Moochers who want to copy your homework or cheat off you......

[caffeineRx]

what do you do with moochers?

[Jolie, BSN]

We all have moments when we need a little help. It's great to have a network of classmates and co-workers willing to help each other out in those times.

But, what you describe demands a firm response, "No."

Learn to think it, say it and mean it, or you will be carrying your co-workers for the next 30 years.

[caffeineRx]

We all have moments when we need a little help. It's great to have a network of classmates and co-workers willing to help each other out in those times.

But, what you describe demands a firm response, "No."

Learn to think it, say it and mean it, or you will be carrying your co-workers for the next 30 years.

See, I feel like if I do that, I will create friction. Not because I care THAT much..but what if I'm absent and need to ask a Q, etc. I would look like a hypocrite asking them...not even to copy..but if they can tell me what I missed. We all know how that works! lol

[Always_Learning, BSN, RN]

I tend to be a bit of a pushover, but there are one or two in my class that have tried to take advantage of this. I'm the first to try to help anyone, but when you're leaving class early ALL the time, I don't see the effort on your part!

So (quite uncharacteristically), when a classmate (the aformentioned one who always left early) asked if they could "use" my study material (which I had taken 6 hrs. to write out), I said, "No."

It's only two letters, but what a big word!! It felt wonderful :yeah:She doesn't talk to me much now, but hopefully she is doing some of her own work these days...

[caffeineRx]

LOL! What do they say when you say "NO"? I imagine they look at you like you just shot them! haha

[Virgo_RN, BSN, RN]

I don't understand the mentality of using others' work in this way. When I was in NS, I did my own homework, and copying others' tests was considered cheating. Unless a person has a legitimate reason for missing material, such as being absent due to an illness or something out of their control, then you are under no obligation to show anyone your work. Let them do their own!

You have to learn how to say "No" sometime. Might as well start practicing now.

[caffeineRx]

Saying NO is easy. It's just one nice word. But it seems like there's a better way to address is.

[CBsMommy]

I have a firm belief in helping others that want to help themselves. Otherwise, and what you are describing above, is a big no-no in my book. If you don't want to say no, the next time someone asks if you did the assignment say yes and walk away. It might create friction but who cares? If you are absent from the class, e-mail the teacher to ask the question or rely on your study group.

[~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN]

I am a push over, now if someone was asking to copy my a test or quiz or something I would say no but when it's like HW I try to make an excuse or I cave. If I could change one thing about myself it would be my ability to say No

[Always_Learning, BSN, RN]

To the OP - I know you don't want to create friction, but this is a valuable opportunity to learn to say "No" in a firm but polite manner. Truth be told, what they are asking you to do (do their work for them) isn't polite in itself.

Assertiveness means standing up for yourself an others, and it doesn't have to be done in an aggressive manner. Most of the time I use humor to diffuse things. As in, "Can I see your homework/flashcards/assignment?" And I reply, "Girl, you better do your own homework!" or "I find I retain things better when I write them out myself."

LOL!

[Virgo_RN, BSN, RN]

Saying NO is easy. But these are people I am in class with for 2 years. I don't want to create any friction if possible. LOL

Saying "No" early in the game and setting the tone for the remainder of the program will create a lot less friction than changing the rules of the game later on down the road when you get fed up.

[brighella]

There are ways to say "no, its on you to do your own work" without being crabby about it. You can be respectful and still deny them access to your work. I think this is different than being sick for a day and missing, in this case they are using you.

My philosophy in NS was that I wasn't there to make friends. I can be friendly, and respectful, and expect the same from the others, but im not there to be Miss Congeniality. You're there to learn, so that you don't endanger your patients and can even maybe help a few. What they are doing is not only disrespectful to you and your professionals, it sets a dangerous precedence of cheating, and ultimately its the patients of these moochers that will suffer. Its time they started thinking about someone other than themselves.

Worse comes to worst, talk to the professor about it, see what they have to see on the topic of others co-opting your work as theirs. In my school, this would have set off academic fraud procedings.