Being around alot of women....Pros and Cons

GtownhoyasDC · Aug 13, 2010

I don't know how much advice you are REALLY willing to take but if you have any interest in dating a nurse, don't even consider becoming one. NEVER, NEVER get your paycheck and your dates from the same place. Not only will you be the focus of a great deal of gossip (never comfortable because it's never good) but you will automatically be considered unprofessional. As a manager, I've seen this many times (dating coworkers) but I've never seen it work out well, not once. Occasionally the relationship works out but the problems created in the workplace with other staff usually results in one or both being asked to leave. Decide early on, what are you looking for, a career or a social life? In school, either study alone, with members of the same sex, or as a group in a public place. Never one male/one woman or even mixed groups in private. In the workplace, never socialize with the opposite sex co-workers except in public and in groups. If you marry, date, or even just talk socially, YOU WILL PAY a price. Keep your work professional and keep discussion of your personal life to a minimum. Be friendly but don't try to be sexy. The difficult thing to handle will be when coworkers want to be more than coworkers. The professional will back out before it starts. If you do want to become involved, plan on changing jobs. It will be expected of you. Oh, and NEVER EVER date a patient. Not only will you lose your job, you may lose your license.

I'll try to keep your suggestions in thought, but I'm wondering....

What would be the matter with studying w/members of the opposite sex? Even talking socially could even get me in trouble....I wouldn't mind making friends. I mean, I'm pretty sure I'll run into the same people throughout my time in nursing school. I see what you're saying, but I don't want to be in my own little world either. From what I've heard from advisors and other members on allnurses, is that you're truthfully not gonna have time for a social life once you get in NS. I hope that's not the case, but if it is, I do wanna have some form of a relationship with my classes, more than likely just friends. I just wanna have a group of folks that I handle my school business with, that's my main train of thought. I HATE studying alone...

GtownhoyasDC · Aug 13, 2010

If your a young man going into Nursing, my best advise would be find older men in nursing who have long standing careers and ask them, "what are the do's and don'ts?" Ask quite a few and you'll get some fairly consistent responses. Most of us have learned the hard way or by watching others learn the hard way. One mistake your making allready is asking "women" for an opinion. Yes there are gender differences yet it's time to see "women" as people and you will truly find there ain't that much difference. With all co-workers, regardless of age or gender your prime goal is respect and that don't come easy. With some though your not getting it no matter what you do.
True. I don't think I would ever ask a group of females in nursing this in person. Not that I'm shy or anything like that, I don't know if I'd be so fond of some of the responses that I would get back directly in my face. I feel kinda safer asking through the internet.
Also, I definitely see women as people, but I'm not expecting it to be anything like working with a bunch of fellas, either. I just thought asking others of opinions on here would be a good idea.
Thanks, though. Seriously...