Black Humour

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That sort of humour that seems completely funny when shared with your colleagues, you know though if an outsider was to hear it they would be completely scandalised/offended

Its happened before when I've worked with palliative patients, this queen song keeps running through my head.

We've had two palliative patients who passed today and I've had to keep giving myself some mental slaps every time I start humming it.

Anyone else find they have a black sense of humour?

Here ya go, you twisted weirdos.

That video was so weird and so funny. I loved it. I now have a new favorite YouTube channel. Thanks for posting :-)

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when my gram passed away a few years ago, it was quite sudden - she'd had CAD for YEARS but was managed well and lived 20+ years with no issues, and one night she had a massive MI and that was it. So we took her to the ER and she passed away about 20 minutes after getting her into a room. No one had a chance to get in from out of town as it happened within 5 hours. So after she passed myself and my parents were at her bedside and my mother just goes "REALLY MA??? REALLY?" totally broke the spell...

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That video was so weird and so funny. I loved it. I now have a new favorite YouTube channel. Thanks for posting :-)

Look at Sad Cat Diary and Sad Dog Diary. I am peeing.:roflmao:

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When my Mother passed, it was her wish to be crimated and not have a viewing.

We gave the Funeral Director a favourite outfit of hers and a private viewing - just my brother and I. She looked very nice. Then the director cleared his throat and said I was n't sure what to do with these - and pulled out a pair of sunglasses Mom had stashed in the pocket. (she had Alzehimers and was always hiding things). My brother looked at him and said, "Well, the fire is going to be bright, right?" And we all cracked up.

So funny!

That reminds me of my mother's viewing. The person who did her hair and makeup left a lot to be desired. My mother was always VERY particular about her hair and was never satisfied w/ a haircut even though she went to the same hairdresser for 20 years. She'd come home and head straight for the bathroom to "fix this mess!" After she put her own touch on it, she'd usually emerge from the bathroom satisfied.

Fast forward to her viewing. Her hair looked bad, she had on bright red lipstick (she was a very natural type) and the foundation they put on her was orange. It just didn't look like her.

After a bad haircut she'd often exclaim, "I wouldn't be caught dead being seen like this!" All four of us kids had a laugh that poor mom sure WAS getting caught dead looking like that.

We were also discussing and wondering if my mother would send us signs to let us know she was watching over us. She loved bluebirds so we were wishing she'd send us some bluebirds.

Then one of us got a picture in our head of a flock of bluebirds being sent by my mother to swoop down and harass the mortician who was responsible for her botched hair and makeup. (A la Hitchcock's The Birds) We were discreet about it, but we all had tears in our eyes from laughing.

My mom loved to laugh, even when the laughter was at her expense. I know that if she were somehow seeing/hearing what was going on, she'd be laughing right along w/ us. She'd also be happy to see her kids getting along and enjoying each other's company.

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Specializes in Med nurse in med-surg., float, HH, and PDN.

So, when my mother decided to give up driving we were kind of surprised, but relieved she'd made the decision herself. She had driven her camper all over the United States for years. But, she said, she noticed the drivers around her seemed to be zipping around and making abrupt turns, etc.

Then she said that she'd also been having a few episodes of short term memory loss.

I said that it was good that she decided to give up driving, because we didn't want to get a call at 3 AM telling us our mother was somewhere in Nebraska, when she had started out intending to just go to the post office.

Everybody laughed, including Mom; after all, it was she that gifted us all with our sense of humor.

I didn't grieve with tears when my mother passed away. I grieved that way when she had slipped so much mentally that she was no longer "there"; it wasn't my mother anymore, the person who she'd been all her life was gone. I missed her terribly.

When she finally died physically a year or so later, I just had a feeling of peace. We both were nurses and had talked about life and death so much and we both felt the same way about things; we had said all the things we wanted or needed to say LONG before she ever started dwindling away. I miss her endlessly, but the thing about it is, she is always within me, as her spirit is of a woman of depth and real emotional substance.

When we remember her among ourselves it is in the ways she was totally herself: our mother moo'd at cows and they would answer her back every time. Our mother led my sister's llama in a parade, we don't know of anybody else's mom did that. She got mad once and banged a ketchup bottle on the table so hard that the lid flew up and hit the ceiling, leaving a blob of ketchup up there. She didn't want to clean the ketchup off the ceiling. It was no longer a sign of how angry she got that day, but a loving memory of how hard we all laughed after it happened.

She really did understand the role humor plays in making life more tolerable. And that sometimes you just can't help but laugh! It's not disrespect; what it IS is part of life, just like being born and dying, crying, getting mad, feeling out of sorts, being excited, falling in love, etc. All of it is part of being human. But, all people are different, too, for so many reasons, so how their humanity expresses itself is unique to them.

She would shrug and put it in a nutshell: Some people like the Three Stooges, some people like the Marx Brothers.

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Specializes in hospice.
And some people respect the cycle of life and meditate without the need to laugh, drink or cry.

Oh GIVE ME A BREAK.

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Specializes in Pediatric Hematology/Oncology.
I've been in health care for 15 years and I would never think something like this is appropriate. However, if you can't see nothing wrong with it, you'll never will until it affects your employment. Hopefully it'll never come to that but I truly believe that that type of humor is unacceptable.

But......it's in my HEAD.

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Specializes in Pediatric Hematology/Oncology.
Oh my - I have a hard time even with teens. Takes a very special person to deal with a dying/dead toddler. Kudos, my friend - stay strong.

It was a weird day. My first with something like that and very likely my only time. That baby was something special and it was tragic but his family graciously allowed others the privilege of his organs so that someone else wouldn't have to go through what they just experienced. It was beautiful. It was heavy. A little bit of a laugh amongst those of us still alive makes it weigh not so heavily.

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Specializes in Med nurse in med-surg., float, HH, and PDN.

Thankfully technology and the law have not yet (almost, but not quite!) reached the point of what Frank Zappa 'sang' about in "WHO ARE THE BRAIN POLICE?!"

Forgive me, Father, for I have sinned. When I was a student we took care of a retired priest who always invited the student nurses to get into bed with him. He added in his cute little Irish accent "I won't hurt ya...." We all laughed between ourselves because the man had a member about 1/2 inch long. We called him "Father Nub".

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Specializes in critical care.
Look at Sad Cat Diary and Sad Dog Diary. I am peeing.:roflmao:

MORGAN FREEMAN!!!!

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Thankfully technology and the law have not yet (almost, but not quite!) reached the point of what Frank Zappa 'sang' about in "WHO ARE THE BRAIN POLICE?!"

Forgive me, Father, for I have sinned. When I was a student we took care of a retired priest who always invited the student nurses to get into bed with him. He added in his cute little Irish accent "I won't hurt ya...." We all laughed between ourselves because the man had a member about 1/2 inch long. We called him "Father Nub".

OMG!!! Bwhahahahhaha!!!

We had a Priest that used to have a long long looooonnggg...ileostomy bag. It was so long it peeked out from under his bed gown, and it used to swing when he walked the halls poking his head in on the members of his flock. It was always like 90% full of liquid stool.:yuck:

He never let anyone but the male nurse on our floor empty it.

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MORGAN FREEMAN!!!!

Yes, yes! :D The sunset especially. But he didn't mention Morgan Freeman's greatest accomplishment- that of Easy Reader on The Electric Company!

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