Quote from MsLEE2121
Hey all my friend recently informed me that her nursing instructor told her that she didn't think she was going to make it. My friend is in her 1st semester of nursing school and she said the instructor told her this is because she had linens on the floor, and didn't throw away the dirty linens fast enough. Also, the instructor told her that she should have said 32 residuals for a feeding tuble instead of 30. Don't you think that assessment the nursing instructor made was out of line? She also said she thinks her clinical instructor has bad mouthed her to other teachers and she thinks she may need to change programs so she won't feel they are out to get her. I said she should stay and prove them wrong. What do you all think?
It's GREAT that your friend has someone like you that she can talk to or to bounce ideas and get opinions. I know I've been in situations where I've asked friends to weigh in with their ideas/opinions in order to help me come up with my OWN idea about something. I call that considering DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVES of a situation/ weighing my options/ etc... I do it quite often --and it certainly has nothing to do with me questioning my self-worth. Trust me your friend would go see a shrink if all she wanted was to have an active listener.
But, if you feel more comfortable giving advice by adding a disclaimer to your conversations such as , If I were in your shoes, I would ....." or "ultimately you have to make your own decisions ..." then do so. Really it's not necessary when your friend starts out by ASKING for your opinion.
Also, I certainly don't think that telling your friend to stick it out this semester is giving her bad advice. In fact, you are encouraging her NOT TO QUIT when times get tough. I also don't think that it is "cruel of you not to let her make her own decision". (I'm sorry I must have missed the part of your letter where you MADE your friend follow your advice????
) . . . Again, you are simply stating YOUR opinion.
And of course your friend is going to give one side of the story . . . that's w/ anybody relaying a story. Really --it sounds like your friend is just seeking words of ECOURAGEMENT. I'm pretty sure all past, present and future nurses need it every now and then. Tell her you'll be there to support her no matter what decision she makes and encourage her to also speak to an advisor or other classmates that she can trust. They may also be able to provide some pearls of wisdom like you did:heartbeat . Good Luck to you and your friend.