How many of you married doctors? - page 2
Hi all! I'm currently a student at Johns Hopkins SON, just starting, and I'm wondering how hard it will be to meet and date some of the male med students here to seek out future husbands. Don't... Read More
Jul 7, '02Occupation: RN Case Manager Joined: Apr '02; Posts: 4,945; Likes: 27Rusty - you are so very cool! :angel2:
Jul 7, '02Occupation: Office Nurse. Joined: Jun '02; Posts: 205; Likes: 32Well guys and gals, I work in an office and work hand in hand w/ a Dr. and he is a very good christian man with a good family. His wife was a phlebotomist. Anyway in all his glory I could never think of having a relationship with him even if we both wern't married. Although he is a good christian man he is very narrow minded and always right about everything(even when he is wrong) If he finds himself in a situation he knows little or nothing about he will come up with 15 letter words to make everyone else feel stupid. Now we as females know MOST men are this way, but it seems they get even worse with a few initals behind their names. The other Dr. in my clinic is divorced from a nurse. And is currently dating another one about 1/2 his age. So I'll stick with the Wal-Mart greeter,plumber, mechanic or whatever. I have a wonderful husband who is home everynight and thinks he has been married to the perfect wife for 15 years. Hope he never finds out differently.Last edit by andrewsgranny on Jul 7, '02
Jul 7, '02Occupation: nursing student Joined: May '02; Posts: 94; Likes: 2JHUnurse:
I managed to "score" a pediatric resident about three years ago... Getting mixed up with him turned out to be the biggest mistake of my life. If I ever wanted to see him, I had to bend my schedule completely around his. Very tough, it was.
The fact that he turned out to be a cheatin' jerk is sort of peripheral, nothing to do with him being a doc. Hee.
Not to be insulting or anything, but when I first read your post, I thought, "Now that's why men think women are only interested in money..." I'd rather be alone than be with a guy who was with me for money!
Jul 7, '02Specialty: 22 year(s) of experience in surgical, neuro, education ; Joined: Jul '01; Posts: 395; Likes: 56JHUnurse I really hope you are only in your teens.
I have not read such an ambiguous posting in a long time--'not that I am going into nursing to marry a Dr' I have yet to meet any MD that I would want to marry. I prefer to marry for love rather than money. My blue collar worker hubby is the best dad and friend I could find!!!
Rusty you are way too cool!!!
Are you sure you are not spying on this bb and you really are a MD who is looking for a date???
Seriously, JHU I hope that you find what you are looking for--I just think you are looking in all the wrong places.
Jul 7, '02Occupation: Retired Joined: Jul '01; Posts: 4,288; Likes: 31Originally posted by andrewsgranny
If he finds himself in a situation he knows little or nothing about he will come up with 15 letter words to make everyone else feel stupid. Now we as females know MOST men are this way...
I am insulted.
Jul 7, '02Joined: Jun '01; Posts: 160I went out with a resident once who pretty much just wanted a sleeping partner because he was "too busy". Needless to say, I bailed out of that situation quickly. I'm not going to say that all doctors/residents, etc are the same, but I would be a lot more careful in the future if I chose to date one again.
I agree with some of the other posters...maybe you should go to med school yourself so you can be "set" (if there is such a thing). Not to sound preachy, but I don't think there's any reason in this world to get married for anything other than love. Just my 2 cents though.
Jul 7, '02Occupation: RN Joined: Sep '00; Posts: 88; Likes: 29All I can say is if you're going to date a resident/student please keep it discreet. I work with one nurse who's dating a resident and all they do is hang on each other when he's in the unit. When he's not there all she does is walk around with a dreamy eyed stare and talk about him. Of course she never gets any work done, she's too busy thinking about how to become Mrs. MD.
My other coworker just married a resident. Said resident is also always in the unit making me wonder when he ever sees patients. He's always in her patient rooms with her, or calling six times a day to check on her. I sure hope it tames down now that ball & chain is officially attached!
Thankfully I'm married to a non-MD...
Jul 7, '02Occupation: lvn/lpn Joined: Mar '02; Posts: 62; Likes: 6Haven't really seen this kind of thought since the 60"s, although I am sure that it exists.
It was the norm then to find young girls who fancied themselves as wives of successful M.D.'s. They would come into the unit or recovery room reeking of perfume(often you could smell them before you saw them). They had makeup on for the nite out and scrub dresses were two sizes too small and way too short. I once heard the unit manager ask a particular nurse to go shower and learn to appropriately come to work.
Some managed to marry and divorce. Others squandered their life and license by finding solace in drugs/alcohol. Some progressed in their educational endeavors, surpassed the skills of the husbands they married and ran solo.
Marriage should be for a relationship, embedded in love and trust. It should not be for financial gains or promises of climbing the social ladder.
And, of course, if you consider the present nursing shortage, you should never use nursing as a platform to grab "your" man.
Jul 7, '02Occupation: Deputy Ward Manager Joined: Apr '02; Posts: 523; Likes: 7JHU nurse
Oh Sweetheart! You really need to live first. Anyone tell you that when you marry it should be for love cos it is!!!!!!!!
When I was a student I too was involved with a junior doctor but chose a guy in the forces. Not as glamorous or financially well off but boy have we had a GREAT TIME
The hours are not dis-simular BUT love was well worth it. Recently met up with my doc and guess what ?
still single! still chasing skirt! I've been married 18yrs!!! have 2 fantastic kids and what has he got?
BIG FAT ZERO
Jul 7, '02Joined: Jul '00; Posts: 11,351; Likes: 387My grandma says if you marry for money you'll earn every penny, but that it is just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor one.
And she also says that a dress should be tight enough to show that you're a woman, but loose enough to show that you're a lady while you look for love
Jul 7, '02Joined: Apr '02; Posts: 38,756; Likes: 16,286I LIKE how your gramma thinks,fergus. words of a WISE lady indeed.
Jul 7, '02Joined: Apr '02; Posts: 38,756; Likes: 16,286andrewgranny, that crack about men coming up with 15 letter words was really revealing. not too nice. sorry, rusty. you can RISE above that,you know.