DH dying-need prayers

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I've posted before about my husband being terminally ill and complications that have come up, but this is the worst it has every been. Currently in ICU with ARDS and sepsis, placed on dialysis yesterday. On a vent, paralytic, the whole works.

Miraculously he has been showing signs of improvement. CXR went from a complete white out to having distinguishable upper lobes, heart, ET. That was amazing. Has been running a PEEP of 20. Went in this morning to a stunned looking pulmonologist telling me that the lungs are regaining some elasticity so they got the PEEP down to 8. (PTL!)

I have been glued to his bedside but am home tonight as I had nobody to take care of our 5 year old. Besides she is desperate for some mommy time and vice versa. I was actually sleeping peacefully and his brother called and woke me up. Couldn't go back to sleep and felt God telling me to get on here and get as many prayers as possible going so that dh can get over the hump. My brother in law is an atheist but I continue to witness to him about God in my life and God's ability to heal if it is in his will.

Please, all you that can pray, please help me out on this one. His name is Dan and I love him more than anything. He had not made a decision for the Lord before he was intubated so that is a big reason for wanting him to wake up and have one more chance.

Thanks in advance to all. You guys are wonderful support.

((gentle hugs))

I read your post and teared up right away. I'm sooo sorry that this is happening. Please know you're in my thoughts and prayers. Many are thinking of you both now, I'm sure.

~Shannon

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Specializes in Clinical Research, Outpt Women's Health.

I am so sorry for all you are going through. I just wish i could do something to help. Please know you are all in my thoughts and my prayers.

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Specializes in Pediatrics.

I'm so sorry for this. It takes a lot for someone's story to grab my heart and spirit as yours has. Your strength and love for Dan are so obvious. God please surround nursejoey and her precious family with your love and peace and gentle tender care; hold them close to you dear God please!

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We're all still here, hanging in right alongside you.

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Specializes in Infectious Disease.

You and your family are in my prayers.

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

Nurse Joey - I would suggest that you talk with the Pastoral Care folks at the hospital. At the very least, you need a family conference with his docs so that you know where you stand. I'm so sorry.

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You guys are helping me so much. My church family is here for me, especially my pastor. He is faithful to visit Dan every day and read scripture to him and pray. It helps me to post here because you guys understand the complexity and the gravity of the situation. CT showed petechial hemorrhages in his brain. They are calling for a Neuro consult. Also, are going to try to place another catheter for dialysis because the femoral is shot. Giving him FFP to help with low platelets. That's today's plan. PS...my little girl is healing up nicely. Thanks again to everybody.

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Specializes in Cardiac/Telemetry.
I've posted before about my husband being terminally ill and complications that have come up, but this is the worst it has every been. Currently in ICU with ARDS and sepsis, placed on dialysis yesterday. On a vent, paralytic, the whole works.

Miraculously he has been showing signs of improvement. CXR went from a complete white out to having distinguishable upper lobes, heart, ET. That was amazing. Has been running a PEEP of 20. Went in this morning to a stunned looking pulmonologist telling me that the lungs are regaining some elasticity so they got the PEEP down to 8. (PTL!)

I have been glued to his bedside but am home tonight as I had nobody to take care of our 5 year old. Besides she is desperate for some mommy time and vice versa. I was actually sleeping peacefully and his brother called and woke me up. Couldn't go back to sleep and felt God telling me to get on here and get as many prayers as possible going so that dh can get over the hump. My brother in law is an atheist but I continue to witness to him about God in my life and God's ability to heal if it is in his will.

Please, all you that can pray, please help me out on this one. His name is Dan and I love him more than anything. He had not made a decision for the Lord before he was intubated so that is a big reason for wanting him to wake up and have one more chance.

Thanks in advance to all. You guys are wonderful support.

Nursejoey05,

My heart is heavy after reading your post. I can only tell you that God has a plan for your brother and that what you're going through God has a purpose. I will absolutely pray for you and your husband. God had put you in your husband's life for a reason. Remember, NO ONE goes without having the word of God spoken to them. Psalm 42:11 says it all. Just keep your hope in Him and keep the faith. Souls that are for saving will not leave without them having accepted Jesus.

You, your brother, and your husband will be in my prayers. God bless you and keep your head up. Please let us know how it turned out or just email me via PM.

God bless you,

Mave.

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i'm praying for you too. i can't even imagine how hard this must be for you

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Specializes in Case Mgmt; Mat/Child, Critical Care.

Nursejoey, Please know we are here for you. Tears are in my eyes as I read your updates, I don't know God's plan,it is so difficult sometimes not to become discouraged;please hold fast to your faith and turn to our heavenly Father for help. My prayers are with you and will continue to be.

Please continue updating and take care of you and of course, your precious little one. :kiss

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I'm not as discouraged tonight. Last night all I could think about was that I'd be faced with a decision to pull the plug or not. I begged God to make it so I didn't have to make that decision. But things are looking up today. Spoke with the neuro and pulmo docs today. They say that the hemorrhages are nothing major, no permanent damage, nothing that is not reversible. IJ cath is working like a charm for dialysis. Out of MRSA isolation today. Big issue now is the C diff--Dan went septic again due to that. Trying to fix c diff without him getting pneumonia or another major infection is going to be tricky. But doc says if they can conquer that, he'll be talking to me next week about a trach and transfer for vent weaning. Thanks for the continuing support and prayers. You guys are awesome.

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Nursejoey, my prayers are very much in agreement with yours and the others that the Lord will work a miracle in the life of your DH. And the greatest miracle of all is God's gift of salvation. If God can speak to and be heard by Lazarus, your husband can hear Him, no matter what a CT scan reports. God doesn't want anyone to perish! And there is more than one kind of healing. My greatest prayer is for your DH's salvation -then for his physical healing, to the glory of God for it all! "All things work together for good to them that love God and are called together for His purpose." I've been told that you can't have a testamony without a test. I've been through a simulair test 14 yrs ago. God is faithful! Remember to take care of yourself, too. And rest in the love and care of your Lord. He's heard all of the prayers and loves your DH completely. A man I knew wrote a song, "I'm in His hands. I'm in His hands. What'ere the future holds, I'm in His hands. The days I cannot see have all been planned for me. His way is best you see. I'm in His hands." God bless you!

In Christian love,

Marilyn

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