backstabbed at work

I find it even worse that mgmt told you about it---meaning they believed her!!! They should have just dismissed that and educated her on the role of preceptor.

I dont have any advice on how to deal with crazy people---if I knew that I would put it in a book and make a million...my only thought is go in and do your job to the best of your ability, document everything in detail. Offer to help others when you have time and be a good team player.

In other words be the best that you can be and hopefully raise the bar higher and hopefully others will follow your suit.

As far as what to say to mgmt about the notebook paper notes she turned in, I would just say something along the lines of "yes Suzy and I didnt see eye to eye on certain things but I didnt think it was necessary to involve mgmt---"

Best of luck----with back stabbing like that--good thing you work in a hospital~~~hahaha I had to throw that in as that was the 1st thing that popped in my head when I saw the title of your post.

She did it, because she's a tattletale and alot of management people like tattletales......that doesn't make what she said about you true....they just like to do this sort of stuff and management people sometimes like it.

If it were me, knowing what I know TODAY, and having had experience with this the past 28 years, I would leave if I were in your shoes. I would not stay there. You will always be in hot water, you'll never win. That nurse, has already got you off on the wrong foot with your NM and it will never end.

Of course, this is just my opinion, as I don't know all the details of your situation, but this is not good for this to be happening at the very beginning.

To not even give a new nurse some kind of encouragement and try to help them start off in a good light, is just beyond me.

I guess people like your preceptor would rather work short handed, as this kind of activity runs off nurses.

"Let your enemies in your fight bring out the best in you".

"Let your enemies in your fight bring out the God in you."

Consider your foes nothing more than "confused friends."

quoted from an 18 r. old presidential nominee supporter.

Only the best get bullied.....

only the best get bullied.....

:rolleyes: and indeed i believe that!!, birds of a feather flock together, the bullies never bully eachother they bully the ones who stand out above the rest and have great potential! what can i say there are downright even people out there, they dont have to know you personally and you dont have to know them personally for them to hate you! i actually feel sorry for the people that dont like me for no reason at all! it only highlights their insecurities, my heart truly goes out to them because they look so foolish and cant even realize it, sad, honestly!! dont worry about those people! why do people alwayz forget that what goes around comes around! i've seen people like that get the favor returned to them. karma is real!!:stone

She did it, because she's a tattletale and alot of management people like tattletales......that doesn't make what she said about you true....they just like to do this sort of stuff and management people sometimes like it.

If it were me, knowing what I know TODAY, and having had experience with this the past 28 years, I would leave if I were in your shoes. I would not stay there. You will always be in hot water, you'll never win. That nurse, has already got you off on the wrong foot with your NM and it will never end.

Of course, this is just my opinion, as I don't know all the details of your situation, but this is not good for this to be happening at the very beginning.

To not even give a new nurse some kind of encouragement and try to help them start off in a good light, is just beyond me.

I guess people like your preceptor would rather work short handed, as this kind of activity runs off nurses.

I am totally agree, this is how I started out my nursing career, with the whole unit running to manager to update her on what I did or did not do. I was telling myself I have to be stronger and prove myself to them, and then they will "let me in"...what a naive fool I was, ended up leaving anyway, but suffered a major blow to my confidence. Now I know to run as fast as you can, this situation will only get worse.

Sorry.

NuHappyRN,

I am sorry you find yourself the victim of this type of smear campaign. I have seen this happen many times, have been the victim once or twice myself, so I can only tell you to leave this job before real damage is done to you, your license, and your career. This is a toxic work environment, promoted and supported by management of all levels. It will not get better . Changing preceptors or units will not change what this nurse has set into motion. No matter the circumstance you will be looked at by management as a "risk". Save yourself a lot of trouble, stress, and turmoil, get a new job.

I am so sorry you have experienced this. I went through the same thing. I have to agree with the advice from barefootlady. You should start looking for another position. I wish someone had given me the same advice. I stayed and endured it shift after shift. It does not get better. In my situation, management played the game with my preceptor. The only way to win in a situation like that is to get out.

I am soooo sorry you had to deal with that! I don't know what to tell you except hang in there!

I am totally agree, this is how I started out my nursing career, with the whole unit running to manager to update her on what I did or did not do. I was telling myself I have to be stronger and prove myself to them, and then they will "let me in"...what a naive fool I was, ended up leaving anyway, but suffered a major blow to my confidence. Now I know to run as fast as you can, this situation will only get worse.

Sorry.

That is exactly what I went through. By the time the bullies were done with me I had lost my position, my self confidence and my reputation was seriously damaged. I had to stay with the organization while I completed nursing school but I am hitting the door ASAP. I won't work for this organization as a nurse because these evil twins would go after my "new" license to prove that they were right.

Bullies are truly evil. :angryfire

PS I do believe that karma will catch up to them in spades....

So sorry you had to endure all this, i find it ironc in our "caring" profession nurses tend to snipe and bully the worst. Before Nursing I worked with all guys in a male oriented field.. Was so looking forward to being with women.. Now I know we really are not the gentle sex..

I feel for you with your experience.

Unfortunately, I have been to enough units and facilities to learn this is the way it is and why there is so much dissatisfaction.

I have noticed that management relies on negative tattletales to control their unit. It is all about making sure they have brown-nosing followers because my guess is that they are very insecure of their own positions and need to get rid of anyone that is not in their fan club. The brown-nosers know how to play the game.

I haven't figured out all the tricks myself. I think I have and play the game and then it never fails that I find myself experiencing the same things - altered facts, twisted facts, exaggerated facts and lies. Who ever tells the story is telling the truth to the manager. I would like to believe that a good manager would force tattletales to get professional help because it reminds me of schoolgirl behavior. Obviously those managers need professional help because they NEED those people to survive.

What I have learned is to get away from those settings fast from now on. I won't stay under sick management again. I have good skills and something to offer and refuse to offer it to a floor where the people that run it all need psychological help. No more. If that is even possible.

I don't have time to read all of this but I will be because I would like to see what everyone says.

I also know that I am done with bedside nursing. I will NEVER allow myself to be beat down by that environment again. After taking a month off to try to heal I know that I am going to sift throught the haystack to find the needles to get a job away from bedside. I will question managers on interviews about how they handle their staff with support. Chances are if they have a problem they won't hire me after that and that will save me from wasting my time.

I am putting a lot of things together as of this weekend. I have been a mess and a wreck for a month. I pray that I can keep my head on straight because this last month has been hard. I'm glad I didn't work even though bill collectors are calling. I'm grateful for any day that I can focus and not feel the way I have for the last month.

It is probably not you. It is this field. With my previous experience, I would recommend to get away from them fast because you will always be under the gun. I have no idea if that is appropriate to tell you. As far as I am concerned - I believe it is.