I can tell from your post that this type of care embarrasses you. That's ok. I can guarantee you that when you have a male pt who needs help uniating, or needs a shower, you will help him because you KNOW that he can't do it himself!
Yes, there are men who act like they are helpless and can't lift a finger to do anything. The first time this happens you will stand there and help him, but you will remember that HEY! he can and must do it himself. Tell him nicely that you will not be there when he gets discharged home so he needs to learn how to do it himself while in the hospital.
Most of the pts I got in Nursing school were ready to go home and didn't need help with the urinal.
Funny story along these lines. I worked in LTC every other Saturday. The CNA told me that I had to put a texas catheter on one of the pts. I had no clue what that was!!
Anyway, there were 2 catheters. One was latex the other silicone. I chose the silicone. The catheter goes on like a condom. I was wearing gloves and the gloves stuck like glue to the cath. The gentleman kept telling me he didn't like to be wet so make sure I got it on good and tight. After positioning it I started unrolling the cath. For every roll, I had to unstick my glove!! I finally got it on and attached to the bag, left the room and prayed that he didn't get wet!!
He didn't, and neither did the bed!
The next time I worked, they only had latex caths. This one is a lot harder to apply. It has sticky tape that must be applied to the penile shaft. I was fighting the cath and my gloves on that one. However, I did it right, because he slept all night and his bed was dry in the AM!
It's amazing what we can and will do to make sure our pts are comfortable.
You can do this!!
In His Grace,
Failure is NOT an option!!