolerant of anything that lean away from hard line conservatism. It got to the point that she made several patients and staff cry. I am not a person who allows anyone to push me around but was quite happy when she left to take a supervisor position at a competing hospital. This was several years ago and I found out yesterday that she lost that job due to absenteism and being chemically altered on the job. Knowing only too well the struggles of the substance use disorder a part of me was sad for her but I also thought "Karma."
Specializes in Psych, Addictions, SOL (Student of Life).
SilverBells said:
Regardless Queen Bee will probably never learn the lessons she needs to learn
The question is will you learn the lessons you need to learn. I'm not tryingto be mean but those who fail to learn are doomed to repeat their mistakes. Take the positive route wish her well and move on.
-Communicating own concerns with others in a way that respects the dignity of others
-Learning to listen without interruption
-Monitoring tone of voice during communication
2. Time Management
-Developing methods to ensure arrival to work on time
-Prioritizing to ensure that essential work is being completed
-Arriving to meetings on time
-Focusing on own work rather than the work of others
3. Humility
-Acknowledging the strengths of others
-Acknowledging the weaknesses of oneself
-Recognizing that one is not better than anyone else
-Remembering the reason why one entered nursing
-Focus more on the patient rather than being pretentious (wearing dressy clothes that interfere with patient care, avoiding patient care as much as possible, instructing staff to "just work short," etc)
-Communicating own concerns with others in a way that respects the dignity of others
-Learning to listen without interruption
-Monitoring tone of voice during communication
2. Time Management
-Developing methods to ensure arrival to work on time
-Prioritizing to ensure that essential work is being completed
-Arriving to meetings on time
-Focusing on own work rather than the work of others
3. Humility
-Acknowledging the strengths of others
-Acknowledging the weaknesses of oneself
-Recognizing that one is not better than anyone else
-Remembering the reason why one entered nursing
-Focus more on the patient rather than being pretentious (wearing dressy clothes that interfere with patient care, avoiding patient care as much as possible, instructing staff to "just work short," etc)
Were you her manager or were you colleagues on the same level or was she above you? Don't know why you can't let her go. Her presence got you out of a bad job you were unwilling to leave on your own so in reality she did you a favor. Time to realize that and move on. Hopefully the new job will be better.
At the new job, be friendly, say hi to everyone, how is it going, make a little small talk to make a good impression and get off on the right start. Why don't you role model all the things that you think Queen Bee isn't, and it should at least help you get along at the new job.
As someone who is naturally shy and following a bullying episode my first couple years, I was mistrustful of others. Also could be curt when stressed. Later I learned to be sociable, more friendly, make a little small talk etc and it went a long way to getting along with my coworkers. Plus moving to night shift, people there were more friendly, live and let live types.
Were you her manager or were you colleagues on the same level or was she above you? Don't know why you can't let her go. Her presence got you out of a bad job you were unwilling to leave on your own so in reality she did you a favor. Time to realize that and move on. Hopefully the new job will be better.
At the new job, be friendly, say hi to everyone, how is it going, make a little small talk to make a good impression and get off on the right start. Why don't you role model all the things that you think Queen Bee isn't, and it should at least help you get along at the new job.
As someone who is naturally shy and following a bullying episode my first couple years, I was mistrustful of others. Also could be curt when stressed. Later I learned to be sociable, more friendly, make a little small talk etc and it went a long way to getting along with my coworkers. Plus moving to night shift, people there were more friendly, live and let live types.
We were both case managers. I was slightly higher up than she was, with me being an RN and her being an LPN. However, by the way she acted, you would have thought she was my supervisor.
You're not wrong. Back in the 90s when I was very active in the pagan community, there were some folks we called "fundamentapagans." They were so over the top!
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There's no one I have wanted to fail, in fact it wouldn't hurt me a bit for them to be so wildly successful in another workplace that they would never come back.
I have experience with someone who was might be similar to how you describe, was thrilled when she announced she was moving to another city. 3 months later she was back. Her new job just couldn't compare to our workplace. The grass wasn't greener.
I have made peace with having her around gain, but it would have been so much better for her to have loved her new job.