"i read your post. i know what it said.
the original post, and the topic of this thread, was an observation of human behavior that we nurses encounter frequently. sometimes we can make stereotypes from these observations. that's the interesting thing about stereotyping, is that it has such a negative connotation, but yet there are studies that suggest that stereotyping is typically quite accurate.
i agree that there are a lot of comments on an that do seem to be a bit lacking in areas such as psychological insight and emotional intelligence, but that phenomenon is not limited to an.
which brings me to a side note, i understand you are not a nurse. may i ask what your occupation is, and what you expect to gain by participating on a discussion forum for nurses?"
stargazer: i agree that the lack of psychological insight isn't limited to allnurses, but my expectation (perhaps it's misguided) is that nurses should have a good handle on human psychology. although, i must say, i read a significant number of posts on allnurses as condescending also. some are unintentional as are mine. some are consciously condescending and use "venting" as an excuse. a few points in response to your last post:
i'd like to see the studies you refer to regarding stereotyping. i'll refer you to the work of dr. jerome groopman, esp. his book "how doctor's think," and several of his essays. also, atu gwande. groopman has focused on cognitive traps, or thinking errors that doctors (and nurses) fall into that sometimes result in fatal errors. these involve the use and misuse of heuristics. i don't deny the value of heuristics and stereotypes. but they also present dangers. frankly, i see too much generalization and stereotyping on allnurses, esp. regarding patient behavior.
you find my comment is indicative of a sense of superiority on my part? perhaps. we all have our egos. perhaps i have a background in psychology. you say you "understand" that i am not a nurse, and if that is true, what my background is and what i expect to gain from participating in this discussion. i'm not quite sure how you can know what anybody is or isn't on this blog. just because one says one's a nurse, that doesn't necessarily mean anything. this is the web, remember? what i hope to gain from participating, whether i'm a nurse or not, is to present some different perspectives on issues under discussion. i'm not saying i'm always right, but enjoy playing the devil's advocate, especially when i seen discourse moving in only one direction and everybody agreeing with everybody else with little objection.
my occupation is not relevant. the strength and validity of my arguments are relevant. they should stand or fall on reason and logic. but do remember this -- the verb "to nurse" is a transitive verb. that means it takes an object (not that patients are objects). but one doesn't "nurse" in a vacum. for the action to be complete, one needs a patient. the patient is the other half of the action. without the patient, there is no action. the patient's perspective is as valuable as the nurses or doctor's. i won't say more valuable. as valuable in its own way.
having said all that, i'll work on my occasional tendency to appear condescending and superior. that's not my intent. i just enjoy a robust debate, and i think that's important in any profession.