From First Generation College Student To Nurse

This is my personal story of an upward strive toward the degree and credentials that would eventually free me from a life of bleakness in the factories. I did not have the full support of family during my journey. If my account of life as a first generation college student helps or inspires even one person out there, then my effort to capture my thoughts into the written word is worth it to me.

First generation college students often have educational experiences that greatly differ from those of their classmates who come from more educated families. I was one of those students who had been the first in my immediate family to complete college, and as a result, I faced issues that were unfamiliar to many of my counterparts. Today's common definition of the first-generation student is still derived from the coined definition and refers to a student who is the first in his/her family (mother, father, or siblings) to complete a college education (Payne, 2007).

My mother and father finished high school in the mid 1970s, entered the entry-level workforce immediately after graduating, and married a few years later. Although my mother attended a trade school to train to become a paralegal when she was 18 years old, she dropped out of the program after seven months. I am their only child.

My academic performance was better than average during my growing-up years and I graduated from high school with a 3.5 grade point average in the late 1990s. Although I was accepted to three regional state universities during my senior year of high school, my parents refused to provide any financial information on the FAFSA. They strongly discouraged me from attending university, and since my identity was not completely formed in my late teens, I abandoned my dreams of college and instead worked a string of dead-end jobs well into my early twenties.

support-nursing.jpg I briefly attended the local community college when I was 19 and 20 years old and paid for the classes with my hard-earned money while working 40 hours per week. My father would ask, "What classes are you taking?" He would roll his eyes and scowl once he found out I was enrolled in general education courses such as science, English, history, and so on. "What kind of job will a science class get you?" he demanded to know.

Due to their almost nonexistent college experience, my parents were unaware of general education requirements that must be completed before one even can enroll in courses specific to a degree program. They had no clue about the number of college credits one must complete before earning an associates degree, or bachelors degree, or so forth. They did not know that the typical college course is worth about three or four credits.

Most importantly, no one in their circle of friends or acquaintances had any education beyond a high school diploma. The only college-educated people with whom they came into contact included the teachers at my schools, the physicians at their doctors offices, and the engineers who supervised them at the factories where they worked. The idea of their daughter attending college was nothing more that a truncated notion that cost lots of money with no guarantee of remuneration. On the other hand, my acquaintances who had academically-oriented families were all expected to graduate from college with full support and guidance from parents every step of the way.

My successes in school really took off once I moved out of my parent's household and depended on myself for support. I completed an LVN program, then an RN program, and now my mother and father finally see where college education can take a person in life. I'm glad to say that they are proud of my achievements.

Some first generation college students are fortunate to receive abundant encouragement and support from their families of origin. Too commonly, however, other families actively discourage the first generation student from pursuing higher education. Parents, siblings, and friends who have no experience of college or its rewards may be non-supportive or even obstructionist (Hsiao, 1992).

40 percent of all pupils in institutions of higher learning in America are first generation college students, so we are a force to be reckoned with and will continue this ascent in the future. Some of us were raised in households where the college culture is viewed as unknown and alien; therefore, we have more obstacles to overcome than our classmates who hail from families who can help them navigate the maze of higher education.

This is my personal story of an upward strive toward the degree and credentials that would eventually free me from the bleakness of life in the factories. If my account of life as a first generation college student helps or inspires even one person out there, then my effort to capture my thoughts into the written word is worth it to me. Keep striving toward the pot at the end of that rainbow because the prize is more gratifying than you'll ever know.

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I am also a first generation college student. 1 of my parents later in life got a ged, the other has some hs. Both of them are smart but had some difficult life circumstances growing up. Working as pre teens etc, no parental support for one of them as a teen. They had pretty good labor jobs and made pretty ok money I suppose . Because I grew up where many children had teen parents, ones who didnt want to work, had really low paying jobs I considered myself really well off but in retrospect was lower middle class. They valued education, my mother especially. My dad was a do whatever you want type parent. I did really well in school so I expected to go to college to get a degree in a field like nursing where jobs were plenty ( where when i was in hs) and well paying. my parents encouraged it ,when prompted, if I majored in a vocational type of field.. They thought I was pretty smart and had a chance of succeeding in becoming a nurse which to them is a big step up income wise. Also they and their friends worked as roofers, construction , cashiers, factories. They knew some of those were mostly only for men or very low paying. The factories were dead. They had friends whose children were nurses and engineers so they knew about gen ed classes and the rigors of school from that Growing up though, I knew alot of kids whose parents discouraged higher education and didnt care about even hs. It is very difficult to overcome that. and not many people can.

