With the Memorial Holiday over it is now the official beginning of summer time vacation. Time for the family to hit the road, the skies or the boats. But what to do with Gramma? Lets take her to the ER. She hasn't appeared "quite right" lately. Heck she even peed on the couch last week. Im sure they can keep her in the hospital for a few weeks while we go on vacation!!!
Yes folks, this is quite common. I even had one pts darling daughter who overloaded granny on a salty bacon breakfast and skipped a few days of lasix so she could get nice and gurgly for us in the ER. Time to call social services, elder abuse.
Used to see it before Memorial 4Th of July, and labor day holidays.
Like, "we thought we would get her/him fixed up before the holiday weekend. However, we realize it's in her/his best intrest to be admitted for a few days.
I'm going to financially support them if need be. I work in LTC right now and I can't tell you how many of these families have taken care of their relative far beyond what they are capable of. Assisted living, retirement community, home care, nursing home, etc... I'm not capable of taking care of my parents in my home. I'd rather work to keep them in housing than go through what I see some of these families going through.
After we brought 89yo deaf grandma home from SNF we hired livein care till back on her feet as I was pregnant. Night shift aide had the audacity to have boyfriend come at 5AM and cook breakfast for him--with Grans food. Well she was deaf but alert as a fox and had great sniffer, 2 sets dirty dishes seen in kitchen. I visited next night and caught them both in LR at 5:30AM. So yes, good overnight help is hard to find.
:chuckle That's great that your grandma had a good sniffer! I am curious. What did the night shift aide say when you confronted her? Yes. Good help is hard to find.
I'm going to financially support them if need be. I work in LTC right now and I can't tell you how many of these families have taken care of their relative far beyond what they are capable of. Assisted living, retirement community, home care, nursing home, etc... I'm not capable of taking care of my parents in my home. I'd rather work to keep them in housing than go through what I see some of these families going through.
Steph, You're doing the right thing. You are very wise.
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:chuckle That's great that your grandma had a good sniffer! I am curious. What did the night shift aide say when you confronted her? Yes. Good help is hard to find.
"He's getting my paycheck to cash".
Agency was upset and embarrased. Replacement aide a gem. After another month Grandmom living on her own. Stayed in her own apt till age 98 1/2. Died at age 99 1/2 after pneumonia. Still have found memories of visiting her at SNF and flying kites from her WC with my sons--her telling them about making box kites from tree branch and newspaper: "don't forget that important cloth tail". :rotfl:
I agree that the doctor was 100% unethical. However, I don't see anything wrong with having Mom stay at an assisted living facility (respite care) if I needed to go on vacation???? Yes it would be more ideal if I could hire a home health aide for a week. I have heard it can be very difficult to find an honest and dependable person whom you can trust in your home. I have heard about home workers who come in your home and steal all the elderly person's money and valuables.
I also agree that the OP's doctor was unethical. Goodness, what a setup for a family who is not familiar with the healthcare system. Of course, this doc would not be responsible if social services was called in on something he "recommended" in confidence. [/sarcasm]
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Used to see it before Memorial 4Th of July, and labor day holidays.
Like, "we thought we would get her/him fixed up before the holiday weekend. However, we realize it's in her/his best intrest to be admitted for a few days.
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