Feel excluded from classmates

[lampard]

Hi I just wanted to say that I feel excluded by my classmates - particularly the people who are in my group.

There is this one girl, who's stopped even making eye contact with me, and she won't talk to me at all. She doesn't even look at me. It's just she's treating me like a ghost :)

IF she sees a funny picture on her facebook page, she'll show it to everyone else but exclude me from looking at it.

I feel really annoyed, and obviously this girl doesn't like me for some reason.

The other people in my group are friendly. But she's kind of like the queen bee of the group, so the others are kind of following suit.

I think the biggest reason is that...

the group is very ethnic-oriented. I don't know how to speak their language.

I thought that they seemed to be pretty motivated with class work, that's why I made friends with them in the first place.

I know that I didn't come to nursing school to make friends. And this feels really immature. But I don't know why this girl is ignoring me altogether.

I missed one or two classes, and then after that she stopped even looking at me.

Also, she got fairly good marks but I didn't on the next test, and she would totally ignore me after that.

One thing that could be the reason is that:-

I think I was a little selfish. Most of the people in my group like to exchange study notes and help each other out.

Once she missed one class, and asked me what she had missed. I told her that she didn't miss anything important, and told her to look at stuff on blackboard.

And then, the other student in the group told her that she missed something BIG, and then gave her notes to her.

Anyway, obviously she doesn't like me, and the group seems to be favouring her side. So, I guess it's best to leave the group and sit somewhere else now?

I really don't want to put up with this drama, because it's immature. I don't know what's up with her, but ignoring someone and disrespecting them is not nice is it?

[RN403, BSN, RN]

You're right, you are not in NS to make friends. There are always going to be people who don't like you whether it be in NS or in the working world. I wouldn't let one person get you down. You're energy is better off being used on your school work and not on this individual.

[lampard]

Yes I think that's true. I just don't want rumours going around because if I suddenly sit somewhere else people will get suspicious.

[RNsydneygirl]

I was the same, I commuted to nursing school 2 hours each way; everyone had plans together after class but I couldn't do anything because I had to make the train home. I decided that I wasn't there to make heaps of friends, just a couple of good ones who I'm still friends with now 3 years after graduation and we all live in seperate parts of the country.

I will encourage you however to try and make friends when you do your clinical placements, having people to talk to about experiences will help.

Good luck!

[lampard]

I know a few acquaintances in classes. They seem to be way friendlier than the people that I sit with. I feel like they're excluding me from all conversations. (especially the girl that tries to play the 'queen bee')

[Alex Egan, LPN, EMT-B]

Oh my.... You just wasted so many words, and mental effort, on these people you will most likely never care about or see again after school.

That's such a waste. Focus on passing school, be available if anyone wants to talk, but seriously you gotta drop this, it's using to much energy. It can't be worth it.

[Jen_Loves_Nursing]

Oh my.... You just wasted so many words, and mental effort, on these people you will most likely never care about or see again after school.

That's such a waste. Focus on passing school, be available if anyone wants to talk, but seriously you gotta drop this, it's using to much energy. It can't be worth it.

I don't want to sound rude but i couldn't agree more with this post! You are spending too much energy and emotion on this chick. sit at a different table (if it bothers you that bad) and move on.... but in the future, it wouldn't hurt to help share notes.. especially if you were in their shoes, you would appreciate it.

[Girlafraid13]

Oh no. Don't even worry about them you are in nursing school and that's enough to worry about. I once had a girl be really nasty to me in nursing school. I laughed and told her from now on don't talk to me unless it's school related/necessary for clincals. You will most likely not remain friends with these people after nursing school.

[nlitened]

Totally agree with everyone else. Focus on school not the other students. You are there to learn and graduate, not make friends.

[seriouslyserious, LPN]

i have met some of the most fudged up people/nurses in my life during nursing school... i doubt their ethnicity had to do anything with it. if it makes you feel any better, i will be your friend. =) stress school... and forget them.

[rob4546, ADN, BSN, MSN]

This isn't necessarily immature, we all have so sense of needing to be accepted. We are pack animals. But the people that survive and thrive learn to do so in spite of negative relationships. Go with the flow and don't let this get you down, not worth it. Study hard and graduate.... the end.

[iPink, BSN, RN]

I really don't want to put up with this drama, because it's immature.

BINGO! Yahtzee! Whatever...leave the "queen bee" and her little worker bees to themselves and move on. It's not the end of the world.

If however, it's still pulling at your heartstrings and you find yourself obsessing over this day and night, just pull her aside and talk. Then please move on.

Good luck with school.