Are You Popular At Work? - page 4

Do your coworkers like you and like working with you? Why? Why not? Do you care one way or the other?... Read More

  1. by   JB2007
    I work with nurses that are very nice to your face, but what they say behind your back is a totally different thing. To my face I am the best thing since sliced bread, so I am assuming that means I am a dog turd as far as they are concerned. Personally, I do not care. I have made my feelings perfectly clear about their catty ways many times (to their face I might add) and I refuse to join in on the bash your co-worker fest. Can the little witches hurt my feelings? Every once in a while they hit a sore spot with their passive agressive nastiness, but I will never let them know.
  2. by   chicookie
    I think I might be popular just because I am always joking around with everyone. Even the hucs that don't like anyone seem to like me. Of course one time two RNs fought over being my preceptor. They both wanted to do it. So I suppose either I am liked or they didn't want to work. LOL (jk they both are very hard working nurses that I love)

    My mom says I have a very magnetic personality. I think I have an antisocial personality but it seems the more I push away the harder it is to get rid of people. I just tell it as it is to peoples faces. Then I joke about it and say its cause I am spanish.
    Last edit by chicookie on May 25, '09
  3. by   nerdtonurse?
    Quote from chicookie
    I just tell it as it is to peoples faces. Then I joke about it and say its cause I am spanish.
    Down here, we can say just about anything to anybody or about anybody, as long as we end it with "bless her heart..." Like:

    "If it took her any longer to bathe a patient, she'd have to get a license for water therapy, bless her heart..."


    "She's the worst nurse on the floor, and I wouldn't let her look after a dying cat, but she tries, bless her heart..."

    "Dr. X thinks he's all that, but he couldn't diagnose a severed arm, he'd call it 'minor tissue damage', bless his heart."
  4. by   southernbeegirl
    Quote from nerdtonurse?
    Down here, we can say just about anything to anybody or about anybody, as long as we end it with "bless her heart..." Like:

    "If it took her any longer to bathe a patient, she'd have to get a license for water therapy, bless her heart..."


    "She's the worst nurse on the floor, and I wouldn't let her look after a dying cat, but she tries, bless her heart..."

    "Dr. X thinks he's all that, but he couldn't diagnose a severed arm, he'd call it 'minor tissue damage', bless his heart."
    haha! i'm in the south and this is sooooooo true!!
  5. by   Babzuptown
    Quote from nerdtonurse?
    Down here, we can say just about anything to anybody or about anybody, as long as we end it with "bless her heart..." Like:

    "If it took her any longer to bathe a patient, she'd have to get a license for water therapy, bless her heart..."


    "She's the worst nurse on the floor, and I wouldn't let her look after a dying cat, but she tries, bless her heart..."

    "Dr. X thinks he's all that, but he couldn't diagnose a severed arm, he'd call it 'minor tissue damage', bless his heart."
    How cute! How clever. Love this.
  6. by   SunnyAndrsn
    Quote from Vito Andolini
    Do your coworkers like you and like working with you?

    Why? Why not?

    Do you care one way or the other?
    My patients are happy with the care I give, it's their opinion that matters to me. My managers are happy with my performance, and I think I get along well with my co-workers. I don't go out with work friends outside of work, and we're not set up to take our breaks together.

    Of course, I work with all women and sometimes there is gossip--I do my best to try and stop gossip in it's tracks and not carry it on to anyone else. I sometimes fail because, well, I'm human. Sometimes I have a bad day, and the CNAs have called me the B word behind my back. In the end, the resident who was dying helped me to recognize what was important "I'm so glad you're my nurse today, I know I can count on you, now I can relax and get some rest."

    So no...I don't care one way or another. I can't specifically give a reason as to why I think my co-workers like me, I'm too prejudiced to my good points :-) and probably a bit blinded to my bad points :-)

    Again, I'm more concerned about keeping my residents happy and giving them high quality care.
  7. by   Pixie.RN
    I don't know about "popular." I mean, my coworkers like me in general and seem to enjoy working with me (because I *work* and I don't ride a chair at the nurses station all day), but I'm also a bit of a loner. I've never been one to have a huge circle of friends, and I often prefer just my own company, or the company of a very select few. Just the way I've always rolled! And yes, I've found that people confide in me, too. Probably because I know how to keep my mouth shut. But I don't hang out with my coworkers in my off-time ... the only time I have is when we all got together to help a coworker get her house/yard squared away so she could sell it.

