Bullying online is NOT harmless

[Dianna11]

Those who put down posters, based on how long they have been on AN , or for any other reasons...

Did it ever occur to you that people come here to vent/ask questions???most don't care to please trolls, they are here to communicate and get helpful feedback, not nasty posts .

I came into this field because I love helping ppl. I honestly hope that none of those nasty nurses will attend to me or to my loved ones. It's scary.

[heron, ASN, RN]

Bold is mine.

You do not tolerate bullying and name calling-and yet you called a total stranger "hun," which is clearly meant to be over familiar and in essence, insulting and demeaning. I find your post highly hypocritical.

That's the problem with so much of the rhetoric around bullying. Those accused of bullying are often held to very different standards of behavior than those making the accusations.

[Dianna11]

Bold is mine.

Based on your posts, I find that rather hard to believe.

Then why you keep replying to my posts?

[heron, ASN, RN]

Oh my! Calling someone "hun" is bullying! Lay off whatever you're smoking!

QED

[macawake, MSN]

I honestly hope that none of those nasty nurses will attend to me or to my loved ones. It's scary.

OP, you started a thread and called other posters nasty.

Balance goes both ways, hun.

Oh my! Calling someone "hun" is bullying! Lay off whatever you're smoking!

You then go on and respond to a poster with whom you disagree and also have a previous post history of disagreeing with, by calling her "hun". Calling someone you do not agree with and perhaps don't even like, a term of endearment is in my opinion both patronizing and fake.

I encourage and accept criticism.....

When you respond with "lay off whatever you're smoking" when being criticized for calling a poster you disagree with "hun", that tells me that you don't take criticism well.

...... but I do not tolerate bullying and name calling.

But you are of the opinion that other posters should accept being called nasty? Calling people nasty does not in your opinion qualify as name-calling?

I am not a "soft target " for anyone on here or any other boards to get their sick jollys on, because oh, they "have more experience" and I should just "take it". No sorry, it's not happening.

I think that this line of reasoning has lost all sense of proportion. I've read the threads where you have participated and ended up in disagreements. I haven't seen anyone "getting their sick jollies on" at your expense. However, I have seen people disagree with you. I have in the past pointed out when I think that a poster is being treated harshly/unfairly, and it makes no difference to me if that poster has made ten posts previously or ten thousand.

Again, I will never tolerate bullying and will always speak against it.

If you want to be taken seriously as the standard-bearer for a more gentle tone on the internet, you need to start leading by example. As it stands, you are faced with credibility issues.

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

Then why you keep replying to my posts?

Because, as you yourself admit, it's important to call people out on their BS when you see it. And your posts in this thread are indeed highly hypocritical. Therefore you need to be called out on it. If you truly welcome truthful criticism vs. just mean spirited attacks, then you should be willing to allow your posts to be held to the same standards you are demanding.

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

Bold is mine.

You do not tolerate bullying and name calling-and yet you called a total stranger "hun," which is clearly meant to be over familiar, and in essence, insulting and demeaning. I find your post highly hypocritical.

Those who scream loudest about all those bullies out there are most likely to BE the bullies out there.

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

OP, you started a thread and called other posters nasty.

You then go on and respond to a poster with whom you disagree and also have a previous post history of disagreeing with, by calling her "hun". Calling someone you do not agree with and perhaps don't even like, a term of endearment is in my opinion both patronizing and fake.

When you respond with "lay off whatever you're smoking" when being criticized for calling a poster you disagree with "hun", that tells me that you don't take criticism well.

But you are of the opinion that other posters should accept being called nasty? Calling people nasty does not in your opinion qualify as name-calling?

I think that this line of reasoning has lost all sense of proportion. I've read the threads where you have participated and ended up in disagreements. I haven't seen anyone "getting their sick jollies on" at your expense. However, I have seen people disagree with you. I have in the past pointed out when I think that a poster is being treated harshly/unfairly, and it makes no difference to me if that poster has made ten posts previously or ten thousand.

If you want to be taken seriously as the standard-bearer for a more gentle tone on the internet, you need to start leading by example. As it stands, you are faced with credibility issues.

If one were to go looking for bullies on this forum, one would need to include the OP in that category. Actions (nastiness and name calling) speak much louder than the words the OP uses to condemn bullying -- the very behavior in which she is engaging.

[RestlessHeart]

OP, you started a thread and called other posters nasty.

You then go on and respond to a poster with whom you disagree and also have a previous post history of disagreeing with, by calling her "hun". Calling someone you do not agree with and perhaps don't even like, a term of endearment is in my opinion both patronizing and fake.

When you respond with "lay off whatever you're smoking" when being criticized for calling a poster you disagree with "hun", that tells me that you don't take criticism well.

But you are of the opinion that other posters should accept being called nasty? Calling people nasty does not in your opinion qualify as name-calling?

I think that this line of reasoning has lost all sense of proportion. I've read the threads where you have participated and ended up in disagreements. I haven't seen anyone "getting their sick jollies on" at your expense. However, I have seen people disagree with you. I have in the past pointed out when I think that a poster is being treated harshly/unfairly, and it makes no difference to me if that poster has made ten posts previously or ten thousand.

If you want to be taken seriously as the standard-bearer for a more gentle tone on the internet, you need to start leading by example. As it stands, you are faced with credibility issues.

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