Does bullying really go on in Nursing? - page 4

I kept on hearing from fellow classmates that superiors and fellow nurses bully their young. Not in terms of physical bullying, but psychological. I don't understand this at all. Could someone please... Read More

  1. by   Kashia
    Yes yes yes. ( and in most parts of life now)

    In nursing....more now than even 10 years ago ( in my experience)

    Seems to be more prevalent in high population areas - more stress city life?

    and much less in rural small town areas...there is more of a

    caring family atmosphere in small town hospitals and facilities, and much better patient nurse ratio's in LTC etc.

    Good luck to you and blessings
  2. by   kimogieo
    first day of my orientation, I get the feeling that they didn't even want me in that unit. The unit manager just chats with this other nurse, and the nurse gets out 2-3 hours later because she's not done charting since she's been chatting with the young Unit manager about boys...But who am i to judge right? I just go with my preceptor and prayed to god she's nice. I tell them that I have no experience and they said it's alright, we all gotta start learning somewhere. At first I had no idea what to do so i felt more like a nuisance than helping my preceptor. But then as i go along, I asked a bunch of questions, good ones and dumb ones, i just had to ask it because where else am i gonna learn. I dont care if they think im stupid for asking it, its what orientations are for. I was not bullied but one nurse made me feel that she didn't want anything to do with me as soon as she found out that I was a new grad. I keep having to mention "DoN" to them that I was told by the DoN to be orientated there and be her orientee so that they wont pass me around. I changed my shift due to that nurse because I felt I would learn so much more if I went on someone else's shift and it was a very good decision. I got to learn a lot with two other preceptors though I got yelled at by my DoN for doing it..........I asked aDoN if i could change shift, she said ask jane, the one handling staffing, jane said its alright. Then DoN found me on the shift i switched to and her being a control freak(she admitted that to me in person before i started working for her) she yelled at me and told me I had to come to her because she's the one who will tell me what activities i have to do.....I never heard from her after the first day of my orientation...all she told the unit manager "let her push cart" and that was it.....But it's all right, sometimes when you're new you gotta swallow everything and just go along with it.
  3. by   lady constance
    Geiokhae------ hey, i dont quite know what to say. usually they pick people to orient you that are some what open , friendly people....
    i dont know your age or back ground, but some how or another, you might want to gently ask the nurse who is orienting you " do you remember when you were a brand new nurse? how did they treat you? what were your fears? "
    perhaps ask about her personal life, her hobbies,her favorite books, some how you need to connect with her....and i would keep QUIET about your own personal life...they need to know nothing.....
    pray for your co workers....pray for yourself....
    go back thru your text books and refresh yourself about the kind of patients you are working with....
    come here and ask questions....
    i remember 27 years ago feeling like i was in atank with pirhanna's ( those flesh eating fish in the amazon).... and rule number one when swimming with anythign that feeds on flesh and blood--1. NEVER LET THEM SEE YOU BLEED!
    AND yah , i will pray for you and your coworkers
    lady c
  4. by   NoviceRN10
    Current victim, so I can verify it does happen. I just smile and ignore the bully. It's harder to be unkind to someone than just get over yourself and lighten up !
  5. by   lady constance
    do yah plan to stay a victim? or become a victor?
  6. by   kimogieo
    Quote from lady constance
    Geiokhae------ hey, i dont quite know what to say. usually they pick people to orient you that are some what open , friendly people....
    i dont know your age or back ground, but some how or another, you might want to gently ask the nurse who is orienting you " do you remember when you were a brand new nurse? how did they treat you? what were your fears? "
    perhaps ask about her personal life, her hobbies,her favorite books, some how you need to connect with her....and i would keep QUIET about your own personal life...they need to know nothing.....
    pray for your co workers....pray for yourself....
    go back thru your text books and refresh yourself about the kind of patients you are working with....
    come here and ask questions....
    i remember 27 years ago feeling like i was in atank with pirhanna's ( those flesh eating fish in the amazon).... and rule number one when swimming with anythign that feeds on flesh and blood--1. NEVER LET THEM SEE YOU BLEED!
    AND yah , i will pray for you and your coworkers
    lady c

    thank you Lady C, I am 22 and had no work experience before. And I look like I'm 16, most people say that and I somewhat get the feeling that theyd think I'm slow or be discouraged easily. I was desperate to learn from whoever my preceptor is gonna be because they just threw me in the unit and said just go with a nurse and tell them to orient you. So I picked the one that I felt I was gonna be able to connect to. She was older with more than 10yrs of experience, she was an excellent teacher and told me everything i needed to know when it comes to covering my end. To all the nurses out there that have oriented new employees, thanks a bunch, you're a big help to us new grads.
  7. by   tele jelly
    Yes! But you can rise above, and not participate I keep work at work, and home at home. My stress is little to none.

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