    And that "bless his/her heart" thing is so true, LOL! One of my coworkers does that all the time. She put a very tall, not-so-bright patient in one of my rooms yesterday, and came to tell me about him: "His height is way up here [stretches up arm], but his IQ is waaay down here [hand about waist-high], bless his heart ..."
  8. by   chicookie
    Quote from nerdtonurse?
    Down here, we can say just about anything to anybody or about anybody, as long as we end it with "bless her heart..." Like:

    "If it took her any longer to bathe a patient, she'd have to get a license for water therapy, bless her heart..."


    "She's the worst nurse on the floor, and I wouldn't let her look after a dying cat, but she tries, bless her heart..."

    "Dr. X thinks he's all that, but he couldn't diagnose a severed arm, he'd call it 'minor tissue damage', bless his heart."
    Hey I am down here too. (Well not really, Florida. ) I do hear it all the time. I tried to once it just sounded strange coming from me.
  9. by   2BSure
    Quote from nerdtonurse?
    Down here, we can say just about anything to anybody or about anybody, as long as we end it with "bless her heart..." Like:

    "If it took her any longer to bathe a patient, she'd have to get a license for water therapy, bless her heart..."


    "She's the worst nurse on the floor, and I wouldn't let her look after a dying cat, but she tries, bless her heart..."

    "Dr. X thinks he's all that, but he couldn't diagnose a severed arm, he'd call it 'minor tissue damage', bless his heart."
    OMG that is funny.
  10. by   whoknows56
    I get along with everyone since I don't ***** about stuff. I've learned my lessons in past jobs. When I graduated high school, I got a job transporting patients....I was going to college at the same time. There was another co-worker that was a nursing student and we would often talk about topics related to human physiology and the life long "labor" workers hated us. They would talk behind my back, put pornography in my mail box (true story), and would write stuff on paper when nobody was around. I was as happy as heck when I moved away to finish my degree.

    I'm so glad to work with "educated" people now.
  11. by   diane227
    I do care because I am the charge nurse and I have to keep my head on my shoulders in order to do my work properly. I try to be fair with everyone and the people I don't like (there is no one that I dislike on a personal level) because their nursing care sucks, I just keep it between myself and my manager. I know that people like to work with me. They try to schedule their shifts when I am on and they tell me over and over that they like working with me.
  12. by   PeachPie
    I seem to be on pretty good terms on pretty much everyone with work, especially people who were in very strict disciplines like the military. I'm very objective and keep to myself most of the time, and very rarely talk about something non work related inside of work. I do say hello and ask how they're doing and thank them for a job well done. I've been told that I'm seen as quiet, serious, and that I try really hard. However, I don't care if they like me or not. I care about whether or not work can get done efficiently with them, whether or not they're civil, and whether or not they're mature enough to set aside differences and frivolous distractions for the objective we're hired to do.

    I have made a few friends at work, but I'm reluctant to mix personal and work life. In fact, I didn't start getting close to one of my now dear friends until I left the job, as one of my coping methods for the stresses of floor nursing is almost complete dissociation of my two lives. That, and the fact that she accidentally let loose a story about my sex life to another coworker taught me that the two lives can affect each other. I forgave her immediately, but it taught me the risks involved with a dual life friendship.

    However, I do think that I tend to win some major kudos from Nigerian, Filipino, and Kenyan nurses for knowing a few words in their languages (Igbo, Yoruba, Tagalog, Kiswahili). Even thought they're great beforehand, they get very surprised and seems to earn me some kind of... I dunno, respect? Rapport?
    Last edit by PeachPie on May 28, '09
  13. by   jlcole45
    Yes. I believe its because I am a hard worker, and because I have over 20 years of experience and because I am approachable and pleasant.

    That said, I do not seek out to be popular or well liked by my co workers, as I am there to work and not to make friends.

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