braggard in the classroom

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Ok....I have to deal with this fellow student nurse who CONSTANTLY brags about her grades. It is great that she has an A averag, but she does not have a job, she lives with her parents, she has no bills or responsibilities. Her parents are older, her mother is actually retired, so they give her whatever she wants. I understand she wants people to know how well she is doing, but how much is too much bragging? I do not want to see her get hurt, but it has gotten crazy.

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Specializes in Urgent Care NP, Emergency Nursing, Camp Nursing.

Two things:

If she's just out of high school, she may have come from a culture where people compare grades on exams and the like. I know I did. Give her some time to realize that not everyone is willing to compete like that or cares to in that manner.

Also, are you sure it's her grades and "bragging" that you're upset about? It sounds as if you have the "younger/unmarried/childless people have it so easy" attitude that students in said categories complain about elsewhere on this forum.

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Specializes in NICU.

It's difficult to listen to, without a doubt. But she may be, ironically enough, feeling a bit insecure. For people like that, I tend to ask them straight out how they did, compliment them and move on. I figure it helps them feel better and it gets the bragging out of the way :).

Fellow nursing students keep life interesting, yes??? :rolleyes: Some day it will be your fellow nurses, LOL.

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Specializes in med/surg, telemetry, IV therapy, mgmt.

The problem is not her, but you are perceiving and interpreting what she is saying incorrectly. You need to sit quietly and seriously think about what you have just posted and ponder your real motives for saying these things you are saying about this person. She has done nothing wrong.

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I wish she was in my class because I'd be asking the girl what her study skills are etc. Not sure what I would do with an A, I can't get above a B and it makes me crazy!!

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Well, I am glad she is doing well, because I really would not like to have to deal with the other end of the extreme....but, she will ask me my grade, then, of course her grade comes out as na na nananana!! If someone who does not generally make A's in the class states that they got an A, she always has to say she got a higher A. It is not just grades, it is everything, her family has money, she gets anything she wants, blah blah blah, and she always tends to brag about things when others are down. Of course I do not say anything to her, I just smile and say "that is so good." Yet she is not willing to help anyone with studying, and she has made that very clear.........I don't need to say anything to her, she will be working with real nurses who are well "seasoned" and I believe her bragging problem will be "nipped" once and for all. Besides, her daddy may buy her everything, and her mom may come to the school and complain to the DON about her daughter should get to choose her clinical site because she does not want to drive all the way to a certain location, or that that the instructor is not lecturing throrough enough because her precious daughter is not getting 100's on every test like she did last semester, but mom and dad cannot get her a job.........

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When I encounter a person who does nothing but brags--like what you are describing--it just makes me think how insecure they must be. To have to assure themselves and everyone else around them that they have everything, or are making A's in everything. Seems to me like she is just trying to make herself feel better. That is called a lack of self esteem.

Just ignore her!

Good luck!!

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She is insecure.

However, your thoughts concerning her paint you as insecure.

Either deal with her behavior by humoring her or ignore her.

Better yet, give her some competition.

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Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.

A person cannot be a braggart if she has no one who will listen to the bragging.

If you refuse to become a part of the audience, the bragging will cease.

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Specializes in med/surg, telemetry, IV therapy, mgmt.

What does the fact that she has money or refuses to help others study have to do with you? Why are you so concerned about what she does or does not have compared to everyone else?

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Specializes in Day Surgery, Agency, Cath Lab, LTC/Psych.

I think the OP is just trying to vent. We have all been around people who think they are God's gift to humanity. It is annoying. It is frustrating. It gets old really, really fast.

If it were me and she was elatedly boasting I would say, "Thats nice. Great job!" Then I would turn away and continue doing what I was doing. Don't let her get to you. As others have said, she is likely insecure. The "real world" will slap her in the face soon enough when she graduates.

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I agree I think the OP just wanted to vent a little and there is nothing wrong with that, doesn't have to mean she's insecure.

OP, I think its a normal human reaction to be frustrated with such situations and you've already said you are gracious in your reactions to what ever the girl says even if it annoys you. I'm sure you are not the only one in the class annoyed, just keep striving for your own goals and just nod, smile and keep it moving. .

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