Being around alot of women....Pros and Cons

lsk40 · Aug 6, 2010

What is wrong with you people working with all women is the same as working with all men and I have done both to think that all women do is worry about looks, fight over guys, and talk about each other is wrong I think that some of you have college mixed up with high school and by the way guys talk about each other too

happy2learn · Aug 6, 2010

The most dramatic person in my nurse aide class was the dude. He was the only dude and he was like 35 years old.

I worked with all women when I helped open a craft store. It wasn't too bad. There was one lady who was a drama maker. She was also like 67 years old. She made this woman who was like 45 years old cry. I couldn't believe it. The little older lady that I thought seemed so sweet was as harsh and nasty as a sorority girl putting someone through hazing.

Just find the non-dramatic group of people. Those are the people I stick with. There are usually some in every class. The entire class won't be full of drama queens, I wouldn't think.

cmonkey · Aug 8, 2010

There will be more dudes than you think. It isn't a complete calm fest. Its more like a jambalaya (heavy on the calms though).

I'm sorry, did you just intend to call a class of women a "clam fest"?

JonB04 · Aug 8, 2010

I'm sorry, did you just intend to call a class of women a "clam fest"?

I thibk he said calm

cmonkey · Aug 8, 2010

Yeah, but last time I checked "calm" doesn't go into jambalaya.

bonn_bai · Aug 8, 2010

haha, i was wondering if he meant clam too or if "calm" was some new slang or somethin' :)

JonB04 · Aug 8, 2010

i guess we wont know until he returns to the forums

GtownhoyasDC · Aug 8, 2010

What is wrong with you people working with all women is the same as working with all men and I have done both to think that all women do is worry about looks, fight over guys, and talk about each other is wrong I think that some of you have college mixed up with high school and by the way guys talk about each other too

Of course guys do. But the reception that I've heard from other nurses, whether family & friends, or posts & people I've came across have the perception that that's more likely to happen in a class with females. I'm not saying guys don't talk about each other, either, but I've had all male classes and was the only dude in a female class before, and I don't think it's on the same level as it is with dudes like it is with the ladies. But I do agree with what you're saying, I don't think it's all the same, but I just want to get a other's peoples perspectives from this site. Sounds like like you're offended, and I apologize if I have...

Brighten · Aug 8, 2010

Yes I meant clams - obviously I can't spell.

LocoStrange · Aug 8, 2010

Like I tell every male who is starting / will start / currently in nursing school... and ladies, please know that I am only joking...

Pro...

When I think of one, I will let you know

Con...

At any given time, 25% of them are PMS-ing so proceed with caution.

Streamline2010 · Aug 8, 2010

Another one here...working with other women tends to suck big time. I've thought about that quite a lot - why would I do this to myself?! But in the end I'm hoping that nursing is a job I can just "do", without needing to heavily interact with people who tend to create drama. I know I'll interact with other female nurses, but I'm hoping there's enough work to be done that I can excuse myself from the gossip and the cattiness. Women have control and insecurity issues, and they tend to take every little thing personally. A guy - you can say something straight up to a guy and he won't take it personally. Oh, and another thing - women don't understand that you leave your personal life at home when you go to work! Not only do you hear way too much about women's home lives, but you constantly have to be careful what you say and do around certain women because they are quick to turn on you.
Good luck!

I don't know about working with predominantly women. So, you may or may not be correct. But I have worked as the minority female in an otherwise all-male workplace. Men can and do bring their personal lives to work. As "one of the guys," and you know you're well-regarded if they let their guard down around you, I heard just as much about family issues, problems with children, personal victories and defeats, health issues, and what was going on or not going on in many marriages. If anything, I'd say that the difference between listening to a bunch of women talk it vs. a bunch of men, is that the men were generally approaching it from a problem-solving aspect, and not continually venting and whining. And yes, I have heard men gossip about and make fun of other men. But men usually don't dwell on things as long as women do. Say it; move on; it's over; back to work. Oh, and if someone insults you, you just toss back a better insult at him with a grin, and life goes on. There is no need to fight all of the time. A carping man gets just as little support from his co-workers as a carping woman would, too. When you're at work, work.

Maybe the difference is how much power and control do you perceive that you have over your circumstances. I meet a lot of women who seem to always be approaching life from the viewpoint that they are continually oppressed and have no power, that they must always please and be "nice" and be liked, that they must oversee or do everything themselves so that it gets done right. Then they are resentful and anxiety-ridden and manipulating, instead of "acting like an owner." Most of the time, it's the constraints and demands that the woman has placed on herself, not anything that others are doing to her. Women are awesome at making martyrs of themselves and then crying when nobody appreciates it, lol.

And you male nursing students, if I were you, I'd do my dating elsewhere. If you are under 30, there are lots of single women out there who are not in your nursing class. I see a many of you young guys who want a girlfriend but have no intention of marrying or settling down. Definitely take those kinds of requests down the road. Most females, including instructors, do not think highly of players. Use someone in your class as a temporary fix, and you may find your academic success taking a nosedive, in spite of your best efforts. ;-)

hiddencatRN, BSN, RN · Aug 8, 2010

Well, I won't be in nursing school for another few semesters, but at times I can't wait being a male being around alot of women, especially considering that i'm only 19...there are other times where I personally feel that it might be bad at times being the only male in the classes, especially with hearing women's issues most of the time..So I would like to get a perspective of working with females from well..., females. The Good and the Bad. But the fellas are welcome to reply back too. I just want to get an idea on what i'm gonna have to deal with in the classes once i'm officially in nursing school...

The teachers at my school seem to ADORE the male students. We have a few charmers, and I know in our gero clinicals the older female patients seem to dote on the guys.

The guys did have some trouble in maternity- I guess not dealing with menstruation on a personal level for several years makes it a little more challenging to learn. None of the guys seemed really squeamish about it, and I know that a *couple* of guys had a hard time finding birthing women who were willing to be cared for my a male student.

Clam fest? OMG.

Maybe it's the company I tend to keep, but there's not a lot of girly talk in my program. I think at worst there was some engagement ring admiring when one of our classmates got engaged.

Pros: If you're in to dating classmates, you have good odds. Play your cards right and you just might graduate with a MRS in addition to an RN!