I was just kind of curious for all the working parents out there how many credits are you taking. I am a mother of two. I am taking 9 credits.
Bio- 4 credits but 2 nights a week.
Sociology- 3 credits one evening
Stress-PE 2credit online class.
I do have the childrens father who supports me going to school and helps out, but now I am starting to feel a little guilty this is my first semester of having to go to class 3 nights a week. How much I regret not doing things earlier. My children are 7,11 year old boys. They don't seem to mind, but I feel bad. Is this too much when you have kids. I like this website because once I hear other peoples opinion and know other people are doing the same thing, maybe I will feel better. And when I am not in school, I do try to spend as much time with them. Does anyone else feel guilty?
My kids are 5 and 9. The 9yo is great...very supportive. My 5 yo is constantly begging me to stop going to school and stay home to play with her. She cried to my dh just last night that she wishes I would just go back to work (I work while she's in school so I guess she thinks I haven't been working...) and not go to school anymore. The GUILT! I have to just continue to think that all of our lives are going to be so much better once I am happily working as a nurse instead of what I'm doing now.
I was just kind of curious for all the working parents out there how many credits are you taking. I am a mother of two. I am taking 9 credits.
Bio- 4 credits but 2 nights a week.
Sociology- 3 credits one evening
Stress-PE 2credit online class.
I do have the childrens father who supports me going to school and helps out, but now I am starting to feel a little guilty this is my first semester of having to go to class 3 nights a week. How much I regret not doing things earlier. My children are 7,11 year old boys. They don't seem to mind, but I feel bad. Is this too much when you have kids. I like this website because once I hear other peoples opinion and know other people are doing the same thing, maybe I will feel better. And when I am not in school, I do try to spend as much time with them. Does anyone else feel guilty?
Hi Brandy, I noticed your taking evening classes. When I first started out, I also took evening classes. I took 3 classes that first semester. I had to take the evening schedule as everything else was filled up. I hated it. Once I got in to day classes, and my kids were at school, it was much easier. I don't know if that is feasable for you to do, but if you can take the classes while kids are at school, it makes it, a little less guilty feeling. It is good to hear your man supports you too, that is a very important thing you need. I am taking 14 credits this semester. I drive 22 miles each way to school. In the end it is totally worth it. Keep focused.
Hi Brandy, I noticed your taking evening classes. When I first started out, I also took evening classes. I took 3 classes that first semester. I had to take the evening schedule as everything else was filled up. I hated it. Once I got in to day classes, and my kids were at school, it was much easier. I don't know if that is feasable for you to do, but if you can take the classes while kids are at school, it makes it, a little less guilty feeling. It is good to hear your man supports you too, that is a very important thing you need. I am taking 14 credits this semester. I drive 22 miles each way to school. In the end it is totally worth it. Keep focused.
Oh how I wish I could take day classes, unfortunatly I have to work full time m-f 8-5. I never knew how much work school really is, until now. maybe because I am so eagar to accomplish this. Wow my school is not that far. I really hope it is worth it, because I have 3 more years to go. good luck to you
O BOY....... i have a 3 yr old, a 3 MONTH old, and another little one on the way!!!! i am SO ready to start nursing school........ but considering i never went to college i have to do my pre-reqs first.... ugh. i AM taking CLEPs tho so that will save ALOT of time AND money but i still feel bad. i figure all together this is going to take me four years to finish this up and start my path to a better life for my family...... BUT I KNOW IM GOING TO FEEL SO GUILTY IN THE MEAN TIME!!!!! on top of the schooling and home duties, i have NO CHOICE but to work full time. i feel awful knowing that i will be missing out on so much of my children's lives... FOR NOW...... but i keep trying to tell myself it will all be worth it in the end. i just hope i can pull it off!!!!!!
I have 1 child - a 2 year old daughter and I also work full-time days. I have yet to take more than 7 credit hours in one semester, but so far, it's been ok. I do the same thing - try to spend as much time with my daughter when I'm not in school. Right now I am just waiting to start the Nursing portion, so my schedule is light, but when I have a lot going on, I just have to tell myself why I am doing this and that it won't be forever! And that it'll make a better future for my family. Guilt is natural, but you just need to know that what your doing, you shouldn't feel guilty for that.
I took 15 credits last semester - I had class 6 days a week...and I have three young boys.
I still hung out with them every afternoon and evening...I had very little guilt LOL.
I thought it was good for them to see their mom going to school and studying. They were seriously proud of me. But it is nice to have a lot more time this semester. We're having fun together :)
I have four kids ages 3.5, 3.5, 5.5 and 7.5. I don't feel guilty at all taking classes. I don't think my kids mind a bit being left with their dad one night a week while I'm gone 3.5 hours, or the other night of the week when their favorite babysitter shows up to hang with them while I'm at class (dh travels a lot). I'm taking my last prereq right now, I imagine when I start the actual nursing classes in January life will get a bit more hairy, but in the long run the kids will benefit having another working parent (more income) and a happier, more fulfilled mom!
I am starting to know the feeling ladies.....I didn't have the mommy guilt when I did my Master's because I went two days a week in the evenings. I had no problem leaving the kids with hubby, as he works all day and I stay at home. We have 5 kids, ages 4,4,5,8,& 9. So the Master's was not easy by any means, but in a sense, almost a break for me, because I have been at home since 2002.
However, nursing school wil be a lot different, I can already see. It wouldn't be so bad if the programs were mostly in the evenings- but they aren't. I took 15 hours of prereqs in the Spring, during daytime hours. I felt guilty, as I had to miss field trips, helping at the school, etc for the first time ever. But I know it will all be worth it in the end. Now I'm just waiting to see where i get accepted..........
I took 15 credits last semester - I had class 6 days a week...and I have three young boys.
I still hung out with them every afternoon and evening...I had very little guilt LOL.
I thought it was good for them to see their mom going to school and studying. They were seriously proud of me. But it is nice to have a lot more time this semester. We're having fun together :)
You are not alone. I have 3 kids and while it is hard sometimes having to study while they want to play.... I really don't feel too guilty for going to school. I'm finally doing something for myself and I really enjoy it. It's nice to have some adult interaction and feel like part of society again. (I've stayed home for over 8 years now).
I'm only going part-time. I'm sure once I start full-time my feelings will change. But so far I'm pretty guilt free. I wish they made a cheesecake like that!!!
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Ugh...I am so with you on this.
My kids are 5 and 9. The 9yo is great...very supportive. My 5 yo is constantly begging me to stop going to school and stay home to play with her. She cried to my dh just last night that she wishes I would just go back to work (I work while she's in school so I guess she thinks I haven't been working...) and not go to school anymore. The GUILT! I have to just continue to think that all of our lives are going to be so much better once I am happily working as a nurse instead of what I'm doing now.
Chin up...soon it will all be over!
Lanie