Being treated like I have the plague

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Many years ago, I worked at a facility and burned my bridge by quitting without adequate notice. I was still on orientation I was being bullied so badly that I’d have panic attacks in my car before my shift. One morning , my nose even began bleeding for no reason, which I know was blood pressure/stress related. I tried transferring, but I wasn’t allowed until 1 year. So I quit. I couldn’t take it anymore. I did not do anything inappropriate or anything. I may have seemed “weird” or “off” because my mental health was circling the drain at that place. I did not interact with very many people and was generally quiet but still cordial. But nonetheless, I would literally get bullied by just  standing or walking  in the break room before the shift. The manager was “besties” with most the staff, so who knows what’s in my record. But something is absolutely up. 

I am now trying to get on at another hospitals that is under the same healthcare system that I quit from years before. I’ve had 3 different interviews. Let’s just say I’ve rocked it at every interview. Awesome awesome interviews. 

At this system, management shifts thru the applications and interviews you first, and if they are interested, they tell HR to get the ball rolling for the offer.  During my interviews, I do mention that I worked for their system years ago because I know they’ll find about anyway, and that I quit without adequate notice.

And EVERY time I get the “we give people second chances, nooooo big deal, that was so long ago ”  followed by “we’ll start getting things processed and you can expect a job offer within 2 days”.  

And then radio silence. I’ve even called or emailed managers to follow-up and to express my interest, and none will  respond. A few days later, I’ll get a generic email saying “we’ve chosen someone else” despite 10 openings on that floor.

I’m  kinda freaked out now about what’s really in my record. Why so secretive? Be transparent, you know. It’s the professional thing to do. But really it’s an awful feeling. I even called HR the other day to find out what is on my record, and she said she would call me back. And now she’s not responding to me either. 

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Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.

I think the writing is on the wall- you’re probably on a do not rehire list, which if HR did the first interview rather than the managers, you’d probably not get to the manager interview. Time to apply elsewhere. 

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3 hours ago, Rose_Queen said:

I think the writing is on the wall- you’re probably on a do not rehire list, which if HR did the first interview rather than the managers, you’d probably not get to the manager interview. Time to apply elsewhere. 

Yeah I’m clearly not rehirable. But what I don’t understand is WHY is everyone ignoring me instead of just telling me. That’s the part that’s irritating, It makes me feel like there is something awful written about me. 

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Specializes in Geriatrics.

Aside from most likely being on a do not rehire list, why mention what happened in the interview? I would have skipped that altogether. Additionally, why would you want to be apart of this health care network? It’s probably structured the same, therefore may have a similar culture. Plus if they don’t have the decency to call you back, do you really think this would be a good place to work? Your talents will be better appreciated somewhere else.

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Pediatric Float, PICU, NICU.
On 3/18/2021 at 9:54 AM, raindrop said:

Yeah I’m clearly not rehirable. But what I don’t understand is WHY is everyone ignoring me instead of just telling me. That’s the part that’s irritating, It makes me feel like there is something awful written about me. 

There might be, there might not be but regardless you’re marked as Do Not Rehire and ultimately that’s all that matters. Sounds like it’s not the best organization to work for either way. 

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Their behavior would create an insatiable curiosity about just what is written in my file.  They act as if it is damning of the devil or something.  This is one of those times one wishes they could encounter the person with the big mouth!

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Specializes in Trauma RN.

My sister who works in HR in Texas said they don't have to release the entire file (including write ups and other negative stuff). The rules are different depending on your state, but I would just stop contacting this facility and consider it a lesson learned. I totally understand that you want to know what's in your file, but it could be something as simple and boring as "quit without notice. Do not rehire." It definitely sounds like a blessing in disguise though! Seems like a super toxic place. 

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your on the no-hire list.  I doubt they are allowed to tell you that......but you aren't likely to ever be hired there.

 

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Having a DO NOT rehire is like having cancer. In my case, I cannot get on with any of the umpteen facilities that are under the same system in-state or across the state line. 

But Thank you everyone. I’m moving on, it just stinks. I was the one being bullied, yet I’m the one being punished years later. I swear if I am ever a big admin, one of the first things I’ll do is address bullying.  

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Specializes in retired LTC.
20 hours ago, Rnis said:

your on the no-hire list.  I doubt they are allowed to tell you that......but you aren't likely to ever be hired there.

 

And since there's already been some communication between y'all, they're of the mindset that you already know. So why should they expend any more time & energy?

Most likely you would try to ask for more details. You'd be beating that dead horse! Case already closed.

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Specializes in Psych, Addictions, SOL (Student of Life).
On 3/20/2021 at 6:46 PM, raindrop said:

Having a DO NOT rehire is like having cancer. In my case, I cannot get on with any of the umpteen facilities that are under the same system in-state or across the state line. 

But Thank you everyone. I’m moving on, it just stinks. I was the one being bullied, yet I’m the one being punished years later. I swear if I am ever a big admin, one of the first things I’ll do is address bullying.  

A noble thought but also a monumental task. Organzations in all areas or education and business claim to have Zero tolerance policies for bullying, but when push comes to shove most don't do anything. The best defence against bullying is to develope a really thick skin and practiced sacrastic wit. 

Don't get me wrong bullying should never happen in the first place but when it seems that you are being bullied by just abour everyone on a unit or in a facility the claims lack credibility and the job of the person complaining to prove whats happening. While I have rearly been bullied at work I do kep a journal of things that happen at work (Excluding HIPAA) so I remember exactly what occured.

In order to prove bullying you have to show a systemic pattern of abuse that continues even after you have asked the person to stop or brought it up to management. One has to remeber that just because someone said something mean to you doesn't mean you were bullied. 

Back to the subject of the thread - It does appear that you are on a no rehire list most likely for nothing more serious that quitting without appropriate notice. Actions like this put the facility in a bind especially when one quits after completing orientation.

I myself am on a no rehire list with a hospital system that I work for over 20 years ago. They also will not allow me to do any kind of clinical hours at any of their facilities. Still they were a pretty crappy employer and I would not want to work for them again. My employment choices are limited but I do love where a work right now. I just wish the money was better.

Hppy

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