Specializes in aged, palliative care, cardiac, agency,.
Thank you everyone who has opened their hearts about this. I would have responded earlier but taking this new medication had me so nauseated I could not stand. I am feeling better now and I am not as down. The headaches have not left because I am stressing about my mother who is in the hospital with perotonitis so I will be traveling to Memphis on Wednesday to help her out. It's always something but I love that lady and she is the only parent I have. Well, thanks again and I will give updates on how I am doing.
So, its been a few months now. How are things going for you?? Have the nausea and headaches settled?I have often wondered how you were managing. Not just you either, but all the people who opened up their hearts and told their stories.
My life has undergone the most enormous changes in the last few weeks - funnily enough the changes have helped settle my feelings of anxiety and / or depression. I still have lots to deal with but am now in a calmer physical space in which to be able to do so. AND I'm sleeping better which always helps.
Hope you all are experiencing good health, both physically and emotionally.
Same as usual. You can always judge me by the amount of posting I do here. Was on a ''natural' high all last week... Still going strong so the crash can't be too far away.
Hopefully it comes before school starts.... I'd hate to waste another semester. Bleh.
My parents are divorcing after being married for 25 years, together for 27.
My dad is going to date someone who is just a few years older than me.
I have a sister who is 18 and who drinks to the point of blacking out and she is more than likely depressed and she refuses to admit she has a problem. (She just moved out about a week ago)
I have an 11 year old sister who is in the middle of my parents divorce and I am pretty concerned about how she's handeling things. (She is currently living at home with dad)
I have a 20 year old sister who is in the army and is doing training right now, but when she gets home she's going to blame everything (the divorce) on my mom. (She goes to a college about 2 hours away but lives at home during the summer)
My mom thinks that dad hates her. Dad says he doesn't. Mom doesn't want dad to leave.
Mom is alternating between staying at her parents house, my house, and the cafe that she owns.
My parents are having money problems.
Dad just this last Wednesday went to his lawyer and got divorce papers and told my mom that he is going to date a woman (the woman that is just a few years older than me)
I went to the doctor a couple of weeks ago to get some help with my depression problems. (I was crying constantly, couldn't focus, and couldn't sleep or all I wanted to do was sleep) She told me that what I was feeling was normal even though I had mild-moderate depression and that I would get over it. She didn't perscibe me anything. I had to deal with this all on my own.
Talking to my mom just made her cry.
Talking to my dad just made him mad and made me cry.
Talking to my sisters either made them and or me cry.
I didn't know who to turn to for counseling even though I thought that I needed to talk to someone.
So, I talked to my co-workers at work.
Its helped alot.
I know that I can't stop the divorce.
I know that I can't fix any of what's going on.
I have to let my parents be the parents.
I have to allow myself have fun and not worry about what's going on in their lives and I know that all will eventually be OK.
Life just stinks right now, and I'm still depressed, and I'm still blue, still without medication. But I know that I feel better after just talking. I know that I can't change the things in my life. I just have to deal with the things that are comming my way.
So...........
Everyone has their issues, sometimes its work, sometimes its family, and sometimes both. Everyone has to deal with it their own way, and that's okay. THAT'S WHAT MAKES THE WORLD SO UNIQUE
Talking to my dad just made him mad and made me cry.
Talking to my sisters either made them and or me cry.
I didn't know who to turn to for counseling even though I thought that I needed to talk to someone.
So, I talked to my co-workers at work.
Its helped alot.
It sounds like you could really use some sort of group/family counseling. Even if it's with only one (or neither) of your parents, talking to each other shouldn't always be a tearful experience. It sounds like nobody is comfortable being open. Divorces happen, and they are stressful and hurtful for everyone involved.
Medication may not be useful for a depression that has a real basis. It could be more beneficial for you to work through this while helping your family support each other. See if you can convince your sisters or a parent to try some counseling together, just to help sort through the feelings.
It sounds like you could really use some sort of group/family counseling. Even if it's with only one (or neither) of your parents, talking to each other shouldn't always be a tearful experience. It sounds like nobody is comfortable being open. Divorces happen, and they are stressful and hurtful for everyone involved.
Medication may not be useful for a depression that has a real basis. It could be more beneficial for you to work through this while helping your family support each other. See if you can convince your sisters or a parent to try some counseling together, just to help sort through the feelings.
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No one in my family wants any counseling. I would love to be able to go, but it won't work if my family won't attend. I know that divorces happen. I've accepted the idea of it, its just a hard thing because it kinda just appeared out of nowhere.....dad said he was going to leave, a month later he's filing for divorce and I had no idea.
Elizabeth, I have sent you a PM, I have been where you are, my parents split after 27 years and it was one of the worst times of my life.
You are grieving as is your family, it will take time and it is so difficult to go through, you are trying to be there for your family and parents and dealing with your own feelings. It does get easier, but it takes time.
RNMOM2BE: Hon, I have depression/anxiety. I live in a small town/city. There is no shame in going to a counselor. People go for all sorts of reasons: divorce, death of loved one, drugs/etoh help and depression - to name a few. Try a private counselor rather than a counseling group, you may be more comfortable. Some churches offer pastoral counseling.
Do talk to your doctor about getting on medication. I have, and it's helping.
Keep in touch, and don't give up. It can and will get better if you take some positive steps to help yourself.
Thanks Babs...I am currently on lexapro and wellbutrin xl...It has worked wonders for me...I think I started battling depression after the split up of my first husband...He just almost destroyed me and now that I am re-married, he wants to work his way back into my life and yes he is my love, but sometimes the meds dosen't help when things start spinning out of control...But that's a whole other story I dare not get into...I am still debating whether or not I should talk to anyone because I am sooo shame...Maybe if I did not live in this small town and I could go else where, I would do it...
I am still debating whether or not I should talk to anyone because I am sooo shame...Maybe if I did not live in this small town and I could go else where, I would do it...
I could send you a short synopsis of my life if you need to feel better or want a good laugh at the least...
There is no reason to be shamed. The more you talk about it the better you will feel.
Specializes in aged, palliative care, cardiac, agency,.
You can always judge me by the amount of posting I do here.
That's interesting. I find myself posting more in times of stress - a kind of reaching out to others who might understand or at least share part of their lives with me in that we all work in similar fields and have some level of understanding.
I also post more at times when I'm feeling a bit lonely for the same reasons. I love to read the funny posts - that always makes me laugh and reminds me of the sense of camaraderie (? spelling) that this site gives me.
SuesquatchRN, BSN, RN
10,263 Posts
I have been on an SSRI for the last 13 years.
I will never, ever go off voluntarily.
There is no shame in having a biochemical condition that predisposes you to depression. It is no different than diabetes.