Faking having cancer, can you imagine?

Brownms46 · Oct 28, 2003

You know I have seen a lot of different behaviors, when children lose someone close to them. And many times parents or loves ones don't really understand, or even realize what is going on with their children. Sometimes the kids themselves don't understand why they do certain things.

Surpressed emotional scars manifest sometimes, in many different ways. Losing her father at the age of 15 maybe have been a critical point in this young woman's life. Many teens develop coping problems d/t the death of a parent, especially one their close to.

Maybe this young lady lost the secruity she had while her father was alive. I still wonder why her other family members weren't mention in the story.

Love-A-Nurse · Oct 28, 2003

it would be interesting to know where her family members are and what role did they, if any, "play" in her life after the loss of her father.

KLS · Oct 28, 2003

I wonder what causes people to behave in this way. I do believe previous life experiences come into play.

she has some definite underlying problems that need addressing.

hope she gets help before her "issues" get worse

vaughanmk · Oct 28, 2003

I only have one thing to say... This girl is going to he!! She lied to a lot of people including nun's. Isn't that a mortal sin?

It really is sad that people feel the need to do this. It just makes you wonder why?

ktwlpn, LPN · Oct 28, 2003

Originally posted by vaughanmk
I only have one thing to say... This girl is going to he!! She lied to a lot of people including nun's. Isn't that a mortal sin?

It really is sad that people feel the need to do this. It just makes you wonder why?

Read grammy Browns post-she explains it very well...My father was sick from the time I was 6 until he died when I was 13-my mom went to work to support us.She had never even written a check-she was a strong and brave person and at the time really did not have the time to deal with my teenage angst.She became ill and died when I was in my early 30's..Intellectually I know that I could not have done anything to stop it but I continue to punish myself in some way everyday(self abusive behaviors)...Knowing that I am the same age now that she was when dad got sick is not helping...and at this point I am not ready or willing to try to find out why I do what I do ...I feel like it's a big can of worms that I just don't have the strength to handle...My current family doctor has a good idea of what is going on-but I'll just find another one if I feel pushed...

oramar · Oct 28, 2003

Wasn't there another case where the parents totally had everyone convinced their daughter was dying of leukemia? The poor kid even believed she was dying, they shaved her head and had her appear on tv. The reason was totally financial in this case. They had passed the hat many times collecting money to pay for the childs care. I think they are doing time right now.

Brownms46 · Oct 28, 2003

Originally posted by ktwlpn
Read grammy Browns post-she explains it very well...My father was sick from the time I was 6 until he died when I was 13-my mom went to work to support us.She had never even written a check-she was a strong and brave person and at the time really did not have the time to deal with my teenage angst.She became ill and died when I was in my early 30's..Intellectually I know that I could not have done anything to stop it but I continue to punish myself in some way everyday(self abusive behaviors)...Knowing that I am the same age now that she was when dad got sick is not helping...and at this point I am not ready or willing to try to find out why I do what I do ...I feel like it's a big can of worms that I just don't have the strength to handle...My current family doctor has a good idea of what is going on-but I'll just find another one if I feel pushed...

(((((((((((((ktwlpn))))))))))))))), Your post really touched my heart, as I felt as though I could feel the pain coming thru the screen! I'm so very sorry to hear of your lost, and can't even begin to understand what it is like for you each day. But I pray you will find the strength to peel back the layers of covers, you have placed over the pain, and let someone help.

But I must say, that your mother wasn't the only strong woman in your family. You can get thru this, and I hope you find someone you can open up to, and work thru to recovery:).

road runner2003 · Oct 28, 2003

Couldn't help but shed a tear while reading the article. I cannot begin to understand the actions of this - maybe in the upcoming years I will... :confused:

fr33shot · Oct 29, 2003

I think it's straight sick. I think she should go to jail and spend some time thinking about it. Or if she wants to claim insanity (which I think is nothing more than a cop-out) then she can spend some time in a nut-house and think about it. And if it's ligit then the nut house is where she needs to be period. Either way .. she's a sick individual.

And this my friends .. is just ONE of thousands and thousands of cases like it .. and that's why I am so reluctant to give to charities now. That's too bad.

I don't feel sorry for her. If it's really something psychologically wrong with her then she needs to be somewhere getting help so she can't do it again. But WHY do I seriously, SERIOUSLY doubt that she really has a "psychological problem?" I think she's just plain sick. =/

*Michael.

vossy · Oct 29, 2003

Yes Michael, I do think she is sick, but lets not jail people for that reason!

Last year my best friend (for 4 years!) told me she had cancer in her breast. I was of course shocked. This after so much bad luck, divorce, abuse pneumonia and diabetes in 5 years time. She was my friend, I believed her. I knew that she had a big imagination, told some lies, but they where usally harmless. They where also a kind of charming. She was a girl who always made you laugh and feel good about yourself. But when I realised in february that there was no cancer, I checked out the hospitals myself, I knew something had to be done. I confronted her with the facts, it was horrible, she even hit me. But she wanted help. I told her I would stand by her, support her on 2 conditions

1; she had to go in to therapy

2; I could check up on her

Well...this didn't go well. The lies continued and she didn't keep her promises. I lost a lot of sleep about that, I didn't know what to do. The professionals didn't help me to find a solution. So my friend and I decided to end our friendship. Two weeks ago I heard she was stil faking cancer, even her mother doesn't know the truth. But these things are complicated. Her youth was bad, als a disapearing father. And the mother? Well, she lives in the same state, works in the same hospital. How can she not know? How can a mother not see what is goig on? You know what I mean? With a mother like that, who needs ennemies, she messed her girl up pretty bad. I miss my girlfriend and I feel terrible about not being able to help her. So when I read a story about someone who lies about cancer, I think of the story behind her.

indie · Oct 29, 2003

I'd like to read what the psyche RNs have to say about this.

In recent years, as an instructor, I was sucked into this sort of story by a student and was instrumental in getting her a lot of general support and concessions. (She was severely anorexic, so the story was not hard to believe). My story is long; the short version is that eventually I challenged her, kindly. She sort of admitted the issue and I said I would help her to get real help.

She then publicly accused me of accessing her medical records without permission and this escalated into a full scale investigation of me during which I wondered if I was going to lose my license. (I had not done anything even close to unprofessional and any 'help' I had given her was sanctioned by other faculty members and the Directors of the school.)

Fortunately when the students learned what was happening, several of them voiced their concerns to authority that the girl was lying. The situation ended with a court order against her to leave me and others alone.

Strangely though, although I'm no psyche nurse, and was put through a minor hell by her, I still feel very, very concerned for her. I think she was/is very sick and I would like to know that she got really expert diagnosis and help.

I post this as a sort of 'RN beware' story. No good deed shall go unpunished.

sanakruz, ADN · Oct 29, 2003

Personality orders such as the one exhibited by this young woman are difficult to treat. The individual in question must try very hard to change,which is quite difficult for someone not used to the truth. I assure you this girl is SICK. What she did was wrong.Ultimately we are all responsible for the behavior we choose,whatever the motive,conscious or not. A sad story this.