Male Nurse Disgusted by Female Nurses - page 11

Hi Beth: I believe you submitted a recent article about Safe Patient/Nurse Ratios in this country. I have been a nurse for about one year and a half and I am appalled by what I have observed with... Read More

  1. by   Farawyn
    Quote from JKL33
    I think lambraising is more like it.
    WANT.
  2. by   BCgradnurse
    Quote from JKL33
    I think lambraising is more like it.
    I like my lamb marinated and grilled, and I don't baste it.
  3. by   OldDude
    Quote from JKL33
    I think lambraising is more like it.
    But...if you lambraise...after a year you'll end up with sheep...and sheep lie!
  4. by   Farawyn
    Quote from OldDude
    But...if you lambraise...after a year you'll end up with sheep...and sheep lie!
    Ewe!!!
  5. by   OldDude
    Quote from Farawyn
    Ewe!!!
    Exactly!!!
  6. by   cyc0sys
    Quote from OldDude
    I agree that men simply choose to avoid many areas of nursing. I know it's true for me. The only time I've been discriminated against for being a guy is when I would get called to restrain a combative patient or to help with a heavy lift transfer...and you know what? I'm OK with that on many levels. I think, overall, men are not "nurturers" and want to "fix" it and move on and avoid those environments otherwise.

    The bed side can be an emotionally toxic cesspool of patient and family drama that spills over into the floor staff. Those swamps cannot be drained effectively, considering some nurse thrive in them. So you either push through it or drive around it. Maybe find a patient 'project' along the way to study the disease process.

    Discriminated against?

    Absolutely. I've been the target of numerous character assassination attempts involving gossip and alleged sexual misconduct based on my gender. Everything from another staff nurse and I having an affair (because we took lunch together), I touched another nurse inappropriately (She ran into me while making a hasty exit from a room. I grabbed her to keep her from hitting the floor after ricocheting off me.), to rumors my wife married me for a green card (my wife was born the US).

    Believe me, I know how to keep my hands to myself. I don't sh!t where I eat. I've sit through countless hours of military grade Equal Employment Opportunity operate conditioning sessions to screw up my career now. But on the flip side, I now know how the victims must feel.

    Combative patients and family member, aahhh yes, what a way to break up the day. Because male aggression and domination must be the first answer to most 'uncontrollable situation' which quickly escalated on some else's watch. Lifting, more hands make less work.

    Yelp, I'm a "fixer". Just a methodically aggressive nurturer who is emotionally independent from the patient actively seeking medical care. Tour guide on the road to health and recovery, as long as your following the hand rail of compliance.
  7. by   fj13
    Quote from Ruby Vee
    Oh Good Lord! Drama much? I can see a few good reasons why you might not be hired.

    As far as discrimination -- As a male, you have benefitted from the patriarchy. I find it difficult to get all riled up about your "rights" being trampled upon now when women have been run roughshod over by patriarchies for thousands of years. Even in nursing, men are disproportionately promoted to management positions and are paid more per hour than women with the same (or greater) education and experience. (And yes, hospice, too. The only hospice nurses I know are men.)
    Interesting...talk about being punished for the sins of others? Drama much??? So because this particular nurse is now being allegedly discriminated against in his work place makes it less discriminatory or pretty much ok in your eyes because men have allegedly been doing it for "thousands of years" to women?

    I've seen this same drama play out in another situational context...when I was in Iraq between Sunni's and Shia's...Vindictive behavior begets further vindictive behavior, it's a never ending cycle of hateful repetition.

    Lets move beyond pettiness and truly look at the heart of the issue instead of promulgating stereotypes that work to only divide. It's not so much a gender issue in my mind, it's a morality issue. Some people are raised right and with respect for self and others and apply it equally across the board, others (many) are not. This transfers to every reach of society, to include the workplace, obviously.

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