Hi all,
I'm just looking for some "pats on the back" and to hear about similar experiences, because I know this not the first time this has happened to a nurse and I'm sure I will experience this again.
I am a new grad in a very intense cardiac surgery ICU. I've been working there about six months now. I think I have been doing very well. My co-workers like working with me and they tell me I'm doing a great job, especially for a new grad. Literally on this same day, I had my first review with my manager who told me I am doing a great job and have fully met all expectations (apparently, this is somewhat unusual for a review with our managers). Many times I have had patient's families express how happy they are with my care and I make them feel comfortable and confident. Many patients want me to stay with them as their nurse when I transfer them to stepdown. I'm working hard to try to build up my confidence in this intense environment.
Anyways, I had it happened to me for the first time.
My patient's wife didn't want me back has his nurse!
As a background, my patient was very sick, intubated, and sedated. The night before my shift, the charge nurse specifically chose me to work with this patient assignment because both families were very demanding and they felt I work very well with difficult families. I worked hard for this patient all day and I spent more time in his room than I would have liked to because I felt like my other patient wasn't getting appropriate attention. The main reason that I spent so much time in his room was because the wife obviously liked information. She struck me as an intelligent woman. I explained every medication I gave, I explained every drip, I constantly reinforced my plans for my shift, and let her sit in the cramped room all day even though I constantly had to jump around her to reach machines, the patient, and drips. The wife was outrageously doting. Like, excessive, (if I'm allowed to have an opinion).
Anyways, as I left that night, the charge nurse took over for me, and asked if I wanted this assignment again. I told her that would be fine. Well, I come in the next day, and I had a completely different assignment. According to the charge, the patient's wife felt like she didn't "connect" with me and requested someone else. She didn't cite anything specific. Ironically, the person that was reassigned to this patient has just about as much experience as me and sometimes comes to me for advice on situations.
At first, I felt like I was just going to brush it off my shoulder. But as I think about it, I'm finding myself upset. I'm irritated that the wife didn't seem to understand how hard I tried to keep everyone happy, including her. And I also feel like my confidence is hurt. Did I appear incompetent to her? DID I make a mistake that I don't even realize?
Just looking for similar experiences and maybe some humor!
Thanks everyone!