Bad Experience with Nurses at hospital, rethinking my major now. - page 3

I will start off by explaining that I am a nursing student. I got into nursing because I love to work hard, work on my feet, be challenged, and most importantly help others. I am planning a trip to... Read More

  1. by   noahsmama
    I've never worked in an ED, but twice in the past few years I've been a patient in a very busy ED at one local hospital, and my son was a pt in a different ED a couple of times. Everyone treated us very kindly and professionally, with none of the behavior you've described. I wouldn't base any career decisions on how you were treated, but I would definitely write a letter of complaint as soon as you're well enough to feel up to it.
  2. by   caliotter3
    What you experienced is not the norm, but it does let you know which hospital you would not want to work at once you get your nursing license. Do not let one incident influence you to your own detriment. Nothing is perfect in any line of work. You can encounter rude, uncaring people anywhere at any time.
  3. by   kakamegamama
    OP==I am SO sorry that you went throug such a horrible experience, both the assault AND the hospital experience. No, not all nurses are jerks like the one you encountered, nor like some of the posters on this board. Some are compassionate in every circumstance and can let their own lack of acknowledgement of need to be be heard or whatever fade in the moment of caring for others. Some are not. Nurses are human, and just as you'll find humans with/without compassion and care in other professions, you'll find nurses the same. You can make the choice, just as they do, to be kind, putting the needs of others before your own, even if only for a brief moment/many minutes or hours. (I think you get my point.). Take care of yourself. Please follow up with someone that you can talk about your experience. It may come back to haunt you when you least expect it. Again, I'm so sorry this happened to you and wish you the best.
  4. by   CaLLaCoDe
    OP, the best thing you can do is to become the better nurse, out nurse the horrible nursing you received!

    Look at this whole experience as a learning moment not to be emulated.
  5. by   beast master RN
    im sorry about your experience, but listen to yourself? your gona throw away something that sound like your passion cause one dumb ass person? if any thing this would drive you to become a nurse so you can prevent situation like this from happen to other people , seems kinda ignorant to me
  6. by   BaltimoreHon
    I am so sorry you had this horrific experience. Not only were you traumatized by the assault but then you had to be traumatized again by the behavior of the staff and that should have never happened.
  7. by   sistasoul
    I have been a nurse for 3 years. I have never seen anyone act like that toward a patient. At my facility that behavior would not be tolerated and I can guarantee that anyone who acted in this manner would not have their job long. With the customer service oriented environment of today I am surprised that nurse talked to you like that.
    That nurse must have been having personal problems, a bad night, or was burnt out. This is definitely not the norm. Some nurses have better bed side manners than others but I have yet to see someone be that rude- especially to someone who was just traumatized.

    I am very sorry this happened. Try not to let one bad experience deter you from a career as a nurse.
  8. by   Lindsey-Student
    Quote from beast master rn
    im sorry about your experience, but listen to yourself? your gona throw away something that sound like your passion cause one dumb ass person? if any thing this would drive you to become a nurse so you can prevent situation like this from happen to other people , seems kinda ignorant to me
    you know what, you are right. i shouldn't let that unprofessional actions of one rn deter me. i don't think i would ever treat someone that way, no matter how bad a day i was having. i don't have my head in the clouds about nursing any more than i did about dental assisting. i know it is going to be stressful, and a lot of work. i know i am going to see things that are disturbing and tragic, and i am going to see the worst of people. there are many drug seeking patients and addicts in dental care as well. i've been spit on, screamed at, and harassed working as a dental assistant. i don't expect everyone to appreciate my work, as many don't even recognize a dental assistant. i made the switch because i wanted to work with more than just that one part of the body. i want to help people when they are at their worst. i realize now i was generalizing because of one unorganized, unprofessional department. i was wondering if the way i was treated was the norm- and obviously it isn't. i am very glad to have so many people write and tell me that this isn't normal.


    the other staff members who were fighting, they may not have even been nurses, but the way they spoke to each other, especially the cursing, was totally uncalled for. they knew patients could hear them. someone should have stopped them. i would never want to work with people that spoke to eachother like that. i don't usually have panic attacks, and no, i have never been assaulted before, but i know this may be something i have to deal with as a nurse. i was brutally attacked by someone i thought was a friend, because i didn't want him to drive intoxicated. i took his keys and tried to help him, and he ended up slamming me into a wall and punching me.


