Bully nurse question

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What would be a textbook response against a bully nurse?

I have search the forums using the keyword "bully" and most of the threads have been talkfests.

[netglow, ASN, RN]

And OP, if this is homework, I will say that you will screw yourself if you use my response as your answer

[dudette10, MSN, RN]

Not to answer the OPs homework question, but to add to the conversation: I just read this book.

http://books.google.com/books?id=PyOjlz_2SG0C&lpg=PP1&ots=dda8zxpVXK&dq=the%20sociopath%20next%20door&pg=PP1#v=onepage&q&f=false

I'm not saying that all bullies are sociopaths, but when reading this book, there are definite similarities, i.e. manipulation and flying under the radar of authority figures/supervisors.

[bdanders]

I know you asked for a text book type answer, but a blog written by Head Nurse last spring covered the issue very well. Enjoy!

ETA: You really should do your own homework... Hope your exams go well!

[leslie :-D]

sounds like an assignment to me. we had the same question to answer in a class i took this summer. there is a wealth of information on the web. start by checking your nursing journals because i'm sure you'll have to cite your response.

if this is a homework question, then i'd say the op has gotten textbook responses, i.e., that you call them out on their behavior.

however...(see below)

all great responses. however, dependent on the particular bully.

i have found through living life, sometimes it is necessary to "go there" yes be just as bad *** as they are. on rare occasion i will really "bring it" to a bully. most bullies are wimps inside and they choose to try to bluster you first, as a way to hopefully cause you to to be cautious around them.

if i feel that someone is desperately trying to "train me," (i will add, that it depends on how quickly i get fed up) i will go in for the kill, just to end it. yes, i will either threaten, or dress them down in public as soon as i get the best opportunity for greatest impact.

so, here is the idea all should glean: be careful who you mess with, if you think you are bad ***, there is always going to be someone who is way more.

however (con't)...

sometimes these 'textbook' responses won't get you anywhere (as 2ndwind so succinctly stated).

you will either be laughed at, sneered at, scoffed at, mocked at.

and so, on that rare occasion, you will need to get *this* close to their face and whisper, "bite me, b**ch" with your i-mean-business expression.

no, it is certainly not the mature or civil way to resolve problems.

but when all else has failed, it works.

leslie:)

[netglow, ASN, RN]

[leslie :-D]

loved it!!

they should've captioned it with, "don't mess with me before i've had my coffee."

*still laughing*

leslie

[netglow, ASN, RN]

Leslie, I just had put in the first clip I could find, earlier without previewing it. Needless to say, I am sure several Allnurses viewers got to read the "F" word in the captions. So I'm just glad I took another look and replaced it LOL! Why do people edit these youtube clips with comments, IDK!!!

[nurse grace RN, BSN]

What about bully bosses?

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I've notice bullies don't pick on people who are laid-back, passive, and don't have a chip on the shoulder. Person who gets the job done. Kinda like an easy-going person with no issues. Like me. Is it just me?

[TheCommuter, BSN, RN]

I've notice bullies don't pick on people who are laid-back, passive, and don't have a chip on the shoulder. Person who gets the job done. Kinda like an easy-going person with no issues. Like me. Is it just me?

I'm laid-back, nonassertive at times, passive, and without a chip on my shoulder, but I have become the target of bullies more than once in my lifetime. I also get the job done without the need for other people to pick up my slack.

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This is not a homework question. It's a sample interview question. Bullies, kidding!

[ok2bme]

I've notice bullies don't pick on people who are laid-back, passive, and don't have a chip on the shoulder. Person who gets the job done. Kinda like an easy-going person with no issues. Like me. Is it just me?

Hmm..these qualities actually describe the targets of bullying at my hospital.

The way I deal with bullying is to remind myself that the bully is the one with the problem, not me. Their remarks and negativity may be directed towards me, but it is a reflection of his/her own negativity and feelings of insecurity. When I keep this in mind, I literally laugh off their behavior.