I wanted to ask if there was anyone else there who's family opposed their becoming a nurse?
i spent a typical weekend at home last week (which is why i haven't been there in 6 months)...ending its its typical fashion....with a fight....upon which i was told by my father that i'm his biggest disappointment and an embarassment because i'm going to nursing school.:stone my mom then advised me not to come back home because of the nursing thing and how he feels about the issue (don't be mistaken..my mom is completely proud of me and brags all the time...but she also knows how my father is and how he acts to me and knows it's for my safety i don't go back)
My dad actually didn't do his taxes one year in the hope I couldn't get financial aid to go to school. He wanted me to work for him running heavy equipment. He figured out I was going anyway when I worked 60hrs a week and went to school full time, then he gave up trying to stop me.
I figured he would be proud considering I'm only the 2nd person in my entire family to graduate high school. He's embarassed that I'm going to be a nurse and he thinks I look down upon him because he doesn't have an education. He won't tell his friends I'm a nursing student and if it comes up there is always the, "but he isn't gay" phrase. His friends know me, I have worked for many of them. They told me to go back to school because I had too much potential to waste on construction.
My mom is proud. My grandfather and grandmother are trying to help in anyway possible also, it is just my dad.
My dad is more proud of my brother because he works for him, but he will never talk about my brother's meth problem either. :uhoh21:
I wish parents would just support their children in what they do if it is constructive. :smackingf The joys of a screwed up family
I know we didn't know each other that long but you always struck me as one of the nicest and most considerate person I have ever met and I know you are smart. You are going to be a great nurse. I wish more of my current classmates were like you. Good luck with school in the fall!
I guess I was lucky in the fact my father was just happy to see me go to college and graduate. He didn't care what my major was just that I was in college. He liked the idea of having a nurse in the family because of all the questins he would ask. My mother also was proud of me. The actual nursing thing, being a female dominated sport, never really came up. He understood the reason I went into nursing and if he was alive today he would see the fruits of my effort. You got to live your own life and stop trying to live up to the expectations of others. Their not the ones going in every day for 8 hours putting up with all of the stress, the ups and downs and the pride you get at the end of the day because you helped someone get better. They should be happy you can go to work everyday, not worry about losing your job and stressing out whether you will even find another one. Nursing is as good as you want it to be. Good luck, Mike
Sounds like there's a lot of people who have dealt with this problem. I'm hoping my dad will not be so unforgiving if in fact I go on to be a nurse. I never even thought it could be a problem until i read these posts.
Only a couple weeks ago I first heard the term Psych Nurse and was immediately intrigued since my bac. is in psychology and I've been working with MI clients for a year now. I like what I've read so far in regards to this profession; hope my family feels the same way.
I feel sorry for those of you who's families turned their back to you over your choice of career...seems so rediculous. I'll post more if my dad does the same thing.
My family has actually been supportive. My Dad never did claim me, and hasn't spoke to me since 1998, so I don't know if he even knows. I have been the hard one to convince. Things finall came to a head this summer when my grandparents phoned my mother and said they need to speak with her and I. When we got to their house, my Grandma basically started crying and said that if I would go ahead and start nursing school, they would pay my tuition. They went on to say that they want to leave a legacy when they are gone. That legacy will be me and all the lives I will touch as a nurse...When I am feeling burned out in school, all I have to do is remember those words, and the pride, faith and trust they have in me, and I feel at peace again. Mom wanted me to be a nurse way back in High School. I always said no way! I don't wanna be a butt wiper all my life!!! Now that I am older, I wish I had listened to her.
To start with, parents should always support their children's choice, as long as it is a legal and decent one , maybe he would have prefered to be told that your career inspiration was to sell your body? Try that next time.
Honnestly, i dont know your father but he is an idiot. May i ask his profession? Lawyer, Judge, Surgeon, Astronaut, FBI agent???
What did he want you to do? In what a nursing career is bad choice, try to ask him all those questions in a calm way if that is possible at all.
pie123
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Same here.