Also.... my parents didn't know About SATs, college applications, etc. I couldn't count on them for that . I did everything and learned about everything on my own. While in college, I had a pt office job where many employees had hs aged kids. They wound talk about college apps, sats, acts , extra tutoring for that etc. My parents had no clue what a good SAT score was, let alone how and when to register. It is doable for a smart, very motivated teen. But some of their kids definitely had a leg up with their parents proofreading hw , essays, AP class tutoring , reminders about deadlines, etc. These are thing that aren 't available to many and most uneducated people are unaware of. Sometimes I thought/think, "how can people have the same expectations of kids not raised that way". I mean plenty of classmates had parents in jail, drug and alcohol addicts. etc . Sometime I don't think people understand how much of a difference parental involvement can make or do not want to acknowledge it as an advantage. I think I saw a lot classmates do pretty well given their circumstances. I would expect alot more from my own children, simply because I would know more than my parents did, hope I would/will be an involved parent, encourage ap classes, help with hw etc. My parents couldn't really do that.

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Also.... my parents didn't know About SATs, college applications, etc. I couldn't count on them for that . I did everything and learned about everything on my own. While in college, I had a pt office job where many employees had hs aged kids. They wound talk about college apps, sats, acts , extra tutoring for that etc. My parents had no clue what a good SAT score was, let alone how and when to register. It is doable for a smart, very motivated teen. But some of their kids definitely had a leg up with their parents proofreading hw , essays, AP class tutoring , reminders about deadlines, etc. These are thing that aren 't available to many and most uneducated people are unaware of. Sometimes I thought/think, "how can people have the same expectations of kids not raised that way". I mean plenty of classmates had parents in jail, drug and alcohol addicts. etc . Sometime I don't think people understand how much of a difference parental involvement can make or do not want to acknowledge it as an advantage. I think I saw a lot classmates do pretty well given their circumstances. I would expect alot more from my own children, simply because I would know more than my parents did, hope I would/will be an involved parent, encourage ap classes, help with hw etc. My parents couldn't really do that.

My parents both went to college but a long time ago. My dad has no idea how financial aid works and didn't want to help me pay for college. My parents never pushed me to do anything, study in high school, study for the SAT, sign up for it, admissions to college, etc. everything I've done I've done it from my own ideas and drive. I am glad I had my high school counselor that suggested AP and honors classes. I was on my own in those classes too. It's almost the opposite situation (mom a teacher, dad a dentist). I think the only advice/help was from my older sister who is a lawyer and wrote me a letter about what to focus on in college. It was really nice. However, my mom has always been my number one fan. Whatever I chose to do, she was always there supporting me.

I also hope to help my children. Sometimes I was so overwhelmed. It would have been nice to have a little guidance other than my high school counselor. Oh well. I ended up where I wanted so that's all that matters, I guess.

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Also.... my parents didn't know About SATs, college applications, etc. I couldn't count on them for that . I did everything and learned about everything on my own.
Same here. My parents knew nothing about the SAT, ACT, or the application process. I learned about these things from more knowledgeable classmates, teachers, and my guidance counselor.
While in college, I had a pt office job where many employees had hs aged kids. They wound talk about college apps, sats, acts , extra tutoring for that etc. My parents had no clue what a good SAT score was, let alone how and when to register.
When I attended college prep and honors classes in high school, most of my classmates had highly educated professionals as parents: physicians, attorneys, schoolteachers, superintendents, businessmen, etc. These parents were guiding my classmates, making sure they selected a college prep track, providing advice on careers, funding after-school activities, and reading the SAT score reports. On the other hand, my mother and father were hands-off when it came to these things because they did not know about them.
It is doable for a smart, very motivated teen. But some of their kids definitely had a leg up with their parents proofreading hw , essays, AP class tutoring , reminders about deadlines, etc. These are thing that aren 't available to many and most uneducated people are unaware of. Sometimes I thought/think, "how can people have the same expectations of kids not raised that way". I mean plenty of classmates had parents in jail, drug and alcohol addicts. etc .
I totally agree.

Sometime I don't think people understand how much of a difference parental involvement can make or do not want to acknowledge it as an advantage. I think I saw a lot classmates do pretty well given their circumstances. I would expect alot more from my own children, simply because I would know more than my parents did, hope I would/will be an involved parent, encourage ap classes, help with hw etc. My parents couldn't really do that.
Exactly. Some kids start school (and progress through the system) with unseen home advantages, yet policy makers expect all students to perform at the same level. Some people are in denial about the difference that a home environment can make with regards to school performance.

I'm 5 months away from being first generation college student graduate...actually I was first generation high school graduate and first generation to attend any form of higher education.

