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I am trying to get a perspective on how to deal with situations like this in the future. I was working with a preceptor who just had it in for me. I don't know what it was that she didn't like about me but she treated me horribly and constantly tried to make snide remarks to me. She talked down to me and needless to say we didn't work together for long. I found out that behind my back she was writing all sorts of notes on me on just plain old notebook paper. Not the preceptor evaluation sheets- notebook paper, about just random things she didn't like about me in such a format as "RN did ...." And they were small random situations that had nothing to do with nursing. She twisted these things around to try to make me look really bad. I found it very strange and she gave this to management without even telling me. Why are there nurses out there like this? What can I do next time in this situation to alleviate myself in the most professional way?
When I first started as a nurse my preceptor was horrible to me too. I kept quiet and did my job and eventually she quit and then got fired at her next job. 15 years later I was bullied at a doctor's office. In spite of how traumatizing it was to me I kept my head up and the bullies were exposed. I did end of quitting because of that and the fact that the physicians were into psychological games. But I never let them see how upset I was and got satisfaction knowing that what comes around does eventually go around.
When I first started as a nurse my preceptor was horrible to me too. I kept quiet and did my job and eventually she quit and then got fired at her next job. 15 years later I was bullied at a doctor's office. In spite of how traumatizing it was to me I kept my head up and the bullies were exposed. I did end of quitting because of that and the fact that the physicians were into psychological games. But I never let them see how upset I was and got satisfaction knowing that what comes around does eventually go around.
:nurse:you see! it's not really new to anyone...it can happen to anybody..in fact it did happen to me also...there are really staff, who seems to be happy when they saw people especially new nurses, who seems to be so down and hurt w/ their own predicaments in life...it's not easy, to be new in a certain hospital settings...but, i always pray before i go to my work...i pray for my patients, my co-workers...to give me the presence of mind...to be very careful...was able to survive...and it make me more stronger and equipt...wiser if do made some mistakes...for i always have in my mind...you can never put a good man down...
What might work is if you get yourself one of those pocket notebooks. Fill it out whenever near her & start to write the time and what she is doing, advise she gave to questions, who she talks with, etc. Of course, don't let her see what you write-just make sure she sees you writing and knows it is about her. If needed, use your notes on her to counteract hers on you. If she is spending so much time writing, I bet she isn't doing her real job! My bet is that she will become totally paranoid and think that management has you checking up on her. That may put a stop to this nonsense.
ITA, sometimes the documentation thing works. If nothing else, it serves as a safety net for you. I have started keeping a journal/log of my shifts because there are 2 or 3 people at my job like this. My boss so far as been pretty good to me and I think she knows that I'm being bullied to an extent. What worries me is the possibility that these people may up the ante and get really nasty.
I like this job and have been doing pretty well according to her, so I don't want to quit.
there is something a new nurse that brings out the worse is some people, when i got my first nursing job there was a cliche that the rest of the floor called the B_____ bunchthey made my life miserable
i ran into one at the mall a few years later and she threww her arms around me and asked what was going on with me etc etc
but there is a truth, not everyone is like this, most people see a new hire as a helping hand and they are willing to help out to get you acclimated to the floor
remember these
NuHappyRN
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Thank you all so much for your feedback and advice. I apprecaite it and I think I will know now to move on as soon as this behavior ever happens again. Thanks.