Bullying online is NOT harmless

[Dianna11]

Those who put down posters, based on how long they have been on AN , or for any other reasons...

Did it ever occur to you that people come here to vent/ask questions???most don't care to please trolls, they are here to communicate and get helpful feedback, not nasty posts .

I came into this field because I love helping ppl. I honestly hope that none of those nasty nurses will attend to me or to my loved ones. It's scary.

[heron, ASN, RN]

So, on the one hand, we have a culture of denial that refuses to acknowledge any wrong-doing at all, justifying it by boasting that they are aren't required to be politically correct and therefore are entitled to be as offensive, destructive and demeaning as they like.

On the other hand, we have a culture of victimhood, in which any event that makes them feel bad, sad, mad or anxious is labelled bullying, which entitles them to dictate not only behavior but feelings, attitudes, opinions and non-verbal reactions, whether conscious or not.

Meanwhile, we have totally lost the whole concept of balance. I suggest reviewing the concept of dynamic equilibrium.

[JerseyDevilsAdvocate, BSN, RN]

Being part of the younger crew, and in my 20's, I'd have to say that this site at least respects privacy. There is a microblogging site I frequent, which often calls for the stalking, harassment, telling people to kill themselves, and doxxing of users over trivial offenses, such as dissenting opinions. I've seen people have their home addresses leaked, syringes and knives mailed to their houses, and fired from their jobs.

I see the users on this site engage moreso in constructive criticism, rather than outright bullying. Sure, most nurses think the way they practice is the right way, that's the first thing you learn as a nursing student! Agree to disagree, and move on.

[Dianna11]

Nurses generally speak very plainly and bluntly, a lot of people can't handle it. Please refrain from visiting this site if it doesn't meet your emotional needs.

I am a nurse and I also speak bluntly (as evidenced above). That being said, bullying should not be allowed not tolerated, in any field, and even more not tolerated in nursing, when we depend on one another , and have ppl's lives in our hands.

[Dianna11]

So, on the one hand, we have a culture of denial that refuses to acknowledge any wrong-doing at all, justifying it by boasting that they are aren't required to be politically correct and therefore are entitled to be as offensive, destructive and demeaning as they like.

On the other hand, we have a culture of victimhood, in which any event that makes them feel bad, sad, mad or anxious is labelled bullying, which entitles them to dictate not only behavior but feelings, attitudes, opinions and non-verbal reactions, whether conscious or not.

Meanwhile, we have totally lost the whole concept of balance. I suggest reviewing the concept of dynamic equilibrium.

Balance goes both ways, hun. I encourage and accept criticism, as that's the only way one will learn and improve their knowledge/skills, but I do not tolerate bullying and name calling . It's not going to happen. Sorry.

[Dianna11]

Yeah, I'm not sure how that story fits the "micro aggression" definition.

Love the term "whippersnappers".

Again, I will never tolerate bullying and will always speak against it. Sorry, I was a victim once, never again. I am not a "soft target " for anyone on here or any other boards to get their sick jollys on, because oh, they "have more experience" and I should just "take it". No sorry, it's not happening.

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

Balance goes both ways, hun. I encourage and accept criticism, as that's the only way one will learn and improve their knowledge/skills, but I do not tolerate bullying and name calling . It's not going to happen. Sorry.

Quite possibly you've missed the point.

[heron, ASN, RN]

Balance goes both ways, hun. I encourage and accept criticism, as that's the only way one will learn and improve their knowledge/skills, but I do not tolerate bullying and name calling . It's not going to happen. Sorry.

Then don't call me "hun". I'm not your child or your girlfriend and such endearments offered to a stranger are demeaning. A form of bullying, in fact.

[elkpark]

Then don't call me "hun". I'm not your child or your girlfriend and such endearments offered to a stranger are demeaning. A form of bullying, in fact.

Yeah, the OP lost me at "hun."

Yet another in the long line of posters who come here, start a thread about how other nurses are nasty and mean, and then get nasty and mean themselves when they don't get the response they were looking for.

[Wuzzie]

Yeah, the OP lost me at "hun."

Yet another in the long line of posters who come here, start a thread about how other nurses are nasty and mean, and then get nasty and mean themselves when they don't get the response they were looking for.

Yeah, it's happening to me on another thread where I didn't even come close to being nasty or mean.

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

Balance goes both ways, hun. I encourage and accept criticism, as that's the only way one will learn and improve their knowledge/skills, but I do not tolerate bullying and name calling . It's not going to happen. Sorry.

Bold is mine.

You do not tolerate bullying and name calling-and yet you called a total stranger "hun," which is clearly meant to be over familiar, and in essence, insulting and demeaning. I find your post highly hypocritical.

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

Balance goes both ways, hun. I encourage and accept criticism, as that's the only way one will learn and improve their knowledge/skills, but I do not tolerate bullying and name calling . It's not going to happen. Sorry.

Bold is mine.

Based on your posts, I find that rather hard to believe.

[Dianna11]

Then don't call me "hun". I'm not your child or your girlfriend and such endearments offered to a stranger are demeaning. A form of bullying, in fact.

Oh my! Calling someone "hun" is bullying! Lay off whatever you're smoking!