Reported posts

[P_RN]

all the moderators get notified of all reported posts. we look there and the first dozen posts are wonderful, helpful,really good.

then on occasion a little bickering between posters, totally off the subject starts up and takes up a couple of pages back and forth and sometimes gets nasty.

now, do we leave this mess, do we delete this mess...heck even i don't know. if you want to "disagree one on one" take it to pm and don't spoil the good posts.

ok y'all. debate is good. consolation is good. challenge is good.

backbiting, bi*****g, nasty comments are not good.

play pretty now and follow big daddy's rules you all agreed to when you registered here.

[NurseDennie, BSN, RN]

Okay, the thread was started because some thread somewhere got icky.

What thread? Well, it isn't stated.

Who got upset? Nope, don't know that, either

What form of icky occurred? Don't know that

Sometimes, I don't think people are as upset as they seem to be. I guess something has to bother you enough to report a post, but I have felt like some of the posts were reported in a "tattle tale" kind of way. "Oooooh, I'm gonna TELL" because maybe they don't agree with what someone has said, or something along those lines. Or perhaps they don't like the tone.

I, personally, am very soft-spoken. I don't yell. Not that I think it's Wrong, I just don't do it, and I'm uncomfortable when I hear people yelling. It seems rude, to me, and I don't like it. I live in a neighborhood where a LOT of yelling goes on.

Okay, I admit - I've reported a couple of posts in the past.

And then we get advice about going to PM if we have a problem with a particular poster, and not add flames to a thread. I haven't PM'd so much, although I have done when I've seen a thread or a post to a thread too late to make a reasonable contribution but I think I have something specific for somebody to see. Then somebody else starts a thread that he/she was sent a PM that was hurtful and icky.

I've seen things like this before (not necessarily by the same person) and I don't see the purpose for it. It seems to get people curious and a little bit tittilated. I am! I want to know what's going on and why.

Love

Dennie

[Q.]

Odd, because I'm at a loss and usually I am right in the thick of it.

Thank god it wasn't me this time.

[Vsummer1]

Originally posted by Susy K

Odd, because I'm at a loss and usually I am right in the thick of it.

Thank god it wasn't me this time.

DITTO at least I don't think it was me this time....

[RNPD]

"I've seen things like this before (not necessarily by the same person) and I don't see the purpose for it. It seems to get people curious and a little bit tittilated. I am! I want to know what's going on and why." Dennie

Agree with Dennie here! What was the point of this thread if it wasn't going to be specific to the thread that caused it? If it was to ask for advice, any such advice can only be given in the most general of terms because we have no idea what the perceived offense was. Maybe some of us wouldn't have found it offensive but rather just a spirited discussion. However if it degenerates to out and out name calling, based on education, race, ethnicity, religion, etc, then that's a good indication to shu it down.

Otherwise I agree with Dennie about it being "tittilating". And I am still in the dark!

[BadBird, BSN, RN]

Ok, what did I miss?

[J-RN student]

I am with ya BadBird:confused:

[Vsummer1]

Sort of a related question:

If I post something, and someone finds it offensive but others do not... and that post is reported...

do I ever get a PM letting me know to tone it down or am I just deleted, banned etc?

I tend to shoot from the hip so to speak, and tell it like I feel it. This may not be "nice" but you also don't see me telling people to "stick it (insert wherever)" or "go to (insert place)" that kind of swearing thing. I will defend myself also, but never to the point of cussing someone out (well, does WTF count?).

I have the feeling that some of my posts have been reported (we wont' even dig that up again!) but will I ever really know?

Just wondering here...

[SmilingBluEyes]

I truly enjoy the "ignore" feature built into this site. If more of us used it, I do not think offensive posts would be such a huge problem. It's part of being an adult....if you see an offending post or thread you have the choice not to participate. Debate in a fair and non-threatening manner is enjoyed by many, including myself. But when it gets to a point whereby I become offended or am insulted; I ignore that poster and all he/she has to say by using the IGNORE POSTER feature, and perhaps quit the thread. It saves a lot of aggravation. It will save Brian, et. al., a lot of trouble too. Can't we all just be adults? Think if you would say some of these things in such a manner to a person face-to-face before posting them......if not, it prolly does NOT belong here, either! (by the way I have no idea what thread this pertains to and refuse to "thread-chase" to find out.)

[NurseDennie, BSN, RN]

Oooh, good point, SmilingBlueEyes!

I've used that feature a lot, and maybe that's why I don't know what's going on about this thread. I've seen that there are some people who have things to say that just make me mad. What's the point in disagreeing with somebody just for the sake of disagreeing?

Love

Dennie

[cargal]

What I find less than admirable is when some posters "sniff" out a controversial post to feed their need for an adrenaline rush, nevermind the original subject never interested them in the first place, or when a sniffer jumps all over the someone who posts an opposing view, challenging them to post supporting material to boost their opinion. Sometimes an opinion is all that the poster chooses to contribute. And I find it disturbing when some members try to debate a poster into the corner to "prove" their point. Whose tagline states that just because you have silenced me ......."? This online bullying serves no purpose except to erode the posting atmosphere, where those backed into a corner feel great frustration and inability to post in a manner that is constuctive and respected even though they may differ in opinions. There are times when some who use their debating skills to belittle others to not posting, and if they dare continue, incur the wrath of those with greater debating skills. We are not all master debators, and while I appreciate the opportunity to enhance my skills, verbal bullying, even in an articulate manner is still just bullying. In other words, the ability to exert verbal prowess does not make you right or contributory. I find that stating one's views in an articulate passionate manner while listening and respecting the other posters" view and right to state it to be most productive. When online bullying starts, the thread is usually reduced to taking sides and the original content is lost and nothing is gained.

Blessings,

[nightingale, RN]

Thanks P_RN:

I agree with most that the ignore feature is very useful.

I am very grateful to have this forum to discuss issues of importance and issues of relaxations to "bond" with my colleagues.

abrnern.. do not give up on us and keep posting....

Funny how I just love nursing when I have been away from it for a few days or have been to a really nice facility without bickering and negative behavior.. hmmm.. kinda like here....

I do not know why some take things so personally. I guess it takes all kinds etc...

I do know I am grateful for most of the people, relationships, and good friendships I have been blessed with on this forum... I hope all the positive interactions continue and the unpleasant interactions continue to deminish....

B. (part of the "NICE SQUAD")

[Q.]

Originally posted by cargal

Whose tagline states that just because you have silenced me ......."?

Hmm. I had a sig line once that was a quote from John Morley, who said:

"You have not converted a man because you have silenced him."

Don't know if that's what you were referring to.