Is there ANY reason for Experienced nurses to be Rude to New Nurses?? - page 2

I am a new nurse, graduated in September, passed board November 30th and started Orienting December 31st. I just finished my 7th week and until now have been very lucky as far as having most of the... Read More

  1. by   Tweety
    Please don't generalize the traits of this one experienced nurse on us all.

    It is never o.k. for anyone to be rude to anyone at any time. Unfortunately there are rude people in our society.

    It is not a tradition to eat our young.
  2. by   caliotter3
  3. by   PANurseRN1
    Quote from Tweety
    Please don't generalize the traits of this one experienced nurse on us all.

    It is never o.k. for anyone to be rude to anyone at any time. Unfortunately there are rude people in our society.

    It is not a tradition to eat our young.
    Thank you. Sometimes I feel like a broken record saying that over and over.
  4. by   PMFB-RN
    Quote from pink2blue1
    I am going on for my RN for sure. I went the LVN route because of the waiting lists in our state (I am in California). I only have 3 pre-reqs left and they will take me a year to complete. Then I can bridge. the timing was right for me to do the LVN program when I did because my husband had just sold his business and was staying home with the kids. I am starting back next semester.
    *** Well I wish you the best of luck. Sounds like you will make a good RN. I was an LPN for many years myself. Not to hijack the thread but if coming to Wisconsin for a while is an option for you, you could go to my alma matter and go from LVN to RN in two 16 week semesters with no waiting list. Can start each fall.
  5. by   lauralassie
    There are rude people every where. Just , smile and know that she is not worth your time. What comes around - goes- around. Just get through orientation. Remember that experience when you precept someone. Use mistakes (within reason) to teach someone. Sounds like you knew exactley what was going on with your pt's. Good job. And by-the-way, yes it is too soon to have a student with you. I'll never understand why it's so important to have a ms in nursing, and then, then when the college is short of "smart nurses", staff nurses are all of the sudden "smart enough" to teach students. Leave it up the the instructor.
  6. by   climberrn
    Quote from Franksters
    I am a RN x 17 years. I want to apologize for all the rude, mean and nasty nurses out there. I do not know how "Eating our young" became tradition, but it has. I would like to ask you to do a few things for our profession.

    1. Remember how this experience made you feel and never do it to anyone else.
    2. Tuck this experience away some place safe.
    3. Once you have a few years experience start your plan.
    4. Lead by example. Encourage your team members to follow your lead.

    We must change this attitude. Even if it is only 1 person at a time.

    Excellent, excellent post.
    And whoever said, "only apologize once"...also good advice.
    Sorry you had to deal with that; sounds like you did a good job.
  7. by   canoehead
    Even if your completely and utterly wrong her response was inappropriate and unprofessional. Once you get that over the top reaction the best response is to just look at them, no reaction, no anger, just silence. They will eventually stop- just walk away. You've stoodup to them silently and everyone, including them, will get the message.
  8. by   nurse4theplanet
    This nurse is probably rude to everyone, on and off duty.

    Don't sweat it. You know the mistakes you made, and you owned up to them. You know not to repeat them.

    You also know where Ms. Prissy Pants slacked off too! The pot calling the kettle black?

    Good thing your preceptor backed you up and showed you support! If she, or anyone else, ever yells at you in front of your co-workers again...calmly ask them to lower their voice and speak to you privately or you will be forced to get the manager. That will shut them up!

    As you can tell...I don't tolerate disrespect very well.

    I am also a firm believer in PRN's "LOOK"
  9. by   snowfreeze
    If I may I would like to add a light note about the negative people? They are under personally inflicted 24/7 stress, they are stressing their bodies just like drug and alcohol abusers. Their heart has to endure epi jolts quite often as they rage and get red in the face and yell at a co-worker. At this time their kidney function probably gets close to shut-down to try to save a few other organs. The lungs are possibly the healthiest organ as they get used the most with all the bellowing. The brain is rarely used prior to bellowing so it is shrinking rapidy due to lack of need. They usually binge eat after an attack just like a lion so they over carb and sugar and are killing their pancreas slowly. The gall bladder has usually been removed if they are 35 or older so it is no longer suffering. Skin afflictions on those angry with life are very common also, scratchers with scabs and lesions.
  10. by   BrnEyedGirl
    There is NEVER a reason to be rude, period. I agree w/Franksters,..learn from this,..when your behind and frustrated w/that student nurse who just doesn't seem to be "getting it",..take a breath,.smile,..say a kind word,.she/he will remember you and you will sleep better at night!

    I agree w/ the other posts too,..only apologize once and never apologize for doing your job,.ie "Dr. Smith, I'm sorry for bothering you, but" ,...huge pet peeve of mine,..if you need the Dr, call him/her it's your responsibility and the Dr's to care for your pt's!!

    I'm sorry this happened to you,.but don't let it get this nurse bring you down to her level,.you are better than that!!
    Good luck to you!!
  11. by   rn undisclosed name
    Being a new nurse I don't think this was a case of an experienced nurse being rude to a new nurse. It was just a rude nurse period.

    In life there are rude people and there are others who are not rude. I have come across new nurses who are rude. It is just their personality. Why they ever chose to go into nursing is beyond me. I can only imagine how they are with their patients.

    I have only been a nurse for 7 months and I have had to develop the mentality that I can't get it all done on my shift. I work days from 7 am - 7 pm and when I have 4-5 patients who all have the same primary doctor and said doctor writes an average of 10 different orders at 4 p.m. for each patient I am going to have to leave some of it for the next shift. I feel extremely bad about it but I'm not going to stay to carry out those orders. I try to do the most important tasks (meds, foleys, etc.). As it was I stayed plenty late just to finish my charting.

  12. by   Ann RN
    Quote from p_rn
    i'm a 33 year rn.
    there are mean people in this world.
    you are not a mean person (i can tell)
    your co-worker apparently was born with her knickers in a knot.
    you need to perfect that most important nursing tool:
    the look.
    the look doesn't frown, smile,speak. it is just the look.

    when this co-worker makes an error do not judge, laugh or criticise. just the look. if she asks for help give it. then give the look and go about the business of being a quality nurse.

    :yeahthat: i love "the look". it accomplishes so much more!
  13. by   mvanz9999
    I agree with all the posters that say there is never a reason to be rude. There isn't. Being courteous costs you nothing.