My mom did the best that she could. She had no knowledge of anything remotely related to college (financial aid, SAT, etc. She did what she could in terms of helping me, always willing to do whatever it was that I needed). Yet, she was always a driving force for me to do excel and do well. She took a job at a local well known University so that I would have the opportunity to attend that school tuition free. (failing to realize that I still needed to be accepted into that University). And while I loved her for doing that, the University she worked for was not a school I really wanted to attend. But it was either that or nothing. I took that and hated every minute of it. Life circumstances happened and I dropped out.v Aways feeling so guilty that she worked at that thankless job for me.

I did go back to college years later, slowly completing classes needed for the pre-reqs. Anyway..again life happened and I stopped. It wasn't until I was 37 that I went to LPN school, and although it did not get me a college degree, my mom sat beaming in the audience as I graduated with honors. She continues to be a striving force for me as I get closer and closer to walking across the stage to get my college degree. She is very proud of me and my accomplishments. Always telling me that her children getting an education and graduating college was always her dream for us. My sister did not attend college (never stepped foot in a school other than high school). She's more hands on/trade driven. My mom is also very proud of her, but mom is anxiously awaiting the time that she can watch as her 'child' walks and gets that degree.

Mom never mentioned wishing she had graduated high school or attend attend college. I asked her one day why didn't she and she said she just never had a desire to do it. She was of the generation that a college education was not really needed in order to live a middle class life.

My mom is 68 years old now and has seen both her children graduate high school, seen 3 of her 4 grandchildren (the 4th is only in 6th grade now) graduate high school, watches as 2 grandchildren currently attending college and of those 2, one is a few classes from graduating, and soon she will see her child graduate college. My hope is she is able to see one of her grandchildren graduate college as well as seeing me get my BSN.

Mom has been the cheerleader and preacher to the grandchildren how important an education is. She was even the one who finally pursuaded me to go for the RN to BSN.

So, while my mom never had the opportunity to go to college and was only slightly able to help navigate the process with me, an education was always something she wanted her girls to have.

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Good article! My own parents were Italian Immigrants both raised on subsistence farms by my grandparents who did not even finish grade school due to WWII. My father finished grade school, and my mother finished high school. Both did English classes once they immigrated here. But still, my parents didn't even understand my report card in grade school. It took me a long time to finish college but am glad I did.

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Good article! My own parents were Italian Immigrants both raised on subsistence farms by my grandparents who did not even finish grade school due to WWII. My father finished grade school, and my mother finished high school. Both did English classes once they immigrated here. But still, my parents didn't even understand my report card in grade school. It took me a long time to finish college but am glad I did.

I'm amazed by people like you. It's tough to get through it but you all did it with determination.

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Thank you for sharing your story!

While one of my aunts completed college, my mother and father did not. I don't have a relationship with my mother (left when I was 3) but my father always wanted the best for me. He absolutely wanted me to go to college even though he never completed his college education. He passed away in 2002 but I know he would have been so proud of me when I got my Gen. Ed degree in 2011 and that I will be getting my ASN in May 2013. Also, my grandparents and aunts have been a huge support to me. They definitely see how much I love school and am excited to become a nurse.

Great insight! I thought that my parents were the only ones that refused to fill out a FASFA. I also ended up working a string of dead-end jobs since college was now put on the back-burner. I was living in an abusive situation and there was no way I would be able to support myself living alone and be able to go to college, as well. Congrats, to you.

I'm also a 1st generation college student. My sister dropped out of high school her sophomore year and I'm my parent's only child who graduated high school. They both don't value education nearly as much as I do. I've been paying for my prerequisite classes with loans and some small grants at the local community college and I'm almost ready to apply to nursing school! I can really relate to your story...Thanks for sharing!

Thank you for writing this. My grandparents had a 6th-grade education. My parents were educated in a 1-room schoolhouse (think Little House on the Prairie.) I was fortunate to have an older brother who blazed the trail for me. The part where your parents refused to provide info for the FAFSA form rang so true for me- I thought my folks where the only ones who did that! They were supportive, but distrustful and unfamiliar with the overall process of the educational system.

Here's the weird part- we've got the college educations, but I don't foresee that I'll ever be able to amass the finances that my dad did. He was just fortunate enough to live and work in an era of tremendous growth, and the golden age of economic development for the U.S. I don't see that happening in my future. In dad's day kids could drop out of high school, and the next day be on the automotive assembly line making a comfortable middle-class living. Now I've got my fancy-pants degree, a license to practice, and I'm scraping my fingernails to stay in the middle class.