Being insulted, want to fight back! Help!!

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Specializes in Geriatrics, Pediatrics, Home Health.

Ordinarily, I am an easygoing, laid back type person. However, there are two women, mother and daughter, that I am ready to KILL!! :angryfire :angryfire :angryfire

About 2 weeks ago, I caught a cold from my kiddos. I was coughing in class, as you might expect. I didn't have a fever.

I tape every lecture, so I KNOW how I sounded on the tape. I got choked on spit and of course, couldn't breathe. I was absolutely embarrassed. :imbar Then for the Renal test last Monday, I had another coughing fit. Tears rolled out of my eyes.

Friday, the daughter brought in a basket of cough drops. Set them on the table right in front of me!! :angryfire :angryfire She said that they were for anyone who wanted them, whether we needed them or not. Then she said "Please take them, the coughing is getting really annoying."

Everyone in the room KNEW she was talking about me. I chose to ignore her. I did NOT take any of the cough drops because I didn't need them.

Today, the girl who sits behind me was coughing, so the mother got up and handed her 3 cough drops. Then she turned back around and tried to hand me some. I handed them right back and said I didn't need them. She asked me to PROMISE that I wouldn't cough while we were taking the test!! :angryfire :angryfire :angryfire Of course I told her that I wasn't going to promise anything, but that I didn't want the cough drops.

Needless to say, I was upset. I took the Cardiac test and got 39/59 which is a 78%. We need an 80% to pass the course. I am so tired of this woman!

2 weeks ago, in clinical, she did the accu check on my patient. No big deal, I had done one, she hadn't. I went to meet the others in our group in the cafeteria, and teasingly said that she did my accu check. Her daughter was sitting there. I didn't think anything about it. It didn't upset me. In fact, I completely forgot about it. I had so many other things to do, she didn't cross my mind. The next day, she came over and sat in the chair next to mine in lecture. She told me that "She had gotten her feelings hurt, by what I had said." I had no clue what she was talking about.

I apologized to her, all the time thinking "OMG you are 47 yrs old, GROW UP!!"" :angryfire :angryfire I have tried everything I can think of to get along with these two. I am at my wit's end. I have BOTH of them in lecture AND clinical, 4 days aweek!! I keep telling myself 3 more weeks and I won't have to deal with them ever again.

I CAN'T wait until Thanksgiving. I need a break from them. OH yeah, I forgot to mention, she got the job I applied for. A tutor for the freshman nurses. I REFUSE to go in there and ask her for help!!

Thanks for letting me vent!!

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They're only going to be as much of a problem for you as you allow them to be.

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I'm sure they get extreme pleasure out of upsetting you. Don't let them get to you- just chant "This too shall pass." You will be rid of them eventually, they are stuck with each other for life. :chuckle :uhoh3:

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Hmmm. hard to ignore them I'm sure. I had one of those but a tag team? Ouch. BTW...why didn't you take the cough drops when you were coughing so bad that it was choking and embarassing you? :confused:

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Specializes in Home Health Care,LTC.

Good Luck

Angelia

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is it just me or do people need to learn how to deal with distractions better? We have a girl who wants everyone to sit in their seats after test-taking until everyone is done with the test. No handing the test in and leaving, no quietly going to the bathroom because it is "disruptive" to her. Now mind you no one is talking, no one is slamming doors, the floor is carpeted. I feel like saying how are you going to work when you need absolute and total silence to get anything done? just my rant for the week...

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Specializes in NICU.
is it just me or do people need to learn how to deal with distractions better? We have a girl who wants everyone to sit in their seats after test-taking until everyone is done with the test. No handing the test in and leaving, no quietly going to the bathroom because it is "disruptive" to her. Now mind you no one is talking, no one is slamming doors, the floor is carpeted. I feel like saying how are you going to work when you need absolute and total silence to get anything done? just my rant for the week...

In that case, SHE is the problem. She is the one that is having the problem with distraction. She needs to be removed from the testing room. One of my friends gets really easily distracted and irritated by every little noise while taking a test .... so she goes to a separate room and takes the test all by herself. I see nothing wrong with that, and the professors accommodate her by providing her the ability to take the test alone.

That is absolutely ridiculous for that student to force everyone to wait until after everyone is done taking their tests to get up and leave, to not go to the bathroom, etc. I would complain or do something, because that's just ridiculous! She should have the option to test separately if she's that easily distracted.

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Specializes in critical care; community health; psych.

It doesn't look like you and she are going to agree on much of anything and she will continue to be a thorn in your side until you learn to let it roll. There is a student I have clinical with who totally rubbed me the wrong way. One day I publicly snapped at her. It led to a talk and now we're ok.

I too am curious though about why you did not take the cough drops. Honestly, I might do the same thing she did. We often do things like that in my class. No one takes offense that I know of.

The beauty of all this is, nursing school will one day end.

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Specializes in Geriatrics, Pediatrics, Home Health.
Hmmm. hard to ignore them I'm sure. I had one of those but a tag team? Ouch. BTW...why didn't you take the cough drops when you were coughing so bad that it was choking and embarassing you? :confused:

The coughing took place TWO weeks ago!! On the 5th [Friday] is when I got choked. Monday the 8th is when we had the renal test.

Friday the 12, is when she brought in the cough drops. I wasn't coughing. The irony is, the instuctor was coughing worse thn I was. She didn't take any either.

Yesterday Monday the 15th, is when she tried to shove them into my hand. Of course the instructor wasn't in the room, when she tried this.

The part that really aggravates me is, I have tried every way I know how, to get along with her. She can be really nice and funny. She got 100% on the renal test and broke a school record doing it. NO ONE in the HISTORY of the Nursing program has made a 100% on that test!!

She can be extremely crude and tells stories about herself that are inappropriate for a school classroom. This isn't the first time I have had her in my classes. I had her in Prealgebra, Chemistry [both classes] and Microbiology this past summer.

I decided at the beginning of the semester that I was going to get along with her because, I couldn't take being angry all the time. My kiddos are watching me and I am trying to teach them how to get along with anyone. Of course, I may have to bust her in the mouth to do it. :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Thanks again for letting me vent, I feel so much better!!

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Why would you give such pathetic individuals free rent in your head worrying about what they say or think? So not worth it.

They say ignorance is bliss- imagine how blissful ignoring them could be!!:chuckle

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They sound to me like the type of people who like to pick on others to get a reaction. Don't react. Let them deal with the problems inside their own little minds. They'll find other victims.

But I would as her for the future if they plan to do any kind of procedures on your patient to at least let you know before hand since you might need to do it for yourself.

If they're offended, oh well.

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ahhhh irritating people....love them.....

can you see them in practice?

"Mr. so-and-so, could you PLEASE STOP COUGHING?! it's really annoying when i'm trying to give you your meds. "

what a couple o' wackos! they really need a life if they went to all that trouble and expense over something as dumb as coughing!!!!

good luck! the semester is almost over, hang in there!

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