Being around alot of women....Pros and Cons

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Well, I won't be in nursing school for another few semesters, but at times I can't wait being a male being around alot of women, especially considering that i'm only 19...there are other times where I personally feel that it might be bad at times being the only male in the classes, especially with hearing women's issues most of the time..So I would like to get a perspective of working with females from well..., females. The Good and the Bad. But the fellas are welcome to reply back too. I just want to get an idea on what i'm gonna have to deal with in the classes once i'm officially in nursing school...:confused:

I'm starting to have second thought about posting about this subject for a thread. My intentions were definitely not to have an outbreak about this...:confused:

But, like I've said in a earlier post. If there is drama, I aim to steer clear of it. I'm looking for friendships in nursing school before relationships anyways. Not to say I wouldn't welcome a relationship. I don't have intentions of playing the field with nursing school, and yet again, I'm sorry if I was implying anything towards that.

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As for the man who posted that he he even calls the women over 50 girls -- how sad for you.

Even sadder for you apparently.

I've never used "girls" demeaning term. "Guys" and "boys" is also used, even though we are adults and no one seems to get their undies in a bunch over it. The males in my nursing school class are not only called "men" or "male" and we definitely are not sad about it.

The "calms" controversy is actually a bit hilarious. By the way, the first person I ever heard use the phrase, "Jam out with your calm out" was a female nursing school classmate. I actually can't wait to tell her about this.

All that being said, the jambalaya comment was crude, but the subsequent drama over it is priceless.

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I just have to thank you all for giving me some laughs.

Some of these comments have been cracking me up.

I'm not offended by the clam comment. I don't think it's derogatory either. I have more important things in life to worry about than a clam fest and sausage fest.

Men, don't forget that when women spend a lot of time together their cycles may sync up.;)

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I just have to thank you all for giving me some laughs.

Some of these comments have been cracking me up.

I'm not offended by the clam comment. I don't think it's derogatory either. I have more important things in life to worry about than a clam fest and sausage fest.

Men, don't forget that when women spend a lot of time together their cycles may sync up.;)

And that is why the smart ones lay low at the first sign of danger. It is an evolutionary habit that has evolved over the years.

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its what we hipsters refer to it. google it. No better yet urban dictionary it. Your head might explode after you look at all the other crazy words people use today. It was an obvious play on the phrase "sausage fest" (which is my inside joke to the OP cuz hes a dude) but I guess some people can't take a joke.

The fact that you're calling *yourself* a hipster makes me lol. Hipsters would NEVER refer to themselves as hipsters. They are too cool to be defined.

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The Reason I did go in:

I kinda felt like I was wanting to go into nursing, but didn't bother looking at it because I was a male at first. I had a few friends that were becoming EMTs and going to school to become Nurses as soon as they left high school. I thought about it, and really didn't give it much thought. I went in as a Pre-Business major, but not soon afterwards decided that wasn't for me. I switched to nursing, and I want to help others, and I definitely don't want to sit behind a desk all day. I was thinking I'd specialize in ER, or somewhere where I'd be in some action. I'm really not the horny youngster that ya'll thought I was...;)

Based on this... I am going to assume that the only hospital experience you have is what you see on Greys Anatomy, ER, Nurse Jackie, House etc....

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I actually try to steer clear of those shows, don't want a hollywood perception of a what nurse does....

I've seen on certain posts on allnurses that men generally go into more testerone like fields such as ER, ICU, etc.

Is that true?

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Yea, males tend to steer towards ER, ICU, CCU but in my experiences, its usually spread out evenly.

I just dont want you to go into ER thinking its going to be exciting because its really not as exciting as people perceive it to be.

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I graduated with a B.S. degree in computer engineering. I was the only girl in any of my computer engineering classes and maybe 1 of 2 or 3 in my electrical engineering tech electives. Yeah, I was teased and made fun of (in a friendly way) daily. Girls are not the only ones who are catty or gossip spreaders. I had to ignore rumours about myself that were started by my male classmates.

Am I nervous to go into nursing where I know I will be surrounded by females? Not really. Naive and immature people scare me a lot more than one gender or the other. I am doing the Accelerated BSN program so hopefully there will be others there that are mature enough to not get involved in drama.

I think your nursing school experiences will depend on the experience of your classmates. For example, I lived with sophomores (females) my 5th year of college. I had lived on my own before and was never one to be involved in drama. The one sophomore that I lived with was always mixed up with some sort of social crisis or another. It was clear that her parents catered to her every whim and she had never had any responsibility which carried over to her social interactions at college. The other girl was 4 years my junior and just as capable of living away from her family as I was. Everyone is different and you can't group all females together or all males together.

My advice to the OP:

Stay away from the drama and NEVER contribute to it. There will be people that are all about drama, just try to stay away. If you have to work with them then just be polite and stay professional. You're there to learn and become the best nurse that you can be (and if you're in it for anything other than that, you should pause and think about your decision). Good luck.

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17 years ago I was on of 4 males in a class of 30. We did ok, the teachers expect more to make us "prove" we deserve being there.

After 15 years in ICU still 90% female coworkers, not complaining, this is the BEST job of my life. Many of those in the profession I left (industrial electrician) are out of work now.

Don't date anyone who might ever know someone you work with. Didn't do, but have seen a few failures. Everyone at your facility will know. There are NO secrets.

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Let me offer some real world advice- if you consider yourself in school to work and learn and graduate, then pass Nclex, then do yourself a HUGE favor and be friendly w/ the girls but don't expect much support from them. Maybe you can find 1 or 2 who are very serious student, but the majority will be text messaging and Facebooking thru the class, then gossiping about their miserable boyfriends afterwards. They're very insular and will really only share w/ other girls, and they're like that in the workplace too, so be smart and stick w/ the winners.

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I was the only male in my RN-BSN class of 40; scared me to death at first. But most of my classmates were quite respectful, and I in turn. And usually I am the only male on my shift (although, of course, there are plenty scattered throughout the hospital), although each shift has at least one male and every once in a while there are two. But it is of no consequence. If you approach nursing with the code of ethics in mind and make it a daily self-requirement to treat all other nurses (everyone around you, actually) with respect, then all will go well. You will have your life on your nursing shift, and when you say goodbye at the end of shift and go through the front doors you will have your home life, and neither will mix. I was older, married when in nursing school so the beer and nachos weren't tempting. In nursing school allow yourself ONE night and day off from school/work if possible, and you can use that day to relax/party if you wish. But I'd start by treating your classmates as coworkers and keep the ethics-respect attitude in mind at all times (for one thing you probably will see at least several on the at the local hospital after graduation). And as a male you will quite useful for lifting help. And you will be a sevant to your fellow mankind. Mother Theresa with a mustache, so to speak. Doing a good work and something very useful and lasting.

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