Domestic Violence Survivor.

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Are there any other people on here who have survived domestic violence? how do you deal with it as a nurse? My husband of almost 2 years decided to try to kill me by throwing me against the wall and choking me. does anyone have any advice? I am going to nursing school, and i was wondering how this will affect my ability to get a job, due to the fact i had to run from the city i was living in to stay with my father.

thank you all for your support. god bless you all. i am taking it one day at a time. it's been a week since i left, and i still shake in my shoes when i see a truck that looks like his come down the road. i am filing for divorce based on cruelty, and a restraining order. your support helps to keep me strong. right now i am taking a leave of absence from school, and will transfer to a school near my father's house in the fall. i want to take a break for a little while. :icon_hug: to everyone!

you are obviously someone who has a great head on her shoulders as reflected by your decisions you are making now, decisions that are both sound and mature.

leaving and getting the legal stuff stuff in order isn't easy but look, here you are already moving forward to a better life ahead of you.

never go back, never look back, always know who your friends are, and who your enemies are. someone who would hurt you is not a friend no matter what they will tell you to try to convince you otherwise.

most importantly stay strong and focused on your future and don't be too prideful to seek help through therapy and friends and family.

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Specializes in Med/Surg.
i'm soooo glad! hang in there...:icon_hug: !

love the avatar!

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I recommend you find a support group so you can vent to people other than co-workers and get guidance at the same time. Speaking of time, remember that time wounds all heels. You have a second chance. Use it to improve YOUR life. Good luck!

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the therapist i am going to is great.

Things get better and better every day>I,m so glad you have your dad there for support.Thinking of you and sending heaps of love your way.

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I GOT THE FINALIZED PROTECTIVE ORDER!!!!! :w00t: He was SOOOO mad!!! he called a girl friend of mine and asked her why i got the protective order, that it wasn;t nessecary, that i had no reason to worry about him coming after me! He also asked her if i was moving to tennesse with my mother this summer! The protective order included my parents, because he is so sick and twisted that he promised me he would come after my family every time i made him angry. when the judge asked if the two other people on the restraining order were my parents he scoffed! he also said in court that he wanted a restraining order against me!!! the judge just looked down his nose at him like "huh? you're the one who attacked her!!!" so as a stipulation on MY protective order he wrote, neither party is to have contact with eachother!!!! He even said to the court advocate "do i really have to go to all these classes?? " The advocate told him it was a court order that he go, AND pay for the classes!!!!! Can you believe the audacity!!! He was acting like it was MY fault he decided to abuse me!!! I couldn't even look at him! I kept my eyes on the judge and answered his questions. it only took 20 minutes. I was shaking so hard i was vibrating the desk in front of me! its almost over for me ladies and gentlemen! i only have to wait 6 months before the total and complete divorce and then i am FREE!!!!

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I know this was hard for you to follow through with, but very important. I am very glad things are coming to a close for you. The biggest thing now is to report IMMEDIATELY if he tries to contact you. It can be hard to stay vigilant, but it will keep you safe. You should feel proud for staying strong. Keep up with the counseling.

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Hi Jess:

Way to hang in there and see this process through!!!!

It took a lot of guts and courage to get this far; just remember as you march on through nursing school, you can remind yourself that if you can persevere through this turmoil, then you can make it through anything your profs will throw at you. Have you finalized the divorce decree process itself?

Keep tidying up those loose ends as you continue forward and, IMHO, I would instruct all friends not to divulge your whereabouts to him, period. The less he knows about your plans the better.

Hang in there, Jess, and take heart, you have plenty of friends here. :)

BabyBusterBrown

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Jess, I would like to congratulate you on doing the right thing for you and your kids. I am the child of a survivor and saw a lot more than I should have. Please , if your children are old enough to have any clue of what was happening, see about counciling for them. I was 12 at the time my mom got out and declined counciling. Retrospectivly I wish that my mom had insisted. I didn't read the whole thread, so maybe you have.

Good luck.

~Jen

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Jess, I would like to congratulate you on doing the right thing for you and your kids. I am the child of a survivor and saw a lot more than I should have. Please , if your children are old enough to have any clue of what was happening, see about counciling for them. I was 12 at the time my mom got out and declined counciling. Retrospectivly I wish that my mom had insisted. I didn't read the whole thread, so maybe you have.

Good luck.

~Jen

I was lucky. I had no children by this man. I put my parents on the protective order because he would always threaten to hurt or kill them.

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