Have you ever had a pt have sex...

[jarrn03]

Have you ever had a pt and her spouse have sex in their room "to get things going naturally"?

We had a couple come in that had had intercourse that am, stimulating contractions. Her cervix was changing but then stalled out around 7 CM. The mother to be's sister was gaurding the door. Her nurse went to go in to the room because the central monitoring was showing a decel. When she approached the room the sister stopped her and told her what was going on.

To make a long story short it sure enough stimulated contractions, her water broke and delivered precipidously and the nurse delivered as her doc was in the OR.

In our busy unit with all our experieced and long time nurses said it was a first for them. Would love to here if you have had a similar experience;

[punkydoodlesRN, BSN, RN]

I've enjoyed this thread :) I was on pelvic rest for both of my kiddos and as soon as my OB stopped my progesterone inj, hubby and I were um, on fire. Both of my kiddos were born less than 12 hrs later. I believe in it. I tell people that babies can come out the same way they get in. I don't see a problem with this. If they are willing to try, why not? I hate c/s and I thought my facility had a high rate (I learned today they are below Natl avg) If the baby is safe, and she's not hi-risk, why not?

[GooeyRN, ADN, BSN, CNA, LPN, RN]

I am all for it if it means there will be no pitocin or c-sec. for failure to progress. why not? It seems safer to me.

[nightengalegoddess]

This thread has turned out to be a doozy! This is a hot one!....So many personal issues being adressed beyond the OP's simple inquiry which seemed to me to be along the lines of appropriate behavior within a public institution, and safety issues. My initial post stated my postition entirely in light of OP's inquiries...so I wont go into how I'm all for it again. But I DO need to respond to RN2BFW...right on! . I wanted to gaze into my husbands eyes the entire pregnancy and labor. I wanted to make love to him like crazy the entire 9 months plus two days of hard labor at home. It was the most beautiful experience of spiritual love....and no...we did not have intercourse because I was in a lot of pain...duh. But if I could've, I would've...and believe me, he was ready for it most of the time.And there was a lot of heavy petting going on. Can't say any of that helped for us...because things really took a long time. Maybe some of us are rarities. Maybe not, haven't done a study or read one lately. I think it's a little sad that women would think of "cutting it off" when their beloved would want to show his devotion in this way. So call me wierd. It's just one lady's experience. By the way, our home birth was many years before I became a nurse. I would do things differently now. And yes, I would make love right there in the hospital if it came down to it. Take me to court if you'd wanna...any way a baby needs to get here is good enough for me. By the way...my son has always had straight A's, in advanced courses, and has a thriving craft business of his own at 17 and is in a band that plays locally. So let's not get on about harm from home births either please. I would've never dreamed of any drugs in labor at the time....although I do think the epidural would've helped now that I know better.....a testimony.....blessings and love to all the angel babies...no matter how they end up getting here.

[nursel56]

While I've never had it happen in L&D I've frequently heard midwives and even some of our doctors tell a husband to take his wife home and "show her how much you love her." However, having had 2 of my own, at that stage in pregnancy that would not be an expression of how much he loved me - last thing I wanted.

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I love it "show her how much you love her" - some of the more old-fashioned docs crack me up. I adored my OB but he seemed somewhat reticent to actually say the word "sex" so when I had some minor bleeding he said "no lady partsl activity". I was thinking it ahhh well it wasn't really the activity of my lady parts that we needed to worry about . . lol :) he was cute.

Let's get nautical -

Seamen... .We're not talking about submarines here, people...it's semen.

well it's probably sailors that we aren't talking about, because we shouldn't forget our seamen man all sorts of watercraft as GHGoonette points out ...

For sure! If my hubs had tried getting his submarine aboard my Titanic he'd have hit the iceberg nose first!

and Ackeem expands on the theme with a reference to Columbus sailing the ocean blue ..

. . .its not 1492 so of course there are much more effective methods and ways of doing things.

. . .and even a contribution by BoatswainRN!! All nurses who aren't deadly serious 24/7 you brighten my day!

. . .And, yes, have had couples do the deed in the pt bathroom w/ door locked, in the parking lot per pt report, and other undisclosed hospital locations.

Oh, gosh that must be very awkward with big tummy and tiny BR and well, maybe somebody has a pop-top van or camper they could lend out or loudly say cough-cough did someone say room ahhheem ten is open(cough)?

[LPNweezy]

Blech! I am sorry, call me a prude, but blech, blech., blech!

i agree, other people having sex grosses me out beyond belief!!! ewwww

[ChristineN, BSN, RN]

I would have 100% supported this pt. While I have never worked in OB, I am aware of the risks that can come with the drugs and procedures that can be used to assist a pt that is not progressing. Sex has no side effects, no complications, and would allow the father to assist in the delivery.

I could totally see myself asking my significant other for sex before going to the hospital if I thought it would help things along.

[Hushi05]

I'd be surprised but not particularly disturbed (at least they had the courtesy to post a lookout!). I'm not very controlling about what patients do. I tell them what I'm supposed to do, explain the rationale, and if they refuse I document.

We did have one patient whose boyfriend decided to perform oral sex on her after delivery because he "liked it". That was pretty gross.

[bagladyrn, RN]

All of you advocating for sex IN the hospital room seem to be glossing over the fact that she was still ON the monitor which showed a FHR deceleration. The OP didn't indicate the severity of it (apparently enough for the nurse to go check).

If the nurse was blocked from the room by the relative and unable to assure fetal well being or take corrective action, what do you think the nurse should have done? Who do you think would have been held responsible in the event of fetal compromise? (In reality in a courtroom - not in ideals)

[jarrn03]

I agree with you Crunch. There is a time and a place and the hospital is not one of them. That is what you do before you show up at the hospital in labor and if labor doesn't start then you do what hospitals do to stimulate labor. Sounds very suspicious to me. I wouldn't want that doctor taking care of me.

The doctor never instructed them to have sex in the hospital. He had no idea that it had happened until he came out of the OR.

[caregiver1977]

*ALERT--THIS POST IS TMI*

I have to admit that when I was being induced due to complications with pre enclampsia I did give myself an orgasm (clitorial) in the hospital. I tried to make sure it would be when none of the nurses would be coming in. It worked, especially with my first child. All of the nurses and my OB thought that my labor had stalled and that I would end up a c/s. I went into the pushing stage so fast he almost didn't make it to the delivery. They had actually suited up one of the other nurses to catch my son.

Sorry if what I did was disrespectful but I did not want to have to recover from a c/s with no little to no help at home. Funny thing is I had a nurse that had passion marks all over her neck and admitted sheepishly that her husband had gotten carried away the night before. You could her my husband and I laughing all the way down the hall about that!

Full blown sex? Don't know about that one...

[GooeyRN, ADN, BSN, CNA, LPN, RN]

I think that beats a c-section.....