I wanted to ask if there was anyone else there who's family opposed their becoming a nurse?
i spent a typical weekend at home last week (which is why i haven't been there in 6 months)...ending its its typical fashion....with a fight....upon which i was told by my father that i'm his biggest disappointment and an embarassment because i'm going to nursing school.:stone my mom then advised me not to come back home because of the nursing thing and how he feels about the issue (don't be mistaken..my mom is completely proud of me and brags all the time...but she also knows how my father is and how he acts to me and knows it's for my safety i don't go back)
I'm sorry you've had to go through this. I pity your father, who is losing more than you are, and doesn't even know it. He ought to be proud of you.
I spent the first half of my working life following in my father's footsteps, as a carpenter. My mother, who died when I was young, dropped out of nursing school to marry my dad. He thinks it's pretty cool that I'm following her footsteps for a while.
For both your sakes, I hope your father can someday find the wisdom to appreciate what a great thing you are doing. In any case, I hope you'll remember that it is a great thing, and be proud of yourself for undertaking it.
My dad actually didn't do his taxes one year in the hope I couldn't get financial aid to go to school. He wanted me to work for him running heavy equipment. He figured out I was going anyway when I worked 60hrs a week and went to school full time, then he gave up trying to stop me.
I figured he would be proud considering I'm only the 2nd person in my entire family to graduate high school. He's embarassed that I'm going to be a nurse and he thinks I look down upon him because he doesn't have an education. He won't tell his friends I'm a nursing student and if it comes up there is always the, "but he isn't gay" phrase. His friends know me, I have worked for many of them. They told me to go back to school because I had too much potential to waste on construction.
My mom is proud. My grandfather and grandmother are trying to help in anyway possible also, it is just my dad.
My dad is more proud of my brother because he works for him, but he will never talk about my brother's meth problem either. :uhoh21:
I wish parents would just support their children in what they do if it is constructive. :smackingf The joys of a screwed up family
My parent's are totally supportive of my decision to go to nursing school. In fact, I was the one hesitant to go at first hehe. Both of them are pretty proud that my brother and myself are going into nursing because they recognize the value of nursing as well the good career decision we made.
They tell pretty much everyone they know too for better or worse lol
My dad is an engineer in the Army and it would seem like he would be against it, but he thinks it rocks we are going into nursing. He tells everyone at work and alot of the guys there think it is awesome.
Hopefully, one day your dad will understand the awesome choice you made to go into nursing.
That is a terrible attitude for a parent to have. My Dad gives me nothing but support in any endeavor I choose. I am 46, and have had mostly factory jobs my whole life.
I have 2 sisters (both RN's) that do quite well financially and I have their support (and knowledge base) to fall back on when I'm discouraged.
Its my wife that is negative twords my goal as an RN. This has caused much turmoil in the house. Bu I am set to begin classes in 5 weeks and my mind is made up. If the issue is too much to handle there is always the option of going our seperate ways. I hope it doesn't come to that, but if it does Im prepared for that too.
I would think that she would be behind me 100%, but she thinks a job a walmart would be fine. I think not! I have invested too much time and energy into the pre-req's and scheduling conflicts (not to mention student loans) to give up now!
I have weathered many storms before, this one cant be too bad. Ill just put on my blinders and continue to pursue my goal (God willing).
That is a terrible attitude for a parent to have. My Dad gives me nothing but support in any endeavor I choose. I am 46, and have had mostly factory jobs my whole life.
I have 2 sisters (both RN's) that do quite well financially and I have their support (and knowledge base) to fall back on when I'm discouraged.
Its my wife that is negative twords my goal as an RN. This has caused much turmoil in the house. Bu I am set to begin classes in 5 weeks and my mind is made up. If the issue is too much to handle there is always the option of going our seperate ways. I hope it doesn't come to that, but if it does Im prepared for that too.
I would think that she would be behind me 100%, but she thinks a job a walmart would be fine. I think not! I have invested too much time and energy into the pre-req's and scheduling conflicts (not to mention student loans) to give up now!
I have weathered many storms before, this one cant be too bad. Ill just put on my blinders and continue to pursue my goal (God willing).
I wanted to ask if there was anyone else there who's family opposed their becoming a nurse?
i spent a typical weekend at home last week (which is why i haven't been there in 6 months)...ending its its typical fashion....with a fight....upon which i was told by my father that i'm his biggest disappointment and an embarassment because i'm going to nursing school.:stone my mom then advised me not to come back home because of the nursing thing and how he feels about the issue (don't be mistaken..my mom is completely proud of me and brags all the time...but she also knows how my father is and how he acts to me and knows it's for my safety i don't go back)
any guys out there experience something similar?
Maybe he would be pleased if you were a "street pharmacist." Hey, you can set your own hours, the money is not bad, from what I understand, & you're good as long as you don't get busted by the cops, & don't mind living in a constant state of paranoia. My step-father was a street pharmacist for many years. I know for sure that all the hard work really paid off because he has his very own prison cell and gets his meals 'catered.' What sucks is that he doesn't seem to have the freedom to move about, as he once did. I'm so proud of him . Way to set an example. Seriously, I say go for what you want!
I saw a T-shirt logo this weekend that read "we're not happy until you're not happy". That sums up my siblings - so despite my strong desires to have a family- my parents are both gone- I cant go one with their crazy BS. Sometimes you gotta know when t let go and find your own peace.
My parents always told me that I was too stupid to go to nursing school. They told me I was too stupid to do anything all of my life. And of course as a nurse, I wouldn't be as good as my BIL "The Doctor".
And then there's DW's family - her mother has said on several occasions "You're wasting your brain as a nurse".
We don't speak to either of our families, except one brother who doesn't have his head up his a$$.
Sorry to hear about the grief you guys went through.
I guess my family was glad to see me do something with earning potential. I was the hard one to convince!
I graduated from college with a BA in English liturature but with no interest in writing or in teaching. With a BA in EngLit and a buck fifty you can get a cup of coffee. I worked as a cook for awhile but could not justify all that effort in a line of work that seems to me to be so unimportant in the big picture. If everyu fancy restaurant in the world dried up tomorrow it would be a minor inconvenience. I took a job as a night orderly in a general hospital so that I could have evening free to go to night school and get my teaching certificate. I flunked practice teaching. No one who really wants to teach would flunk that course. I had to work hard a sabatoging myself. I just hated the public secondary school environment.
All this while I was loving my hospital work. Took me 5 yrs to figure out that I should go to nursing school. I had to get over the masculinity issue, but by then I had 3 kids so it was less of a question. :)
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I'm sorry you've had to go through this. I pity your father, who is losing more than you are, and doesn't even know it. He ought to be proud of you.
I spent the first half of my working life following in my father's footsteps, as a carpenter. My mother, who died when I was young, dropped out of nursing school to marry my dad. He thinks it's pretty cool that I'm following her footsteps for a while.
For both your sakes, I hope your father can someday find the wisdom to appreciate what a great thing you are doing. In any case, I hope you'll remember that it is a great thing, and be proud of yourself for undertaking it.