I admire you and the courage it took for you to change-and shame on your family and those friends that did not embrace you.Our country is so wacked out about all things even vaguely sexual-it's a darn shame that things like trangender and ambiguous genitalia are viewed as suspect.But I am not really surprised-my "born again" bro in law and his wife stopped watching ER when the gay doc came out.....
Thank You! Yes our country is somewhat whacked on a lot of issues. However a common misconception is that this is some type of sexual condition. It's about gender, not sex. The media and even some in the medical community want to sexualize this, but from my experience, and others I've met, it has nothing to do with sex. For some unknown reason somebody created the umbrella term "transgendered" hoping to sweep a disparate group of individuals under one convenient label. They may profess a certain gender duality, but their core identity coincides with their birth sex. Those like myself don't have a dual gender identity which is why we undergo this arduous and expensive treatment to eliminate those physical markings that contrast with our brain sex. Obviously their are certain limitations to this treatment, but we do what we can so everything can be balanced, so our social interactions can be harmonized. I guess my concerns on the background check are based on fears, just or unjust, that this balance will be disrupted. I know that sounds pretty out there!
Born Again BIL? Well most of my family is conservative and some are very religious. And my friends/co-workers, past or present run the gamut of conservative/liberal, straight/gay, Christian/Non-Christian, young/old. You would think it would be easy to determine who might be accepting and who might not, but I've learned you can't use this criteria to judge how people may react. Yes I've had some fundamental Christians give me a difficult time, but I've also had some as my strongest allies. One gay ex-friend of mine reacted worse than just about anyone. Some very liberal friends also reacted badly. I've found that those who understand this was about gender identity, not sex are very accepting. Those who try to sexualize it, or make it into some lifestyle choice react negatively. I'm sure anyone who reads this post who is in the second group would react this way regardless of whether they knew as soon as the met me, or found out months later. I can't control people's attitudes, but I do have some power regarding the information I choose to reveal, or not reveal.
I have often wondered how horribly painful it must feel to be trapped in a body you are not comfortable with.
It was very painful, maybe even moreso as a child as I tried to go one way only to be pushed the other way. Feminine actions were punished and masculine actions enforced. What may be considered cute behavior at age 3 was a cause for alarm at age 6. Neighborhood boys and the kids at my schools showed me no mercy simply because I was different from them. Being bullied and beaten up was a regular occurence from age 5-16. That's just the tip of the iceberg! Honestly I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. I did what I needed to do to survive and be happy.
I guess my next step is setting up some consultations. Hopefully this won't be an issue at all.