    at that moment, while i was bleeding, scared, and traumatized, was not the time to say "you did this to yourself" "make better friends" hello, i think i figured out that i made a mistake. i never thought that this friend would beat me. if i could go back and change it, i would. this was at 10am on a saturday, and i was sober, my friend that drove me was sober, and i honestly have no idea what is wrong with this guy that he did that, why he was drunk, or why he decided to come over that way. i have never seen him like that, it was possible he was on drugs, and i never plan on speaking to him again unless it is in a courtroom. this is someone i have known for 5 years, who was never violent before. i don't know of anyone who gets abused and thinks "i knew that was coming".

    i didn't go into the er expecting anything; i was in a total daze. but after being discharged and looking back on the experience, the way that rn spoke to me, without knowing me or my situation, really made me sick. the panic attack was humiliating, the way she shouted and shoved pills at me made me uneasy. she should have explained what she was giving me, at least.

    anyways, thanks everyone who left positive comments. you are right. i will use this as more motivation to be a great nurse. it means a lot that you agree with me that this was inappropriate.
  9. by   Cul2
    I can't believe what I'm reading here. Assuming this is a true story, only one person suggests
    the OP file a complaint? Only one? To the OP -- Be a nurse. Be a good, ethical, caring, responsible nurse. Begin your career by filing a complaint. Write up a detailed description of what happened to you, naming names, and file it with the proper authorities. If this there were mitigating circumstances explaining the behavior of these nurses, take that into consideration. If this is how they behave on a regular basis, hope your complaint begins a process to either reeducate them or supply them with a ticket out of the profession.
    Patients don't have to put up with this abusive, judgmental behavior. They simply don't. Start being a patient advocate early in your career. You're a patient, too.
  10. by   kids
    I'm not going to criticize the nurses in the ER nor am I going to make excuses for them. None of us were there to witness the nurse's interactions with the OP. The OP had some confusion going on, her recollection of the events may not reflect that happened. How many times have we had a confused patient accuse us of trying to poison them with their meds or call 911 because we're holding them against their will.
    Quote from Lindsey-Student
    A minute later I went to the bathroom and I forgot where I was. I was extremely dizzy and began to panic. I walked out into the hallway, walked up to a staff member and said “I need help, something is wrong with me, I don’t know where I am”
    As for rethinking nursing as a career choice, I have to agree with aznurse1's (albeit harsh) response.
    If you don't think you want to be a nurse based on this ONE event...then don't.
    If you've made it this far without figuring out that every nurse is different then I'm afraid you'll have a lot more disappointments down the road. It's just plain foolish to beg another adult to not change their career choice, especially a stranger on the internet.

    Being assaulted is very traumatic, even more so when it's at the hands of someone you know and trust. I hope all of your wounds heal quickly.
  11. by   SuesquatchRN
    Quote from kids
    I'm not going to criticize the nurses in the ER nor am I going to make excuses for them. None of us were there to witness the nurse's interactions with the OP. The OP had some confusion going on, her recollection of the events may not reflect that happened. How many times have we had a confused patient accuse us of trying to poison them with their meds or call 911 because we're holding them against their will.
    And I am rather surprised at all of the folks here who are pushing the OP to complain about the nurses (or UAP) involved. Way to turn on your own.
  12. by   JBudd
    Quote from SuesquatchRN
    And I am rather surprised at all of the folks here who are pushing the OP to complain about the nurses (or UAP) involved. Way to turn on your own.
    Hardly turning on your own, it is self policing of our profession. How many times do we hear of terrible surgeons continuing to harm people because their colleagues refuse "to turn on your own"? Bad behavior is bad behavior no matter what the profession.

    OP, sounds like you are dealing with this well. Kudos to you for trying to stop a drunk from driving, and for the courage to follow up with police and court. The complaints that our director brings to the floor are much better received when prefaced with "I just wanted you to know about my experience" and a calm description of what happened, rather than fire-eating attacks on her staff. More likely to have something done about it as well.
  13. by   SuesquatchRN
    Self-policing? Alleged rudeness is far from dangerous surgery.

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