That sort of humour that seems completely funny when shared with your colleagues, you know though if an outsider was to hear it they would be completely scandalised/offended
Its happened before when I've worked with palliative patients, this queen song keeps running through my head.
We've had two palliative patients who passed today and I've had to keep giving myself some mental slaps every time I start humming it.
Anyone else find they have a black sense of humour?
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Compassion is having empathy and kindness for others that are suffering, not laughing at their expense because you're too immature to process grief or sadness or even neutrality because often times, you may feel no emotional connection to a patient. Having the maturity to treat that body with the respect that you would treat your own child is the least that you can do.
We all have empathy & kindness, that is why we are nurses. That is how we take care of our patients.
I think YOU are lacking in those departments. If you have compassion you can see from other people's points of view even if you don't agree.
Everyone processes grief differently. There is not one set way to process grief.
Just because that is how you cope, that does not mean that it is a healthy coping mechanism. Be careful not to crash and burnout over time. Laughter may suffice in the short term, but eventually everyone has to get real and deal.
Just because that is how you cope, that does not mean that it is a healthy coping mechanism. Be careful not to crash and burnout over time. Laughter may suffice in the short term, but eventually everyone has to get real and deal.
That's whey there are venting threads and running threads and helping threads and what did you eat today threads, and the spirituality forum if the mood strikes ya...
This board is real. If I didn't have the School Nurse forum when I first started I would have drowned.
My coping in RL is real. But if I'm wrapping a body and it farts at me, I'm gonna laugh.
All nurses do not have empathy and kindness, so don't perpetuate that lie. Some nurses do, some don't as in any profession.
I didn't say that every other way is wrong. I'm just sharing a different opinion that some of you apparently can't understand because you're set in your ways. How anyone else chooses to conduct themselves is beyond my control or interest other than for the sake of this conversation.
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
It depends on the situation, would it not? I previously stated the two comments I took issue with, I'm not going to repeat it.
Just because that is how you cope, that does not mean that it is a healthy coping mechanism. Be careful not to crash and burnout over time. Laughter may suffice in the short term, but eventually everyone has to get real and deal.
Just because it is not how YOU cope does not make it unhealthy.
If you don't like it, don't do it.
If you don't like the post, don't comment.
Obviously it works for the people who use it. Like I said, I don't like meditation. So I would burn out a lot faster if I tried to meditate.
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
All nurses do not have empathy and kindness, so don't perpetuate that lie. Some nurses do, some don't as in any profession.
I didn't say that every other way is wrong. I'm just sharing a different opinion that some of you apparently can't understand because you're set in your ways. How anyone else chooses to conduct themselves is beyond my control or interest other than for the sake of this conversation.
I'm saying the nurses on this board & this post have empathy.
I think many people conflate empathy with sympathy. It's the difference between feeling with and feeling for.
Empathy identifies with the other and is the beginning of compassion. If I am essentially the same as you, just living in different circumstances, then it's impossible to judge or condemn you because I'm also judging myself. Sympathy, on the other hand, feels for the other - the " you poor thing" response that proceeds from a sense of one's difference from the other. It implies a sense of superiority that perceives the other as a victim. And oneself as a noble benefactor.
That's enough preaching for now. Suffice it to say that youse guys are the bees' knees! Reader's Digest got it right: laughter is the best medicine.
I KNOW for a fact that there were LTC nurses in two states who threw a party the day my grandpa died. He got kicked out of several places for trying to pay the older ladies for sexual favors, making passes at the staff, and calling the City PD/Sheriff/SBI/FBI because he was certain he knew a) where Chandra Levy was, and b) that there was a terrorist training camp in his home county in Alabama (Alabama that he hadn't visited in 20 years). I hope they did whatever they had to do to deal with him when he was alive.
I loved my grandpa and have good memories of him, but he could be an ornery SOB pre-Alzheimers on a good day. He died two days before my brother graduated from boot camp, which forced a lot of people to choose between a funeral and a graduation. Some of us chose one, some of us chose the other. To a person, all of us thought, "You're still making things as difficult as you possibly can, aren't you!"
Grandpa was dead. He had already gone on to wherever he was going to eat all the walnuts and chocolate ice cream he wanted. No one's twisted humor was going to hurt him.
Can we talk about how amazing this meme is??? Priceless.
I've always had a very dry, sarcastic sense of humor, and luckily haven't worked in areas where I'm around death/dying very often, but I fully support using gallows humor to be able to cope with the stress of our work.
I'm not one that believes that judging is a bad thing. Judging is how we all discern with whom we will choose to associate.
Willfully judging something you don't understand is called ignorance.
I will never say I don't ever judge because that would be a lie. Judgment is human nature. But again, judgment without understanding, further with a refusal to understand, is ignorance. If you use judgment to determine who is worthy of your time and energy, you must live a truly limited life in terms of friendship. I may admit to judging on occasion, but I love to associate with people different from myself; especially those who challenge me to question my own views of things. You limit your opportunities by closing your mind, and you hurt only yourself by not trying to understand things you aren't familiar with. That really is a shame; unfortunate.
I'm going to keep laughing at the absurd, the dark, the morbid. My world will keep turning. I'll keep walking into work each day, viewing it as a fresh start. My patients will benefit because I'll be able to emotionally invest myself in each moment with them 100%. When I need to, I'll step back away from them and tune into some light-hearted giggles. And when I feel my heart is light again, I'll go back; I'll keep on keeping on.
OrganizedChaos, LVN
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We all have empathy & kindness, that is why we are nurses. That is how we take care of our patients.
I think YOU are lacking in those departments. If you have compassion you can see from other people's points of view even if you don't agree.
Everyone processes grief differently. There is not one set way to process grief.