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My Resident at a LTC facility was hoorifice, had a cough and was very stiff and weak...just didn't look right...glanced at code status and called family (resident had a DNR-CC) ...Family stated they wanted to be aggresive and I obtained a order to send Resident out...the next day the daughter called ...resident had a stroke and they put a peg tube in he will be back in 3 days at the center and she just wondered "I am actually in Arizona at our timeshare right now ...do you think I should come home?" I stated that I could not make that decision for her...she then went on to add..."I just don't want to get penalized"..."by who?" "the airline".........um ok...100.00? Am I too extravagant to think this is not a really large sum...This is the family that continued to ask me to go in the room and tell him that he can't go home when he first was placed there. UGH

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Specializes in Med/Surg, ICU, educator.

families....don'tcha just love 'em?

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Specializes in Med/Surg.

I'd hate to think my children didn't think I was worth $100. It's on their conscious, yours is clear.

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Specializes in ER.

$100 can be lots of money to many people but this person has a timeshare. I would think $100 could be spared to see their father.

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Specializes in LTC/Rehab, Med Surg, Home Care.
My Resident at a LTC facility was hoorifice, had a cough and was very stiff and weak...just didn't look right...glanced at code status and called family (resident had a DNR-CC) ...Family stated they wanted to be aggresive and I obtained a order to send Resident out...the next day the daughter called ...resident had a stroke and they put a peg tube in he will be back in 3 days at the center and she just wondered "I am actually in Arizona at our timeshare right now ...do you think I should come home?" I stated that I could not make that decision for her...she then went on to add..."I just don't want to get penalized"..."by who?" "the airline".........um ok...100.00? Am I too extravagant to think this is not a really large sum...This is the family that continued to ask me to go in the room and tell him that he can't go home when he first was placed there. UGH

Very sad. I'm guessing that this family doesn't visit all that often? I'm not familiar with DNR-CC. Is that for comfort care? Sounds like the primary needs to have a pretty blunt conversation with this family as well.

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Why bother at all?

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Specializes in ER.

If she's that concerned about her timeshare vrs her father I say nope, stay on the beach baby, we'll do better without you.

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Ummm.....was it his decision to be DNR/CC because if it were, why on earth would anyone go against that for the family???? Poor guy, now he's worse off and still alive.....I suppose maybe it wasn't his decision, but why did the family all of a sudden decide daddy needed to have everything done? Feel really sorry for him.

Ok, yes, I think the daughter is being a you know what about it. It's her DAD, and if she were so bent on keeping him alive, the least she could do is show up....100 is really not too much.

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yes DNR-CC is comfort care

A&Ox3 on admission,I assume he signed it.

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Specializes in PICU, NICU, L&D, Public Health, Hospice.

I work in hospice. I am asked by family all the time...should I come, should I call cousin Harry, etc. I simply put the ball in their court..."Dad is dying, I don't know what the time line is. You need to do what will give you comfort 6 months from now when he is gone...avoid regrets".

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Specializes in Cardiac Telemetry, ED.

I'm so sorry for your resident. That makes me very sad.

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